Anonymous wrote:I EARNED that money kneeling at the alter of his penis for years.

It's my social security.

Sex for money? Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:It is shame that so many women have such a negative view of their DHs and being intimate with them. Every marriage hits a rough patch but geez, I question why some of you are even still married.

It's not about viewing sex negatively, it's about being tired sometimes and not always being in the mood.

Feeling like sex with your husband is a sacrifice, a chore, a duty, a giving in to selfish wants, is about viewing sex negatively and is completely different than occasionally being tired or not in the mood in an otherwise happy, healthy sex life.

Anonymous wrote:Call me a prostitute all you want but I have my name on everything we own. I'm getting mine. WITHOUT sucking dick.

I am sure that your DH thinks the world of you too. You sound like a delightful person.

Anonymous wrote:Call me a prostitute all you want but I have my name on everything we own. I'm getting mine. WITHOUT sucking dick.

So you knelt at the alter of his penis, but didn't suck.

Got it.

Anonymous wrote:It is shame that so many women have such a negative view of their DHs and being intimate with them. Every marriage hits a rough patch but geez, I question why some of you are even still married.

It's not about viewing sex negatively, it's about being tired sometimes and not always being in the mood.

Call me a prostitute all you want but I have my name on everything we own. I'm getting mine. WITHOUT sucking dick.

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Anonymous wrote:In my case - hell if I would want to fuck my emotionally abusive husband who can't ever self reflect or ever say sorry or contantly tell me anyway I was feeling was wrong? My fault - hell no! There's no duty in having to fuck that kind of person even if you are married to the bastard. Props to me for leaving and finally getting sex on my terms.

I'm assuming by "leaving" you meant you divorced and now you got something meaningful. No shame in that. But in a good marriage, sometimes you do things because it makes your partner happy. It's no all about you in marriage. In fact, it rarely ever is.

Excellent point. So what is my partner doing in this equation to make me happy?

If we are still talking about your previous marriage that ended in the divorce, I think the answer is obvious. I was talking about a good marriage.

So am I. I am not the PP you quoted, my partner is not emotionally abusive and I am not divorced. If I give in to sex whenever my husband wants, what is he sacrificing to make me happy? Or is my happiness not important as well?

It is shame that so many women have such a negative view of their DHs and being intimate with them. Every marriage hits a rough patch but geez, I question why some of you are even still married.

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Anonymous wrote:In my case - hell if I would want to fuck my emotionally abusive husband who can't ever self reflect or ever say sorry or contantly tell me anyway I was feeling was wrong? My fault - hell no! There's no duty in having to fuck that kind of person even if you are married to the bastard. Props to me for leaving and finally getting sex on my terms.

I'm assuming by "leaving" you meant you divorced and now you got something meaningful. No shame in that. But in a good marriage, sometimes you do things because it makes your partner happy. It's no all about you in marriage. In fact, it rarely ever is.

Excellent point. So what is my partner doing in this equation to make me happy?

If we are still talking about your previous marriage that ended in the divorce, I think the answer is obvious. I was talking about a good marriage.

Exactly - do things that you don't want to do - go to couples counseling, say sorry, stop belittling me - little things to keep a marriage going. Messed up.

I often wish I moved on much earlier except for our daughter. Too bad he won't learn anything from it and will continue the cycle. Funny when I met him he was young but an engagement fell apart because the fiance met someone else. I often wondered if he pulled the same bullshit he did with me. Not my problem anymore. YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hell yeah I moved out cuz that bastard refused.

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Anonymous wrote:In my case - hell if I would want to fuck my emotionally abusive husband who can't ever self reflect or ever say sorry or contantly tell me anyway I was feeling was wrong? My fault - hell no! There's no duty in having to fuck that kind of person even if you are married to the bastard. Props to me for leaving and finally getting sex on my terms.

I'm assuming by "leaving" you meant you divorced and now you got something meaningful. No shame in that. But in a good marriage, sometimes you do things because it makes your partner happy. It's no all about you in marriage. In fact, it rarely ever is.

Excellent point. So what is my partner doing in this equation to make me happy?

Anonymous wrote:I EARNED that money kneeling at the alter of his penis for years.

It's my social security.

Paid, legal prostitute, with a pension plan. Got it.

Anonymous wrote:In my case - hell if I would want to fuck my emotionally abusive husband who can't ever self reflect or ever say sorry or contantly tell me anyway I was feeling was wrong? My fault - hell no! There's no duty in having to fuck that kind of person even if you are married to the bastard. Props to me for leaving and finally getting sex on my terms.

I'm assuming by "leaving" you meant you divorced and now you got something meaningful. No shame in that. But in a good marriage, sometimes you do things because it makes your partner happy. It's no all about you in marriage. In fact, it rarely ever is.

I EARNED that money kneeling at the alter of his penis for years.

It's my social security.

Anonymous wrote:If my husband "needs" to find other sex because I don't kneel at the alter of his penis he can go get it.

That extra piece will cost him dearly in the divorce.

Speaking of low self esteem, don't you have your own money? Why do you want his?