Anonymous wrote:I don't know what the best outcome is, i don't have a solution as of yet, I am reflecting on my entire life and what is ahead. If I could have anything I'd want for her to not be pregnant or at the very least not his, as sick of a game that would be on her part. Two weeks before us.

With all due respect, you sound like a needy, whiney woman! Stop relying on someone else to make you happy. Your child comes first... End of story! Show her how to have some self respect and take care of yourself. Get out now and don't look back. I can't believe you both committed to living together without telling the EX. Did you not see it would be a disaster?!? Both of you sound childish.

No, PP, she should exit and swear off men until she understands that she has to put her daughter's interests before her own. You don't drag your child into a mess like this.

OP,
How old is he, how old is his oldest? You are young. You deserve so much better than this. This is a mess. You should exit and start fresh with someone new. He's out there.

Anonymous wrote:I am 26 and don't have a magic ball to predict someones actions, by that I meant her actions. But I am in charge of my own, so I have some heavy decisions to make. I thank you all for the postive and negative comments, all are constructive critism that are beneficial in many ways.

OP, not to harp on this, because I think you've clearly gotten the point, but a little more about this statement, as I think it should be part of your reflection.

You don't need a magic ball to predict someone's actions. You need maturity, experience and emphathy; all of those are clearly lacking here. The fact that you would even make a statement like this says a lot to your older sisters on DCUM. You (and your BF) are behaving as though actions have no consequences, people can say and do whatever they want, and "other people" (in this case, the ex) will react however they want to, in no way as a reflection of those actions.

Think about it, please. You and your BF -- primarily your BF, but you went along for the ride -- messed up royally here. The ex found out about it. I'm sure she's had her own piece of these problems, but her reaction was not unreasonable.