My God…

My son has a "Jamaican Jerry" in his phone as well. I am now incredibly concerned. As soon as I noticed this, I remembered this thread.

Talk your kid. Ask why he is acting differently. Simple!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be extremely careful about falsely accusing your child.
When my step brother was a teen he had a bike accident and was dazed and lying on the ground. Not sure if it was because he was dazed or because he had minor convulsions, but his mom grabbed the front of his shirt and yelled at him "What are you on?! What are you on?!" He wasn't "on" anything and never had been and her aggressive/angry reaction in his moment of injury was something he never forgave (though as moms we might find it understandable)

I also would point out that one reason I never got into drugs/drink was because my parents trusted me completely. I wouldn't have violated that trust. If they had been suspicious of me all the time and thinking I was smoking anyway, I would of been angry and thought I might as well be smoking dope, if they are already convinced I am.

Some parents I knew put their daughter (classmate of mine) into an anti-drug program as a preventive measure. She'd never been into drugs, but because her parents put her in that program (and then she was with people who had done them) she started using drugs.

People like you are part of the problem, not the solution, unfortunately.

What problem and solution are you part of?

Anonymous wrote:I would be extremely careful about falsely accusing your child.
When my step brother was a teen he had a bike accident and was dazed and lying on the ground. Not sure if it was because he was dazed or because he had minor convulsions, but his mom grabbed the front of his shirt and yelled at him "What are you on?! What are you on?!" He wasn't "on" anything and never had been and her aggressive/angry reaction in his moment of injury was something he never forgave (though as moms we might find it understandable)

I also would point out that one reason I never got into drugs/drink was because my parents trusted me completely. I wouldn't have violated that trust. If they had been suspicious of me all the time and thinking I was smoking anyway, I would of been angry and thought I might as well be smoking dope, if they are already convinced I am.

Some parents I knew put their daughter (classmate of mine) into an anti-drug program as a preventive measure. She'd never been into drugs, but because her parents put her in that program (and then she was with people who had done them) she started using drugs.

People like you are part of the problem, not the solution, unfortunately.

I think the fact that the OP never returned confirms that it was some joke. After all, if a kid lists his dealer in his phone contacts as Jamaican Jerry, I would be more worried about his stupidity than the fact that he is smoking pot . . . Kind of like the old Winston Churchill comment, he could stop smoking pot but probably can't stop being a total idiot.

All these suggestions to call Jerry, really?? I can't remember the last time any of my kids talked on their phones to anybody except me. They TEXT!! Why don't you check your kids message log to see if they are in touch with Jerry.

I would be extremely careful about falsely accusing your child.
When my step brother was a teen he had a bike accident and was dazed and lying on the ground. Not sure if it was because he was dazed or because he had minor convulsions, but his mom grabbed the front of his shirt and yelled at him "What are you on?! What are you on?!" He wasn't "on" anything and never had been and her aggressive/angry reaction in his moment of injury was something he never forgave (though as moms we might find it understandable)

I also would point out that one reason I never got into drugs/drink was because my parents trusted me completely. I wouldn't have violated that trust. If they had been suspicious of me all the time and thinking I was smoking anyway, I would of been angry and thought I might as well be smoking dope, if they are already convinced I am.

Some parents I knew put their daughter (classmate of mine) into an anti-drug program as a preventive measure. She'd never been into drugs, but because her parents put her in that program (and then she was with people who had done them) she started using drugs.

They deny it even when you do have hard evidence!

Was in a similar situation recently with suspicions but not hard evidence. I did not want to confront because I didn't want to do it if I was wrong. They will deny it if you do not have evidence. I too would recommend searching for hard evidence.

I completely understand that you are reluctant to confront your child with limited information. Maybe it's wimpy but I've been there myself.

First try calling the number and ask to speak to Jerry. If he's actually a dealer, I'd be shocked if he answered unless he's new to this work. In most cases, dealers don't take calls from numbers they don't know. If someone new wants to contact them, they first have to have someone who already uses the dealer call in advance and say they are referring the person. If there is no answer, I'd try maybe two more times. If there is still no answer (or a suspicious answer), I'd take that as more evidence Jerry's a dealer.

Next search his room. If you've not done this before he may not be too crafty about hiding things. We were much craftier about covering our tracks in my day than kids are today. But in case you happen to have a kid who does cover his tracks search less likely places after the obvious ones. This includes the insides of shoes and inside books--look for something like an old textbook that could have been hollowed out.

If either of those steps provide further confirmation give your child a choice of you drug testing them or the doctor doing it. Have a pre-purchsed drug test on hand. They are very accurate. Pot stays in the system for two weeks or more, while other stuff tends to wash out in three to four days. Don't get just the THC test--get one that does multiple tests. These are expensive, but it is one time. If you need to test more often order off the internet--you can get good multiple drug tests like Icup for about $9.

Think about how to approach the drug test. It's hard to imagine anything more invasive than a urine test and one hates to go there, but weigh it against a potential drug problem. It does disrupt trust but in my experience, it's most resisted by those who are afraid they'll test positive. If their not doing anything, they'll laugh later about their insanely protective mother, particularly if you don't have a previous history of controlling behavior. If you don't have ironclad direct evidence, tell him whatever you are comfortable with. Given my experience, I'd go with you are worried about drug use because you've learned how pervasive it is at schools so to be sure he doesn't go down that path you are instituting random drug tests. And then do it. Regular drug testing is remarkably effective at deterring drug use.

Initially I would think the phone contact was a joke, but combine it with your other suspicions and I think you have reason to confront or do a room search.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because a white child could never have a Jamaican friend, named jerry...

Yeah, OP didn't seem concerned at all about finding a guy named Scottish Mike in her son's phone. She's discriminating.

Yes, because all of my Jamaican friends are identified by nationality in my contact list. There's Pam, and then there's Jamaican Pam.

That said, I would think someone would just type JJ as the dealer's contact.

Anonymous wrote:Is there a "Mary Jane" or "Crystal M" in his contacts? So your son is smoking pot and not that bright if he put a contact in his phone that screams drug dealer. (but, I think this is a fake post)

Yes. Either this is a fake post, or it's a real post from a very clueless parent whose son thinks he's witty.

Anonymous wrote:Because a white child could never have a Jamaican friend, named jerry...

Yeah, OP didn't seem concerned at all about finding a guy named Scottish Mike in her son's phone. She's discriminating.

one more thing, they are young and not that smart. It isn't too difficult to find proof. Only once you catch them, they get better at hiding it.