Anonymous wrote:
Honestly, I think there's a lot of gender stereotyping at play when folks ask these sorts of questions. Boys may Generally have a harder time sitting still. Girls may generally be more mature. It's up to the parent to know their child, of course. When it's close to the cut-off, the gut reaction from most people is to give the boy another year, send the girl. [/b]I can't help but feel that there's a undertone that Girls apparently don't need to be leaders. stronger, or perform better in class.[b] Sitting still is sufficient.
Really? The gender-stereotyping impression I get is that people think boys need the extra edge of another year in order to be able to compete with the girls, who are just naturally good at school.
I get what the first poster is saying and agree. Its subtle but people do worry more about whether a boy is considered a leader, the strongest, the fastest, or able to compete. Girls don't need to be leaders just mature enough to sit still and take direction.
After having both a boy and girl, I've been surprised that social maturity seems to have a greater affect on girls. My son and his friends are accepting of all kids that have the same interests. They run around with younger and older kids that have various level of social maturity. Its all about Star Wars and kicking the ball. The girls are far more exclusionary and the ones that are more mature, hit social development sooner can be brutal to the more immature younger girls that haven't caught up yet.
I've seen other gender stereotyping in school too. Teachers seem to recognize math skills in boys more than girls and writing skills in girls more than boys. My kids reverse the genes stereotyping and I've been surprised how teachers want to shift them back toward their gender based expectations.