No need to be mean.

I blamed my DH by saying that he does not want kids for X number of years. No one said anything after that.

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Anonymous wrote:Baby birthstone gift...that's really something, OP. GL with her.

This is really terrible. I don't know- if I had the guts, in your case, I'd likely say something along the lines of "well, that's a decision that your son and I will make together. Since it's about our family [this would be my passive aggressive move to my MIL who doesn't understand there is a diff. between nuclear and extended family) we'll be th eonly decision makers"

WTF. No need to be so mean. In some cultures/families it's not such a clear line. My parents are absolutely like additional parents to my child. To say she doesn't "understand" is just ridiculous.

I said, " nope, we're not trying for a baby. But we sure are having A LOT of sex!" Shut my MIL right up.

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She has already referred to the unconceived fetus by name. Apparently it's a girl. And she has named her.

Oh, I would use this. Next time she asks or drops hints I would turn it around and say "You tell me! You seem to already have her named. So.. when am I due?"

And then shut her down flat. "I will thank you ahead of time for NOT asking again. We will let you know if and when it happens."

Haha
My MIL already picked for future grandchild christening gown ,while we have different faith and never discussed such question .She also said I "can upgrade my e-ring" when baby is born(???hello wut?)
I just have fun with it,I told her my baby will never be babtised and other things like that

She has already referred to the unconceived fetus by name. Apparently it's a girl. And she has named her.

Oh, I would use this. Next time she asks or drops hints I would turn it around and say "You tell me! You seem to already have her named. So.. when am I due?"

And then shut her down flat. "I will thank you ahead of time for NOT asking again. We will let you know if and when it happens."

Anonymous wrote:If she goes in a roundabout way, just smile and ignore.
If she or someone else asks you directly, just say, "we're hoping for the best!" or something generic like that. Then quickly switch topics. Don't engage.

Don't say "we're hoping for the best" or anything else that indicates you may be trying, because with each passing month MIL will assume you're having fertility problems, start feeling sorry and worried for you, suggesting REs, etc.

When people asked us if we planned to have kids (nobody ever asked if we were actively TTC), I'd always just say "maybe," and change the subject.