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Anonymous wrote:How's that eorking out for their kids? Please don't come here and pretend like divorce is not harmful to children. That would be like saying smoking doesn't cause lung cancer. Just spend two second googling the impact of divorce on children to enlighten yourself. It has terrible lasting effects. As far as OP, I would question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried woman with three children. Seems extremely selfish and shortsighted. But is that a shocker- she on here asking about dating. At some point, lady, you need to remove your head from between your legs and focus on the three children you brought here.

Well said. OP, you're only 29. You'll still have plenty of dating/ love life years left when your youngest one is out of the house.

Assuming, of course, you don't go and do anything stupid, like have more kids.

Wow. Marriage isn't everything. You can be in a committed relationship and have kids without being married. Would you not question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried man with three kids??

And 2nd idiot pp - OP shouldn't date until the youngest is out of the house??? Really?

Please go back into your caves and realize this is 2013.

Just because you "can" doesn't mean you should. If you care at all for what's best for the kids, that is. And yes, absolutely, I think the OP should focus on her kids first, rather than her love life, and yes, that most likely means no datiing until the youngest one is grown.

Good thing you aren't OP then. If she wants to date/have sex/whatever within the next 13-14 years, that's not unreasonable. I bet you wouldn't tell a single father with three kids to the same as well.

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Anonymous wrote:How's that eorking out for their kids? Please don't come here and pretend like divorce is not harmful to children. That would be like saying smoking doesn't cause lung cancer. Just spend two second googling the impact of divorce on children to enlighten yourself. It has terrible lasting effects. As far as OP, I would question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried woman with three children. Seems extremely selfish and shortsighted. But is that a shocker- she on here asking about dating. At some point, lady, you need to remove your head from between your legs and focus on the three children you brought here.

Well said. OP, you're only 29. You'll still have plenty of dating/ love life years left when your youngest one is out of the house.

Assuming, of course, you don't go and do anything stupid, like have more kids.

Wow. Marriage isn't everything. You can be in a committed relationship and have kids without being married. Would you not question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried man with three kids??

And 2nd idiot pp - OP shouldn't date until the youngest is out of the house??? Really?

Please go back into your caves and realize this is 2013.

Just because you "can" doesn't mean you should. If you care at all for what's best for the kids, that is. And yes, absolutely, I think the OP should focus on her kids first, rather than her love life, and yes, that most likely means no datiing until the youngest one is grown.

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Anonymous wrote:How's that eorking out for their kids? Please don't come here and pretend like divorce is not harmful to children. That would be like saying smoking doesn't cause lung cancer. Just spend two second googling the impact of divorce on children to enlighten yourself. It has terrible lasting effects. As far as OP, I would question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried woman with three children. Seems extremely selfish and shortsighted. But is that a shocker- she on here asking about dating. At some point, lady, you need to remove your head from between your legs and focus on the three children you brought here.

Well said. OP, you're only 29. You'll still have plenty of dating/ love life years left when your youngest one is out of the house.

Assuming, of course, you don't go and do anything stupid, like have more kids.

Wow. Marriage isn't everything. You can be in a committed relationship and have kids without being married. Would you not question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried man with three kids??

And 2nd idiot pp - OP shouldn't date until the youngest is out of the house??? Really?

Please go back into your caves and realize this is 2013.

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Anonymous wrote:30 y.o. man here.

Not too long ago I would've said no. Then I started to have feelings for a coworker who has three. I already found her attractive not just physically but mentally. Then she invited me to her house so that our kids could play from time to time. Watching her with her kids just ramped up those feelings even more. My ex-wife was an absentee mom who left me to do everything myself. My co-worker is mom of the year.

I'd be open to dating someone with three kids, but she'd have to be amazing as both a woman and as a mom. I'm thinking long term and looking towards marriage though. I'd also want to meet her kids (I personally have a six month rule for newcomers and my daughter), just to see if I get along with them. Chemistry isn't the exact word that I'm looking for, but I'd need to see if I could get along with the kids as well.

This.. In my Martin voice.."You go boy!"

I'm a single mom of 2 and I'm 40. I've found it somewhat difficult to date close to my age, which is what I prefer (all things being equal). Guys my age are married or just getting divorcece. Guys around 5 years younger still want to marry and have kids with that woman. Younger men are intrigued and it's been about sex. Older men understand and relate better, but often have kids much older than mine. My kids are elementary school age. I have a whole lifetime of stuff coming down the pike. They are in the winding down stages. It's not been easy and I agree, there's probably a great guy out there that will gladly take an attractive young mom with a dad in the picture to take some of the load. Not sure how often they come around, however.

I still actively seek out a relationship. I'm a great mom, my kids are doing great and I have an ass of an ex. He still torments me, many years later. I'm open about it and anyone that questions our relationship, doesn't get me. I did what was best for my kids, as he was verbally abusive and our home was not a happy one. It is now.

Anonymous wrote:How's that eorking out for their kids? Please don't come here and pretend like divorce is not harmful to children. That would be like saying smoking doesn't cause lung cancer. Just spend two second googling the impact of divorce on children to enlighten yourself. It has terrible lasting effects. As far as OP, I would question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried woman with three children. Seems extremely selfish and shortsighted. But is that a shocker- she on here asking about dating. At some point, lady, you need to remove your head from between your legs and focus on the three children you brought here.

Well said. OP, you're only 29. You'll still have plenty of dating/ love life years left when your youngest one is out of the house.

Assuming, of course, you don't go and do anything stupid, like have more kids.

How's that eorking out for their kids? Please don't come here and pretend like divorce is not harmful to children. That would be like saying smoking doesn't cause lung cancer. Just spend two second googling the impact of divorce on children to enlighten yourself. It has terrible lasting effects. As far as OP, I would question the dignity and self respect of an unmarried woman with three children. Seems extremely selfish and shortsighted. But is that a shocker- she on here asking about dating. At some point, lady, you need to remove your head from between your legs and focus on the three children you brought here.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

I don't think "awe" is the right word. I personally find this situation very sad for her kids.

Why? There are plenty of parents who are divorced/no longer in a relationship.

Anonymous wrote:30 y.o. man here.

Not too long ago I would've said no. Then I started to have feelings for a coworker who has three. I already found her attractive not just physically but mentally. Then she invited me to her house so that our kids could play from time to time. Watching her with her kids just ramped up those feelings even more. My ex-wife was an absentee mom who left me to do everything myself. My co-worker is mom of the year.

I'd be open to dating someone with three kids, but she'd have to be amazing as both a woman and as a mom. I'm thinking long term and looking towards marriage though. I'd also want to meet her kids (I personally have a six month rule for newcomers and my daughter), just to see if I get along with them. Chemistry isn't the exact word that I'm looking for, but I'd need to see if I could get along with the kids as well.

This.. In my Martin voice.."You go boy!"

Anonymous wrote:Mike Brsdy was.

Yeah, but he kept his live-in housekeeper after the marriage.

Darrin Stephens made his wife promise not to use witchcraft. How'd that work out?

Anonymous wrote:People on this site are just mean spirited. Their worlds are not as perfect as they thing.

I would data a woman with 3 kids if I was into her.

Try a composition course first!

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Anonymous wrote:You are 29 and have three kids. I think you should be focusing on them rather than dating so you don't wind up a single mom of four.

+1

This! To those whom are offended, the truth hurts. Focus on your children and get on birth control.

How about trying therapy with the father? He sounds like an involved father. If he isn't abusive, I think he is your best bet. As you are 29 you might not yet appreciate that when you are married to someone you don't necessarily feel super in love with them every moment of every day. Between such moments, what helps is to appreciate them. If he is a good father to your children, that shouldn't be too hard. Your whole family, including you might be happier in the long run with such an approach.

Anonymous wrote:I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

I don't think "awe" is the right word. I personally find this situation very sad for her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:If it were me, yes, I would run the other way. 29 is way too young to have 3 kids as a single mom.

But then, I'm not a guy.

On the one hand women get criticized for nit having kids early enough and on the other for doing just that.

I'm not criticizing her for having kids early. I'm criticizing her for having 3 children with no husband in the picture, and now looking around to "date."