Anonymous wrote:I wonder how the parents are responding to the rage issues...

They are likely being... very flexible (i.e. tiptoeing around his triggers).

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I don't think anyone is blaming her, but she does seem in denial. A kid who has difficulty with an Easter Seals or Auburn placement, seems to have serious difficulties. I think people are encouraging her to focus on the behavioral. There's just no way this poor kid is going to cut it in a mainstream K next year.

And that might be the wake up call she needs.

Or, she will come back and complain about how the teacher just doesn't like him, the IEP team is inflexible or incompetent, yadda, yadda. In which case, I hope that people will remember what she's already posted and not chime in to give her blanket support. This little boy needs help that he isn't going get if DCUM is being mom's codependent rather than coach.

It is very hard to be the parent of this type of kid. It's exhausting. People judge the parents. I am not OP. She may ell be in denial but she is still in a tough position.

I wonder how the parents are responding to the rage issues...

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I don't think anyone is blaming her, but she does seem in denial. A kid who has difficulty with an Easter Seals or Auburn placement, seems to have serious difficulties. I think people are encouraging her to focus on the behavioral. There's just no way this poor kid is going to cut it in a mainstream K next year.

Exactly. A child who found Easter Seals daycare "too inflexible" and was rejected for summer camp at Auburn needs a therapeutic environment and not just a more understanding daycare.

Have you tried diet change? We removed gluten and dairy and saw instant improvements. We did it for 6 months, no cheats. We changed the whole house. I have also seen my son go crazy compared to normal when he had Popsicles with insane amounts of food coloring. It wasn't the sugar b/c he eats Popsicles everyday just without food coloring. Hoping you and your family find the right help!

Anonymous wrote:I wish everyone would stop attacking OP about the daycare that is inflexible. Have some compassion.

Child care centers have different levels of expertise and tolerance in dealing with children who have a tendency to lash out.

True, but he was also rejected by Camp Aristotle which is designed as a camp for students with social and communication challenges. This gives us some objective measure of the scope of this child's lashing out.

Honestly, I don't think anyone is blaming her, but she does seem in denial. A kid who has difficulty with an Easter Seals or Auburn placement, seems to have serious difficulties. I think people are encouraging her to focus on the behavioral. There's just no way this poor kid is going to cut it in a mainstream K next year.

I wish everyone would stop attacking OP about the daycare that is inflexible. Have some compassion.

Child care centers have different levels of expertise and tolerance in dealing with children who have a tendency to lash out.

We've come across some really wonderful teachers who can head off tantrums and other issues before they turn into throwing things and hitting.

We've also come across some not so great teachers who can make things worse with how they react to a child becoming frustrated.

At our previous daycare, I once saw a boy who was upset call his teacher stupid. Well the teacher actually, said, "No, you're stupid!" at which point the boy totally lost it. I bet if she had just ignored him or just distracted him with a different toy things would have gone very differently.

So, please, give OP the benefit of the doubt here and say something useful to her instead of blaming her for everything.

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Not trying to come off negative but unfortunately he was kicked out of MCC and he went to Easter seals daycare in SS and took him out because they were so inflexible.

I mentioned he is 2e because its been difficult to find a good fit. He ver sensitive, throws tantrums like a 3 year old, but intellculty he is way way ahead. When people fitst meet him they think were nuts to call him special needs, until they watch him play and/or he doesn't get his way. Then we are often told he's not a good fit. So frusterating there aren't more Sevices for kids like him.

I have a 2E kid, too. Nobody is going to tolerate that behavior, though. You should devote part of the summer to developing his frustration tolerance so other options are open to you in future summers. He's a tough kid. I get it. I have one, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone with some serious knowledge and guts must attack the root cause of his rage, for longterm healing and emotional health.

I should say "address" rather than "attack." But it'll require hard work for the parents to.

It's easier to just blame the daycare for not being flexible enough to allow their little terror to assault theor staff.

Don't insult the kid. Also, PP, I doubt he has "rage" issues. He sounds like he needs a therapeutic preschool/school option and that the parents and he need to do some behavioral therapy sessions. I doubt the OP is still reading this thread in any case.

The OP herself characterized her son as having rage issues.

But I agree that she probably stopped reading after the first comment.

You are spot on about the rest.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone with some serious knowledge and guts must attack the root cause of his rage, for longterm healing and emotional health.

I should say "address" rather than "attack." But it'll require hard work for the parents to.

It's easier to just blame the daycare for not being flexible enough to allow their little terror to assault theor staff.

Don't insult the kid. Also, PP, I doubt he has "rage" issues. He sounds like he needs a therapeutic preschool/school option and that the parents and he need to do some behavioral therapy sessions. I doubt the OP is still reading this thread in any case.

She isn't. She already started a new thread in general parenting that was, shocker, even less sympathetic than this one was.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone with some serious knowledge and guts must attack the root cause of his rage, for longterm healing and emotional health.

I should say "address" rather than "attack." But it'll require hard work for the parents to.

It's easier to just blame the daycare for not being flexible enough to allow their little terror to assault theor staff.

Don't insult the kid. Also, PP, I doubt he has "rage" issues. He sounds like he needs a therapeutic preschool/school option and that the parents and he need to do some behavioral therapy sessions. I doubt the OP is still reading this thread in any case.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone with some serious knowledge and guts must attack the root cause of his rage, for longterm healing and emotional health.

I should say "address" rather than "attack." But it'll require hard work for the parents to.

It's easier to just blame the daycare for not being flexible enough to allow their little terror to assault theor staff.

Anonymous wrote:Someone with some serious knowledge and guts must attack the root cause of his rage, for longterm healing and emotional health.

I should say "address" rather than "attack." But it'll require hard work for the parents to.