Anonymous wrote:Seems like your anger is a little misplaced here. It was an accident.

Yup. Wow op.

No, my DH has been the primary breadwinner - for what that is worth. He is a Fed and equivalent to GS-14 so we struggle! He earns almost twice as much as me, despite my having the better education, and has not allowed me to pursue my career dreams. Between the two of us our HHI is about $180K. Why would I have to pay him alimony and child support? He is not going to get my DD.

Oh hells yes he will. You are ridiculous, entitled, and just terrible. You made the decision not to pursue your dreams. You made the decision to not continue your education before having children. Everything that is wrong in your life is the result of your choices and no one -- not even your husband -- is responsible.

Honestly, you won't realize this until you are living in a studio alone, without your kid because your daughter will be long gone at college or living with her father as an adult. You won't have anyone else to blame or fight with. And you will, if you are lucky as hell, finally face your demons. Yourself.

Why would I have to pay him alimony and child support? He is not going to get my DD.

Your DD is old enough to choose, and I have a brokerage account FULL of money to bet that she doesn't choose you.

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Anonymous wrote:This is from the same troll who claims to be a DH with a horrible DW and a 16 year old daughter. Has to be. HAS TO.

I thought it was the woman escorted out by security.

They are probably the same!

Hmm. Totally possible. Maybe this was the "financial issue" that needed to be discussed...

Actually, I think it's the sociology student that frequently makes things up just to see what kind of reactions and responses she'll get. That's why it seems a little surreal because it's made-up story. Each time she replies, she's trying to stir the pot to get some more "research".

OP, I feel for you! A year ago my H who is from Europe finally decided to learn to drive (because I wasn't cheerful enough when having to drive him around). He bought a $5k jalopy and of course it never occurred to me to get collision coverage.
This idiot decided to go for a 10 hour road trip about a month after he got his DL. He also was too cheap to take proper lessons, and barely passed the test.
Just like your H, he hit a tree on the way back, about 4 hours away. We are still paying some medical bills (luckily most was covered by his insurance and his company covered some), 5k went down the drain, he got a new car we could not really afford and he rear ended someone very soon after, so our insurance rates are now triple what we used to pay for my car, a very modest Toyota.
And this jerk used to tell me how much I spend on driving school and how much I spent on the car.
So oh yes I feel ya!!!

Anonymous wrote:Are you the primary income earner? Have you been the primary income earner for your marriage?

If not, you need to have a seat. And apologize to your husband. And thank his ass for supporting your ungrateful self.

If you are the primary earner, I hope you budget for alimony and child support. Because you are going to be paying once you divorce your husband. Considering what you wrote, I imagine he will end up with custody.

No, my DH has been the primary breadwinner - for what that is worth. He is a Fed and equivalent to GS-14 so we struggle! He earns almost twice as much as me, despite my having the better education, and has not allowed me to pursue my career dreams. Between the two of us our HHI is about $180K. Why would I have to pay him alimony and child support? He is not going to get my DD.

Are you the primary income earner? Have you been the primary income earner for your marriage?

If not, you need to have a seat. And apologize to your husband. And thank his ass for supporting your ungrateful self.

If you are the primary earner, I hope you budget for alimony and child support. Because you are going to be paying once you divorce your husband. Considering what you wrote, I imagine he will end up with custody.

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Anonymous wrote:This is from the same troll who claims to be a DH with a horrible DW and a 16 year old daughter. Has to be. HAS TO.

I thought it was the woman escorted out by security.

They are probably the same!

Hmm. Totally possible. Maybe this was the "financial issue" that needed to be discussed...

Anonymous wrote:If he goes out and buys another car, I swear I am going to divorce him.

You sound terrible! It was an accident. Even if you had collision, you'd have a deductible and your rates would go up. You'd still be pissed. Your DH should divorce you.
I'm sure that you were steaming mad in front of your daughter. Not exactly a good example to set.

w mail is the left side of r mail....e-mail is for centrists.

Not an e-mail, a w-mail. Whatever that is.

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Anonymous wrote:I even sent an w-mail to his mother telling her that she needs to knock some common sense into her son's head and hire a professional instructor. Do you know what she told me back? I should have some compassion for him. What a b*tch!

Ah, troll, you've overplayed your hand now.

+1 gimme a break

Anonymous wrote:My DH is teaching our teen DD to drive. He took her out today to practice and calls me a few hours later to say they were in an accident. My DD hit a tree, totaled DH's car. She was only going 10 - 15 mph. I came and picked her up and left DH to deal with police, insurance and towing. He came home later on his own. Now he says the car is totaled and we will need a new one. It did not have collision coverage b/c the idiot said the car was not worth paying for it. So, we are now down to one car - mine - and DH wants a new one. He can go f**k himself. He is always f**king sh*t up. After he came home, he says he needs to go to the doctor b/c his chest hurts. Everything is closed now, so he says he will just go to his doctor tomorrow morning. I told him to get a professional driving school, but he was too f**king cheap. I just want a divorce.

You sound like a real catch. Just another reason to never get married.

A divorce...??!

Yikes!! Aren't you relieved that your hubby is okay? That your daughter is as well? The car can be replaced, thank goodness for that. Imagine had something happened to either of them.

Like the PP stated, there is obviously something fundamentally wrong here that goes above and beyond the car. I think you best address it NOW.

Don't worry about the car. The car is totally irrelevant now. What needs to be addressed is your marriage. That is what is in worse shape than your husband's vehicle.

Op, you sound crazy as hell. I feel for your DH and your child. You sound like a total loon. I would recommend therapy, anger management, and some xanax.