Anonymous wrote:This isn't a Jewish thing. It's a woman's thing. Some women like to size up the competition and to compare themselves with other women. Sometimes it's done as a form of intimidation. I've seen Alpha women in every culture do this. Also, you haven't seen nothing until you see an Asian mother size up her future daughter in-law. They want to make sure are you good enough for their son or would they accept you into their family. In some cultures women would give a stare down to the new woman who is entering the family. In some Latino cultures the women would stare you up and down to determine if you're pretty or not. African American women and gay men do it too. They will give you the side eye stare in a minute. So, this is a universal thing that is practice in various cultures.


I am a woman and don't do it. I was raised and brought up to look at women this way (or anyone for that matter) is very rude.

Anonymous wrote:This isn't a Jewish thing. It's a woman's thing. Some women like to size up the competition and to compare themselves with other women. Sometimes it's done as a form of intimidation. I've seen Alpha women in every culture do this. Also, you haven't seen nothing until you see an Asian mother size up her future daughter in-law. They want to make sure are you good enough for their son or would they accept you into their family. In some cultures women would give a stare down to the new woman who is entering the family. In some Latino cultures the women would stare you up and down to determine if you're pretty or not. African American women and gay men do it too. They will give you the side eye stare in a minute. So, this is a universal thing that is practice in various cultures.



DISAGREE. It is first a women thing then a Jewish thing. Yes Jewish women are known to do this.At my school and in my circle this is common knowledge. Not a big deal but its true.

Anonymous wrote:This isn't a Jewish thing. It's a woman's thing. Some women like to size up the competition and to compare themselves with other women. Sometimes it's done as a form of intimidation. I've seen Alpha women in every culture do this. Also, you haven't seen nothing until you see an Asian mother size up her future daughter in-law. They want to make sure are you good enough for their son or would they accept you into their family. In some cultures women would give a stare down to the new woman who is entering the family. In some Latino cultures the women would stare you up and down to determine if you're pretty or not. African American women and gay men do it too. They will give you the side eye stare in a minute. So, this is a universal thing that is practice in various cultures.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, it WOULD be a problem for me, and the problem with positive stereotyping has been discussed many times on DCUM. I don't like positive stereotypes (what you call compliments) either. I don't like it when people say things like "You Jews really value education and I admire that" or "I really like the way Jews treat their wives" or whatever stupid positive stereotype you want to throw around about Jews. Stereotyping is stereotyping. It belittles personal experience and ignores the fact that we don't act monolithically and excuses people from having to get to know other people as individuals with their own life experience. It's mindless and absurd. No, it's not anti-Semitic but it's certainly not a reflection of reality.

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Anonymous wrote:This is kind of funny because I am half Jewish (raised Jewish) and we joke about this all the time. My mother is a real offender of this and every time we call her out on it, she raises her hands up and says laughing "hey I am Jewish" so anyone who wants to pretend Jewish women don't do this is drinking too much koolaid. No offense meant, we just like checking out and appreciating well put together people.

Thank you for your candidness. Much appreciated.

Reading this thread for the first time, it's disheartening to see the "anti-Semite card" thrown around this way. Do they even know what it means? Or is it simply used as an effective tool to silence any question or critique?

Here's the problem, as I see it. There's a fundamental difference between saying to yourself "Oh, I do that, and yes, I happen to be Jewish" and saying to yourself "I do that, and it is because I am Jewish and it is a distinct and integral part of my Jewish religion that all Jews participate in." Who cares if posters on this thread do this and they happen to be Jewish? That's not proof of anything, and that's why the "anti-Semite card" gets thrown around. It's when casual characteristics get over-attributed to the fact that people are Jewish that yes, anti-Semitism rears its ugly head.

Interesting response. Thank you. Acknowledging the fact that rigorous debate is normally a welcome intellectual activity among educated Jews (as well as many other religious and ethnic groups), why is it "anti-semetism" to share and discuss one's experiences?

I suspect if you felt personally complimented by another person's experiences or observations, it wouldn't be a problem for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I have to agree I have observed this too in the law firm where I work. It is a "Jewish thing" and I can see how it could make someone uncomfortable but I am sure no harm is meant.

I've observed Asian women doing the same thing.

This just happened to me at an open house today. I walked in, just from hanging outdoors with my kids so you can imagine how I was dressed, and the Asian realtor sized me up, as if I couldn't possibly afford this house. I'm like, I already live in this neighborhood. I didn't mention that I happen to also live on the nicest street.

I hope you didn't call her an anti-Semite.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I have to agree I have observed this too in the law firm where I work. It is a "Jewish thing" and I can see how it could make someone uncomfortable but I am sure no harm is meant.

I've observed Asian women doing the same thing.

This just happened to me at an open house today. I walked in, just from hanging outdoors with my kids so you can imagine how I was dressed, and the Asian realtor sized me up, as if I couldn't possibly afford this house. I'm like, I already live in this neighborhood. I didn't mention that I happen to also live on the nicest street.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I have to agree I have observed this too in the law firm where I work. It is a "Jewish thing" and I can see how it could make someone uncomfortable but I am sure no harm is meant.

I've observed Asian women doing the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to add that I am Jewish and this is absolutely NOT true. It's anti semetic. It isn't cute. It isn't funny. Antisemetism is upsetting so sorry if I won't relaaaaaaaax.

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Please explain your use of "anti-semetic".

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Anonymous wrote:I want to add that I am Jewish and this is absolutely NOT true. It's anti semetic. It isn't cute. It isn't funny. Antisemetism is upsetting so sorry if I won't relaaaaaaaax.

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Please explain your use of "anti-semetic".

Anonymous wrote:I want to add that I am Jewish and this is absolutely NOT true. It's anti semetic. It isn't cute. It isn't funny. Antisemetism is upsetting so sorry if I won't relaaaaaaaax.