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Anonymous wrote:Today my friend who had an abortion says she wished her "support" person had made some effort to talk her out of it. There were other options.

She and a lot of people. Her voice won't drown out the extreme voices on either side. These women suffer silently and when she talks about it, it will be taboo. Her pro life friends will drown her with crap about Jesus and her pro choice friends will trivialize her feelings. Those with good professional experience like some OBs can understand. The pain is immense and she will never stop thinking about her child, her little friend, who only she knew.
The extreme views make it hard for any logic to come into this. In the end there are women who are being hurt by a system that refuses to be intellectually honest. There IS post abortion stress, no different than PTSD. And for some women, that is not worth it, they would have rather struggled with the child than live through that. And these are NOT religious people, they are just humans with normal emotions.

Yeah, I don't buy this at all. Do you know any women who've had abortions? Other than those who come to your church or who you've met at pro-life events?

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Anonymous wrote:Chalk me up as another who can't support baby killing.

I agree. I think a woman shouldn't be able to leave having an abortion without an IUD or Depo shot.

Lets tell that to the women who aborted because their baby had Edwards syndrome or anencephaly. Seriously, fuck you and your utter lack of compassion for women making hard decisions.

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are still reading, please know that many, many of us have had abortions and have gone on to have happy marriages and families. (If our parents only knew how many girls in DC area Catholic schools had abortions, they would keel over.) It is a terrible decision to have to make, but the vast majority of women have no regrets later on.

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Anonymous wrote:Today my friend who had an abortion says she wished her "support" person had made some effort to talk her out of it. There were other options.

She and a lot of people. Her voice won't drown out the extreme voices on either side. These women suffer silently and when she talks about it, it will be taboo. Her pro life friends will drown her with crap about Jesus and her pro choice friends will trivialize her feelings. Those with good professional experience like some OBs can understand. The pain is immense and she will never stop thinking about her child, her little friend, who only she knew.
The extreme views make it hard for any logic to come into this. In the end there are women who are being hurt by a system that refuses to be intellectually honest. There IS post abortion stress, no different than PTSD. And for some women, that is not worth it, they would have rather struggled with the child than live through that. And these are NOT religious people, they are just humans with normal emotions.

Anonymous wrote:Today my friend who had an abortion says she wished her "support" person had made some effort to talk her out of it. There were other options.

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Anonymous wrote:Today my friend who had an abortion says she wished her "support" person had made some effort to talk her out of it. There were other options.

Which clinics lay out as part of the array of options and any sixth grader knows.

no they don't

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Anonymous wrote:Chalk me up as another who can't support baby killing.

I agree. I think a woman shouldn't be able to leave having an abortion without an IUD or Depo shot.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today my friend who had an abortion says she wished her "support" person had made some effort to talk her out of it. There were other options.

Which clinics lay out as part of the array of options and any sixth grader knows.

Anonymous wrote:Chalk me up as another who can't support baby killing.

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First, I apologize to real DCUMers because I'm apparently entertaining a troll. Second, I ask not of this particular troll but of all abortion -related morons out there: Where were you for Relisha? What are you doing for the next Relisha?

Who is Relisha and what does she have to do with justifying killing babies? What are you doing for the next Relisha since you know so much about her? Or is "just kill 'em all" your motto.

I would be a troll if I was responding because I thought it was funny. This is not funny and it is nothing to troll about.

If you don't know who Relisha is you can get the fuck off this board, since if you don't you are clearly not a DC urban mom.

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Anonymous wrote:

First, I apologize to real DCUMers because I'm apparently entertaining a troll. Second, I ask not of this particular troll but of all abortion -related morons out there: Where were you for Relisha? What are you doing for the next Relisha?

Who is Relisha and what does she have to do with justifying killing babies? What are you doing for the next Relisha since you know so much about her? Or is "just kill 'em all" your motto.

I would be a troll if I was responding because I thought it was funny. This is not funny and it is nothing to troll about.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would have shown me the other alternatives. Told me I didn't have to do this and helped me find resources. I was 18, my parents were not supportive. My boyfriend (at the time) was not supportive. I had $75 to my name (boyfriend paid for the abortion) and had just started a new job at a grocery store bagging groceries. I happened to have a Saturday off (pretty rare in the grocery business for a new hire) and worked just a few hours Friday morning, so I was able to schedule the procedure for Friday afternoon...then it was back to work on Sunday.

You knew there were alternatives. What you wanted someone to tell you was it was ok to be a parent with no financial, emotional, or parenting resources and to raise your child in poverty. It's tough to find an adult who will tell you that.

Adoption is ALWAYS an option.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish someone would have shown me the other alternatives. Told me I didn't have to do this and helped me find resources. I was 18, my parents were not supportive. My boyfriend (at the time) was not supportive. I had $75 to my name (boyfriend paid for the abortion) and had just started a new job at a grocery store bagging groceries. I happened to have a Saturday off (pretty rare in the grocery business for a new hire) and worked just a few hours Friday morning, so I was able to schedule the procedure for Friday afternoon...then it was back to work on Sunday.

You knew there were alternatives. What you wanted someone to tell you was it was ok to be a parent with no financial, emotional, or parenting resources and to raise your child in poverty. It's tough to find an adult who will tell you that.