It is uncanny how similar this situation is to my own. My husband's sister is a total b and hates my husband and is crazy. His mom is scared of her temper so tries to appease her. She is nice to others but horrible to her immediate family. She hates me. I definitely think she is jealous of my husband even though she is successful in her career. We no longer have contact with her or let her come around the kids because we both worry that she may harm them. She would at the very least go on a verbally abusive tangent in front of them. And no my husband did not sexually abuse her. Some people are horrible people and sexual abuse is not the reason. And even though she is nice to others and is able to maintain relationships she is a tough personality and like the OP's SIL she never married or had kids. But she wanted both! I think that is a huge red flag. It would be tough to be married to her.

I still can't get over how similar this is to my situation. OP I think you need to cut communication with her and not let her be around the kids if she can't behave. Your husband can see her alone if he wishes. It's not worth the stress

Oh, good grief. Not every problem in life is a result of sexual abuse. My older sister hates my brothers and there was no sexual abuse. My mother favored my brothers--horribly do--and she simply can't get past that jealousy. Of course, it doesn't help that they are assholes. She hadn't spoken to them in years. Blaming everything on sexual abuse and looking at all men like they are rapists is really sick.

Anonymous wrote:NP - This thread was started 5 days ago and I don't see OP responding at all to the abundant skepticism re: her DH having no idea why his sister has hated him for 20yrs. Unpacking that is the 1st piece of the puzzle but when an OP doesn't come back for this long to respond it makes me think either OP herself isn't being straight up or it was a fake post to start with.

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Or she might suspect it has something to do with sexual abuse and is either in denial or trying to figure out how to deal with it. Can you imagine if it were your DH and the problem was sexual abuse with his sister?

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