Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll be in this position in a few months, DD's party location has a max # of 20 (there are 15 in DD's class but she has friends in other classes). I'm planning on inviting the children in her room first, then expanding to her friends in other rooms. I also plan on making it very clear on the invite that there is a limit for the party and if they don't RSVP by the date I can't guarantee a spot. Of course I'll also tell them to let me know if they need more time, I understand due to our area people may have plans with out of town and family and what not. I'm a reasonable person, if you communicate.

The previous parent who didn't respond was absolutely in the wrong. She didn't communicate. In this instance unless I see the wording on the invite it could go either way.

OMG, this is going too far. Like I said on a previous email, evites can go astray or into spam. Before you dis-invite children, please contact the parent by an alternate method such as email or phone. Don't assume they will get the invitation before you uninvite them.

Well then no harm. If they never saw the evite they never know they were uninvited. No big deal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll be in this position in a few months, DD's party location has a max # of 20 (there are 15 in DD's class but she has friends in other classes). I'm planning on inviting the children in her room first, then expanding to her friends in other rooms. I also plan on making it very clear on the invite that there is a limit for the party and if they don't RSVP by the date I can't guarantee a spot. Of course I'll also tell them to let me know if they need more time, I understand due to our area people may have plans with out of town and family and what not. I'm a reasonable person, if you communicate.

The previous parent who didn't respond was absolutely in the wrong. She didn't communicate. In this instance unless I see the wording on the invite it could go either way.

OMG, this is going too far. Like I said on a previous email, evites can go astray or into spam. Before you dis-invite children, please contact the parent by an alternate method such as email or phone. Don't assume they will get the invitation before you uninvite them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll be in this position in a few months, DD's party location has a max # of 20 (there are 15 in DD's class but she has friends in other classes). I'm planning on inviting the children in her room first, then expanding to her friends in other rooms. I also plan on making it very clear on the invite that there is a limit for the party and if they don't RSVP by the date I can't guarantee a spot. Of course I'll also tell them to let me know if they need more time, I understand due to our area people may have plans with out of town and family and what not. I'm a reasonable person, if you communicate.

The previous parent who didn't respond was absolutely in the wrong. She didn't communicate. In this instance unless I see the wording on the invite it could go either way.

OMG, this is going too far. Like I said on a previous email, evites can go astray or into spam. Before you dis-invite children, please contact the parent by an alternate method such as email or phone. Don't assume they will get the invitation before you uninvite them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll be in this position in a few months, DD's party location has a max # of 20 (there are 15 in DD's class but she has friends in other classes). I'm planning on inviting the children in her room first, then expanding to her friends in other rooms. I also plan on making it very clear on the invite that there is a limit for the party and if they don't RSVP by the date I can't guarantee a spot. Of course I'll also tell them to let me know if they need more time, I understand due to our area people may have plans with out of town and family and what not. I'm a reasonable person, if you communicate.

The previous parent who didn't respond was absolutely in the wrong. She didn't communicate. In this instance unless I see the wording on the invite it could go either way.

OMG, this is going too far. Like I said on a previous email, evites can go astray or into spam. Before you dis-invite children, please contact the parent by an alternate method such as email or phone. Don't assume they will get the invitation before you uninvite them.

Anonymous wrote:I'll be in this position in a few months, DD's party location has a max # of 20 (there are 15 in DD's class but she has friends in other classes). I'm planning on inviting the children in her room first, then expanding to her friends in other rooms. I also plan on making it very clear on the invite that there is a limit for the party and if they don't RSVP by the date I can't guarantee a spot. Of course I'll also tell them to let me know if they need more time, I understand due to our area people may have plans with out of town and family and what not. I'm a reasonable person, if you communicate.

The previous parent who didn't respond was absolutely in the wrong. She didn't communicate. In this instance unless I see the wording on the invite it could go either way.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For our party, I used evite. I had a deadline. A week before, I sent a reminder via e-vite. 2 days before I had to give the venue a final headcount (they charged extra per person), I individually emailed or FB PMed those who had not responded (there were either 3 or 4 out of 11 households) and informed them that the venue had a deadline when I had to give a head count and I could not guarantee they could come if they didn't let me know. I was planning on calling the parents of those who didn't respond on the last day if they didn't respond to the email/PM but they all RSVPed by the date.

At that point, if someone ignored an evite (and all the parents apologized, said they had seen it but got busy or had to check with family, etc), ignored a email/PM and ignored a phone call, then I really don't feel the obligation to include the child. The parent will have to apologize to the child for screwing up and make it up to their child somehow.

I get it...I'm busy too, but at a certain point parents who were special snowflakes growing up have to finally take a little personal responsibility and be an adult.

This OP didn't contact them beyond evite.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For our party, I used evite. I had a deadline. A week before, I sent a reminder via e-vite. 2 days before I had to give the venue a final headcount (they charged extra per person), I individually emailed or FB PMed those who had not responded (there were either 3 or 4 out of 11 households) and informed them that the venue had a deadline when I had to give a head count and I could not guarantee they could come if they didn't let me know. I was planning on calling the parents of those who didn't respond on the last day if they didn't respond to the email/PM but they all RSVPed by the date.

At that point, if someone ignored an evite (and all the parents apologized, said they had seen it but got busy or had to check with family, etc), ignored a email/PM and ignored a phone call, then I really don't feel the obligation to include the child. The parent will have to apologize to the child for screwing up and make it up to their child somehow.

I get it...I'm busy too, but at a certain point parents who were special snowflakes growing up have to finally take a little personal responsibility and be an adult.

This OP didn't contact them beyond evite.

You did not read OP's post.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For our party, I used evite. I had a deadline. A week before, I sent a reminder via e-vite. 2 days before I had to give the venue a final headcount (they charged extra per person), I individually emailed or FB PMed those who had not responded (there were either 3 or 4 out of 11 households) and informed them that the venue had a deadline when I had to give a head count and I could not guarantee they could come if they didn't let me know. I was planning on calling the parents of those who didn't respond on the last day if they didn't respond to the email/PM but they all RSVPed by the date.

At that point, if someone ignored an evite (and all the parents apologized, said they had seen it but got busy or had to check with family, etc), ignored a email/PM and ignored a phone call, then I really don't feel the obligation to include the child. The parent will have to apologize to the child for screwing up and make it up to their child somehow.

I get it...I'm busy too, but at a certain point parents who were special snowflakes growing up have to finally take a little personal responsibility and be an adult.

This OP didn't contact them beyond evite.

Anonymous wrote:I swear there was a thread like this a few weeks ago from the other side and OP was completely attacked. Now this OP is being attacked. Can't win!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The truth is that pump it up actually had pretty big capacity- I think a party can have a max of like 30 (or more) kids. So if it's a matter of not wanting to pay for extra kids, it looks a little ungracious (even though the late RSVPer is in the wrong).

OP here - the party is not at pump it up. I do not have hts option for paying for extra guests. The location had a hard limit based on their capacity and the activity.

I think the late-responders should not have put you in this position. Let's face it: you can see when someone views an evite. They should be organized enough to check their calendar when they view it, and reply yes or no right then. If they don't so that, [b]it's likely they're waiting to see if something better materializes, or they're overly self-important and think basic etiquette doesn't apply to them.

There's no reason to leave spaces for non-responders. Next time just delete them from the evite after the RSVP deadline.[/quot

I would like to clarify that this is not always the case -- we have 4 DCs, and a lot of time I need to check with my DH's crazy work schedule and other DCs activities schedules to see if our child can attend. For some families, it is very easy to know right away if they are free to attend, others not so easy, so don't judge all families that they are "waiting for a better offer."' That is just not true and so cynical. However, I do believe that all families should RSVP by the deadline.