Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Each night, I make one dinner and one dinner only! Anyone who doesn't like it is free to make him/herself a bowl of cereal or a sandwich. But I'm not gonna lift a finger to help them. And if they actually eat the meal I put upon their plate, they will get dessert. 90% of the time, they eat what I make.

What would you do if one kid cried, said he was hungry, but couldn't/wouldn't make himself eat what you made, and didn't like any of the other food you had? And just didn't eat? And lost weight... fell to 1%ile for his height, from 25th or so?

I.e. if you had one of the picky eaters who was "happy to starve"?

If you don't find out what's wrong and let your kid fall to the 1st percentile then you are just a terrible human.

And im all for the "make your own meal if you dont like mine" strategy

What's wrong is, he's a picky eater, and if you don't make him a meal of what he wants, he's happy to just not eat. he won't get up and feed himself.

And there is no medical help or specialists you could possibly attempt to see. Its not like we live in a country that is knowledgable about emotional disorders. Its not like you might have a family medical provider who could help you. Its not like you have a computer or anything to find help. Its not like you have ANY options at all but to let DC fall into the lowest % for weight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Each night, I make one dinner and one dinner only! Anyone who doesn't like it is free to make him/herself a bowl of cereal or a sandwich. But I'm not gonna lift a finger to help them. And if they actually eat the meal I put upon their plate, they will get dessert. 90% of the time, they eat what I make.

What would you do if one kid cried, said he was hungry, but couldn't/wouldn't make himself eat what you made, and didn't like any of the other food you had? And just didn't eat? And lost weight... fell to 1%ile for his height, from 25th or so?

I.e. if you had one of the picky eaters who was "happy to starve"?

If you don't find out what's wrong and let your kid fall to the 1st percentile then you are just a terrible human.

And im all for the "make your own meal if you dont like mine" strategy

What's wrong is, he's a picky eater, and if you don't make him a meal of what he wants, he's happy to just not eat. he won't get up and feed himself.

Great post OP! NP here. DH is a nightmare picky eater, and one of my DC is too. I am grateful for the supportive posts I see here. Thank you from a mom who is at her wits end, especially with DH. I feel like it is time for him to grow up and AWAY from his mom's awful, limited "menu". Yuck.

I feel like DH needs to be a good example, not still be compensating for his own moms lack of kitchen skills. I'm not The French Chef, but at least I try and its better than his moms, so yes, it makes me very frustrated.

Anyway, thanks again.

my son is the same except that he won't touch any fruits. He is 7 now. I tried everything and finally give up and just make meal out of his allow items and supplement with Vitamines. As long as he has BM everyday, and is in general healthy. I will just leave him alone. My husband was the same when he was little. He now eats lots of veg. everyday. He told me he still doesn't like those but knows better so he'd force himself.