One of my best friends from college married for money. The guy was a handsome business owner and raking it in, driving a great car, took her to expensive restaurants. She's a beautiful blond, and he openly told her when they got engaged that he always wanted her to go to the gym because he never wants a fat wife. She somehow was flattered by that and bragged about how rich they were going to be. She's also a very smart and driven person, and I was horrified by her grasping on to this arrangement and figured she wasn't the person I thought she was. They've been married between 10-15 years now and she is one of the most miserable people I know. Within about five years of their marriage, his business went under and he's started several others since then that haven't worked out. He's currently unemployed. He's a horrible father who doesn't help at all with their three sons -- all the parenting work is on her, while she is the primary breadwinner as well. (She has a great job -- those smarts and drive at least have paid off for her.) She's still beautiful -- competes in marathons and is in fantastic shape at 40, so he got what he wanted on that front. I know she's considered leaving him, but she's Catholic so I imagine she stays because she doesn't in the end believe in divorce. We are no longer as close, and she lost almost all her other good lifelong friends because no one really respects her choice and she's such an unhappy person to be around. My heart really goes out to her because I'm sure she realizes what a grave mistake she made and feels trapped. But we're not close enough any more to really talk it out. Not sure she has anyone to talk to. It's tragic.

Anonymous wrote:Curious. Did you marry your DH/DW for money or "prestige"? How is it working out.

Single myself. Two of my close girlfriends married 4 years ago for money - one to a multi-millionaire entrepreneur and one to a lawyer. Both of them have talked about cheating, about constantly trying to re-establish his affection by being beautiful/sweet/good in bed, about loneliness, etc. One of them burst into tears when she got pregnant a second time because she was afraid she'd lose her figure and he'd divorce her.

I don't know anyone who married for money, but I do know several couples that won't divorce because of it.

Wow. While i am surprised at some of the responses I applaud those who are honest about marrying money.

I married for love and i am a single mom. I struggle every day.

While I dint care why ine marries another whther it be for money or love, i just wish that those who marry for love would stop pretend they have the perfect marriage and treat me like a white trash because i am divorced.

Honey, i picked love and upmost respect above anything and valued our sacred marriage. Sometimes things go wring and it does not work out. Please, those times, do jot treat me like a charity case. You sold out to money, i still have my dignity.

That wasn't the only reason but it was a big part of it. He didnt have much money but it was more than I'd have alone. I married mostly for some small piece of financial security. A home and health insurance.

People marry for various reasons. if the parties are ok with it, why should anyone care? People who marry for love are often miserable 5 or 10 years in....maybe a business arrangement is not a bad idea.

I don't have sympathy for men who married women who married for money. Those men probably want the trophy wife who stays home and takes care of the home as well as being their arm candy at events.

My aunt married my uncle for money I believe. He invested in a business and became a millionaire. Left his first wife and married his current wife. They live in a gated community in a mansion, drive luxury cars, etc. She recently upgraded all their furniture and bestowed some of their 'old' expensive furniture on me (Jackpot for me, lol). She only wears expensive clothes, louboutins, etc. Hasn't worked since they married, even though they have no kids together.

I do think they love each other, but I'm pretty sure his wallet made things more exciting for her. And also, he is a well known cheater so I'm sure the money makes it easier to overlook.

I can't lie I sometimes wish I'd married for money cause I hate working a job, just being honest. My DH went to a top school and I thought he'd be making more money by now. If for some unlikely reason my marriage fails, money will definitely be a big factor in my next marriage.

Anonymous wrote:WHere would a woman meet a rich man if she were in the market to marry for money? Please be specific....

There's an alumni association for people who used to work at the Securities and Exchange Commission http://www.secalumni.org/ . The SEC is a govenment agency but there's a revolving door from it to big buck private sector jobs in the financial fields. I went to one of the alumni events and if I were single and looking for a rich guy, I'd go more often.

I honestly don't know anyone who qualifies for "gold digger" label. All people I know with money married other people who also had money, or at least earnings potential.

My friend did. Didn't work out very well.
There is family money but she found out after how stingy they are. They don't agree with her and her husband's life choices (had more than 1 kid, picked a Christian school, etc) so they won't bank roll a lot of what my friend was expecting. After an initial modest sum for a down payment on a home in the right zip code, they have never received any other substantial financial help. Also turns out her husband is unambitious and accepted a govt position that isn't paying the high income she was expecting.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a "double-Ivy" (UG and law school), working as a fed, doing an interesting job, fighting for people's rights, wouldn't give it up for anything. Of course my classmates are making 5x what I am, and in another 5 years it'll be 10x. Onceevery three months or so, DW tries to guilt me into going to work for a firm, but I'm not going anywhere. I don't think she "married for money" but she does seem a little disappointed as to where we are financially (public schools, 5-yo car, etc).

Yeah, she married you for your earning potential. Sorry.

PP fed here. Come to think of it, maybe I should've married for money!

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Anonymous wrote:WHere would a woman meet a rich man if she were in the market to marry for money? Please be specific....

If you have to ask...

Best bet is the Harvard Business School cafeteria. Just stake it out until you hit gold.

You gotta be careful with that. In business, social skills rank very high. You run a chance of finding a guy who totally flops in the real world when he has to adapt to people.

I'd stick to a Penn State or honestly maybe even UNC. I'd gravitate towards the athletes that have a brain. Those guys usually end up becoming wildly successful sales people and good sales guys are making 500K+/yr.

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Anonymous wrote:WHere would a woman meet a rich man if she were in the market to marry for money? Please be specific....

If you have to ask...

Best bet is the Harvard Business School cafeteria. Just stake it out until you hit gold.

Anonymous wrote:WHere would a woman meet a rich man if she were in the market to marry for money? Please be specific....

If you have to ask...

Anonymous wrote:I am a "double-Ivy" (UG and law school), working as a fed, doing an interesting job, fighting for people's rights, wouldn't give it up for anything. Of course my classmates are making 5x what I am, and in another 5 years it'll be 10x. Onceevery three months or so, DW tries to guilt me into going to work for a firm, but I'm not going anywhere. I don't think she "married for money" but she does seem a little disappointed as to where we are financially (public schools, 5-yo car, etc).

Yeah, she married you for your earning potential. Sorry.