Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, our neighbors next door had a large party for Thanksgiving. They are an immigrant Hispanic family, and perhaps for this reason alone my DW does not get along with them. In any case, I am a go along to get along kind of guy. In any case, DW tells me this morning she takes out the trash to the curb for pickup, takes my DD to school and when she returns finds that the neighbors have dumped their trash - pizza boxes, beer bottles, etc. - into our recyclables bin. So, DW proceeds to take the trash out and dump it on the neighbors lawn. So, the neighbors were in the wrong to put their trash in our bins - and I honestly did not have a chance to talk to them about it since it all occurred after I departed for work - but I feel it was equally wrong for my DW to react the way she did. So, now I have to come home and rather than talk with neighbors who might otherwise be reasonable and open I will have to deal with pissed off people who feel that my DW treated them poorly. Am in the wrong in this?

No you are not wrong. From the way you described your wife she has race issues? Hopefully it was there trash.
In any instance you now need to back up your wife. At least in public. In private you need to get her to understand how wrong this was and how that jeopardizes your relationship with people who will be there a long time... He needs to know it's not ok to endanger the safety and peace of your communal home. It's just not ok.

Why does he have to bsck up his wife if she is behaving like an evil bitch. Do you "stand by your man" Even when he is wrong?

Anonymous wrote:I can see how having a week's worth of beer bottles and pizza boxes sitting in front of your house might be a tad embarrassing for your wife. Especially if she's a health nut and avoids that stuff like the plague.

It's not just trash, it's humiliating trash, lol. And she doesn't want to be associated with that.. that sort of thing can lead to a reputation you know.

I agree. I can totally see your wife's position, OP. Hell is other people.

Anonymous wrote:Can you move to a better hood?

Like one with more white prople?

Can you move to a better hood?

I just put a bag of trash in my neighbor's bin this morning. In FFX Co, you pay for trash service and there are several companies. We use one company, my neighbor another. Trash pick up is on different days. We had bag of smelly trash and our next pick up isn't until Monday. Their's is today. Their bin was at the curb waiting pickup and I just put the bag in there. Now, we have a decent relationship with them and willingly borrow cups of sugar from each other.

I think OP's wife was totally wacked for doing this. I might find it annoying if I didn't have a good relationship with the neighbors but I wouldn't have thrown it in their yards. If the recyclables had already been picked up when they did this, I'd knock on their door and ask them to clear the bins.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

Ditto. This is what gave it away - OP says when he has spoken with them in the past, they are reasonable. In other words, they do stuff they should not.

OP mentioning their race makes me wonder if he's giving the neighbors extra leeway because they aren't white. He should not. Equal is equal.

Lastly, as one PP said you pay for trash and recycling. If they had too much, put it in an outdoor trash bag next to the cans. You don't use you neighbor's bins

Ok ... Even if this is true, on what planet is it ok to dump trash on your neighbor's lawn? Do you really think that is a good solution? Is that what you want your kids to learn?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

Ditto. This is what gave it away - OP says when he has spoken with them in the past, they are reasonable. In other words, they do stuff they should not.

OP mentioning their race makes me wonder if he's giving the neighbors extra leeway because they aren't white. He should not. Equal is equal.
Lastly, as one PP said you pay for trash and recycling. If they had too much, put it in an outdoor trash bag next to the cans. You don't use you neighbor's bins

That's what you took from this? Really?

<facepalm>

Anonymous wrote:I think you wife was in the right. I would have done the same. I bet they won't pull that ish again. Had it of been me, I would have dumped it right in front of their front door. You sound like a really annoying DH.

Ditto. This is what gave it away - OP says when he has spoken with them in the past, they are reasonable. In other words, they do stuff they should not.

OP mentioning their race makes me wonder if he's giving the neighbors extra leeway because they aren't white. He should not. Equal is equal.

Lastly, as one PP said you pay for trash and recycling. If they had too much, put it in an outdoor trash bag next to the cans. You don't use you neighbor's bins

Anonymous wrote:Buena suerte, amigo

Hahahahahahaha!

Anonymous wrote:I'm not interested in finding out how far people will go to retaliate. People commit murder over the dumbest shit. Tell your wife to pick her battles.

THIS!!!!!!! Why the fvck would anyone pick a fight like this with their next door neighbor? Dumping trash on the lawn? OP's wife (and some of you DCUM thugs) think you are so big and bad. You never know when you will meet your match and it will not be pretty! Would not be shocked if OP returns home to find a busted car window. Yea, some people get real like that!

How about this? Talk to them about it. If it happens again, put the recyclable stuff in a bag and put it in front of their house or on their front porch.

Anonymous wrote:I'd tell the neighbors unless they get their own recycling bin, I will charge them for half my recycling bill. Your wife did nothing wrong. I would have done much much worse. It's a neighborhood not the ghetto barrio.

Uh, dumping trash on someone's lawn is MUCH more ghetto than putting trash in a trashcan ... Geez.

How many people are living in your neighbor's house that they need to use extra trashcans

Occupancy laws
http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/code/property/overcrowding.htm

1. One family, which may consist of one person or two or more persons related by blood or marriage with any number of natural children, foster children, step children or adopted children and with not to exceed two roomers or boarders.

2. Two single parents or guardians with not more than a total of six of their dependent children, including natural children, foster children, step children or adopted children, functioning as a single housekeeping unit.

3. A group of not more than four persons not necessarily related by blood or marriage functioning as a single housekeeping unit.

4. A group residential facility.

5. Any group housekeeping unit which may consist of not more than 10 persons as may be approved by the Board of Zoning Appeals.

6. One person or two persons one of whom shall be elderly and/or disabled, and one or both of whom own the dwelling unit, plus one family, which may consist of one person or two or more persons related by blood or marriage, and with any number of natural children, foster children, step children or adopted children.

How many people are living in your neighbor's house.

Honestly, I would just stay away.

I'm not interested in finding out how far people will go to retaliate. People commit murder over the dumbest shit. Tell your wife to pick her battles.