Anonymous
Post 03/08/2013 14:44     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm howling over this thread. I'm so glad that fiddlesticks is being addressed!

I correct my son (almost 6) when he says fart, butt, stupid and dumb. That's about the extent of the bad words he uses, although he loves screaming, "What the heck?!?" all the time. It's a little crass, but I feel that I have bigger fish to fry with him.


So what do you call a fart? When my 2yo farts, he says "excuse me, I farted." I'm not about to make him say "I passed gas" or even worse, "I tooted!" and I'm pretty conservative about language. The same with "butt," which is a body part! What pray tell do you use instead?



Not the pp you are talking to, but my children also don't say fart/pee/doo-doo. They say pass gas/urinate/defecate.


I'm not about to make my 2yo say that. I don't think I could keep a straight face with his little squeaky voice saying "Mama, I need to defecate."

I prefer, "I used the restroom." If he needs to tell me what he did he can say pee or poop. This isn't a hospital.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 20:02     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Given that my kids used goddammit appropriately at 3, I gave up. In a house where all the adults swear like sailors, the practical thing to do was teach the kids where they were allowed to swear: at home, not in front of grammy, not at school, etc. Much the same way I taught them that handling their genitalia was only allowed in the bed/bathroom, I taught them that swearing was for the home.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 15:16     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:They're only cursing if you're Mitt Romney!


Just finished reading the book Ike's Bluff, in which there's a mention that Eisenhower, wanting to seem reverent, had someone start every Cabinet meeting with a prayer. That is, until the day a Cabinet meeting ended and Ike exclaimed, "Goddammit, we forgot the prayer!"
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 14:52     Subject: Re:are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
People don't really say these words anymore. What they do say, which I question is WTF? and OMG (the letters). friggin' and fricking. That sucks! -- a sympathy phrase, instead of I'm sorry that happened; and stupid. Fake cursing. Not crazy about it b/c what is the diffeence? (really?)
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 13:23     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Fiddle-dee-dee!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 13:09     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me laugh. It reminds me of how my dad used to say, "Jeepers!" when we were growing up. We used to laugh at him b/c we were all like, "'Jeepers?!? Jeepers?!? Seriously, what does that even MEAN??? Who else besides, say, the Bobbsey Twins, says, 'Jeepers!'?!?!?'



PS For the record, I will add "Jeepers" to the list of words my kids can say, along with Shoot, Rats, Crud, Crap, Darn, Gosh, Oh my Gosh, etc.


Are you kidding me? Jeepers CLEARLY is a replacement for "Jesus!" Don't you care that you're consigning your kids to an eternity of flames in hell?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:52     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mother of 4 again. I should also add it has nothing to do with being old and out of touch. I was a teenage Mom...I'll be 33 this year.


Arranged marriage?


No. Just a really lucky teenage couple who made it through (19 years together and counting...).
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:50     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
This thread is making me laugh. It reminds me of how my dad used to say, "Jeepers!" when we were growing up. We used to laugh at him b/c we were all like, "'Jeepers?!? Jeepers?!? Seriously, what does that even MEAN??? Who else besides, say, the Bobbsey Twins, says, 'Jeepers!'?!?!?'



PS For the record, I will add "Jeepers" to the list of words my kids can say, along with Shoot, Rats, Crud, Crap, Darn, Gosh, Oh my Gosh, etc.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:48     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
OP, if you are more confused now than before, you have every right to be.

Darn and what the heck are NOT curses. Fiddlesticks is definitely not a curse and is so old-fashioned as to sound quaint and out of touch. It in no way implies or replaces fuck, but it doesn't matter because no kid would ever say it. Rats is fine. And shoot is pretty lightweight, too.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:43     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:Mother of 4 again. I should also add it has nothing to do with being old and out of touch. I was a teenage Mom...I'll be 33 this year.


Arranged marriage?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:42     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm howling over this thread. I'm so glad that fiddlesticks is being addressed!

I correct my son (almost 6) when he says fart, butt, stupid and dumb. That's about the extent of the bad words he uses, although he loves screaming, "What the heck?!?" all the time. It's a little crass, but I feel that I have bigger fish to fry with him.


So what do you call a fart? When my 2yo farts, he says "excuse me, I farted." I'm not about to make him say "I passed gas" or even worse, "I tooted!" and I'm pretty conservative about language. The same with "butt," which is a body part! What pray tell do you use instead?



Not the pp you are talking to, but my children also don't say fart/pee/doo-doo. They say pass gas/urinate/defecate.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:41     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:12:17, just to add these are our rules at home. We don't talk about farts in public and my 2yo knows that. I did, unfortunately, pass along "Oh my God" and it's only because of all the crazy things that he has heard me react to in the last 6 months.


Hiliarious. B/c I myself would not allow this one, b/c, to me, this is really wrong (taking the Lord's name in vain) and all the other things are just silly sounds. You are the one making the mental connection to "The worse version" of these words. I don't even think a kid would make this connection. Honestly, I never did or do!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:35     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Anonymous wrote:We say "fuck" as in "ah fuck it" around our house. We don't say, "oh dad fucked me last night". Never.


That's fantastic!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:29     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
They're only cursing if you're Mitt Romney!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2013 12:25     Subject: are "darn it" and "what the heck" cursing?
Why are the actual words bad or disrespectful? I get that cursing at someone or calling someone a name is wrong, of course, but why is it wrong to use "curse" words when you hurt yourself?