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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife cheated, and we found a way to put our marriage back on track. I would agree with the OP's original post on several points. First, the information age and technology definitely makes it easier to cheat, and to communicate with another person outside marriage. Making something more accessible (especially something that can take over emotionally) increases the likelihood of its occurrence.

Second, since we live in VA, the no fault divorce was not an option for DW. When she saw what the road of an at fault divorce was going to be for her, both financially and in terms of publicity (court filings), she was much more amenable to working on our marriage. It has been difficult, but this higher barrier to divorce definitely gave us time to work things out. I am glad for that.

if you don't have kids, why would you take back a deceitful woman who wanted to be penetrated by another man?

remember, she is a depreciating asset - men that have their shit together appreciate.

Should have been more clear. The reason I wanted to save the marriage was because we have two young children. I come from broken home, and my siblings and I are still feeling the negative effects of our parents split. I think the no fault divorce makes it way to easy for one partner to unilaterally dissolve a marriage with kids too often overlooked as "adaptable" or "flexible" to the change. Sure, some marriages are not worth saving under any circumstances, but in my view, the kids are the number one priority and we should give it all we can, even if it is heavy handed in the process, to make it work. In today's world marriage should be taken more seriously and dating a lot less.

fair point. kids make it different. Would you have stayed around if you didn't have children?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife cheated, and we found a way to put our marriage back on track. I would agree with the OP's original post on several points. First, the information age and technology definitely makes it easier to cheat, and to communicate with another person outside marriage. Making something more accessible (especially something that can take over emotionally) increases the likelihood of its occurrence.

Second, since we live in VA, the no fault divorce was not an option for DW. When she saw what the road of an at fault divorce was going to be for her, both financially and in terms of publicity (court filings), she was much more amenable to working on our marriage. It has been difficult, but this higher barrier to divorce definitely gave us time to work things out. I am glad for that.

if you don't have kids, why would you take back a deceitful woman who wanted to be penetrated by another man?

remember, she is a depreciating asset - men that have their shit together appreciate.

Should have been more clear. The reason I wanted to save the marriage was because we have two young children. I come from broken home, and my siblings and I are still feeling the negative effects of our parents split. I think the no fault divorce makes it way to easy for one partner to unilaterally dissolve a marriage with kids too often overlooked as "adaptable" or "flexible" to the change. Sure, some marriages are not worth saving under any circumstances, but in my view, the kids are the number one priority and we should give it all we can, even if it is heavy handed in the process, to make it work. In today's world marriage should be taken more seriously and dating a lot less.

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Anonymous wrote:The late 1940's-mid 1970's were an anomaly in American life as the US was enjoying the postwar economic boom.

This is the one part of your entire moronic screed with even a grain of truth. I guess that's the secret of big lies: the best ones have partial truth in them.

The Ward Cleaver/Donna Reed lifestyle was celebrated with the wife at home while the husband worked and a station wagon was in the driveway.

...and this is where we go sailing off into culture/cold-warrior MRA fantasy and idiocy.

The truth is that the higher your education level, the more likely you are to have a marriage that succeeds. Why engage in rhetorical garbage when you have facts at hand...from the Bureau of Labor Statistics:



As you can see, the lower educational (and economic) groups have much higher divorce rates. And as for your little tidbit about marrying right out of college, here's a lovely picture of the divorce rate as a function of age at the time of marriage (ie, getting married younger vs. delaying marriage until older):



The clear answer is that divorce isn't inevitable for anybody, but it's much less likely the higher your level of education (ie, women get college and graduate degrees too and have their heads filled with Women's Lib ideas in Liberal Ivory White Tower enclaves for several extra years instead of getting knocked up by cletus and dropping out of community college).

You're a moron full of psuedo-scientific assertions intended to support an MRA view of wives as breeding chattel, mostly because you have a small member and are insecure that someone bigger is gonna come along and take her off your hands.

and your whole spiel is useless because divorce =/= fidelity.