Anonymous
Post 05/10/2013 08:54     Subject: Re:I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:Update???

I am in a similar situation. Wondering how long the "crush" will last.


I'm back. . .OP here. Well, I had succeeded in letting it go for several months. Now work crush is going through a rough time in his personal life, we've had lunch/drinks a couple of times to talk, and it is back. He is such a decent guy and frankly, he shares a lot of the qualities that led me to fall in love with my husband. The difference is the chemistry/new-ness of work guy, who I think has 0% clue how I feel. I have no idea if he harbors the same thoughts about me, and I seriously hope he doesn't. I would NEVER do anything about it but damn. . .I just can't stop the fantasies that roll around my head. I need to channel those into my husband, big time. Thankfully both work guy and I are planning to leave our current organization, so that should help. I'd really like to stay in touch with this guy as a friend, and I think he would want that too. I just don't think it's wise. If only he had all of the personality qualities but was ugly as hell. Why does he have to be hot, too? And why the hell can he not just settle down with someone? The fact that he's single only intensifies the fantasies for me, because I know he's available.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2013 14:43     Subject: Re:I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:Update???

I am in a similar situation. Wondering how long the "crush" will last.


8 months
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2013 16:02     Subject: Re:I havr a crush on my coworker
Update???

I am in a similar situation. Wondering how long the "crush" will last.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2013 19:26     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
I got a salad and ate it at my desk. Plead work overload. He stopped ny for a brief chat related to my project - that's all. DH being am ass tonight isn't helping my state of mind on this.
strongone
Post 01/04/2013 14:28     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
More importantly, Mr. Man just emailed me for lunch today. My female coworker who acts as the buffer is still out on vacation. I know I need to turn him down but what should I say? Our office is sooooo small. I didn't bring lunch today so I have to go out and get something and can't use that excuse. Shit. Shit shit shit. I was doing so good, too. . .I had really let it go since getting home from our holiday vacation.


Turn down lunch with him and go with me

In all seriousness, don't do what you'll later regret. It works AWESOME in your fantasies, but it will not work out as well in real life, more likely than not. Take it from me: there is nothing worse than living with regret.

Well, maybe not nothing but you get the idea.


I know. I'm just going to say I'm so busy I have to eat at my desk today. Why am I worried about hurting his feelings?

Someone, kick me in the ass. I am such a damned heel.


Where'd you go OP? Curious what happened with your lunch time...
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2013 12:17     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?


OP here and I say no. It's the same either way. Hence why I feel like a terrible ass.

More importantly, Mr. Man just emailed me for lunch today. My female coworker who acts as the buffer is still out on vacation. I know I need to turn him down but what should I say? Our office is sooooo small. I didn't bring lunch today so I have to go out and get something and can't use that excuse. Shit. Shit shit shit. I was doing so good, too. . .I had really let it go since getting home from our holiday vacation.


I think it depends on what type of panties you are wearing today...
strongone
Post 01/04/2013 12:11     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
You may not hurt his feelings, you never know. Let him down easy, but firmly. He may get the message to leave him alone.

I had... have? Idk... a crush on a coworker also. She gives me mixed signals like crazy. She's warm and friendly one day, coming to visit my office and chatting it up, another day she'll pass me without a word, or be dismissive and curt.

But I asked her to happy hour, coffee other things before and always been turned down. Be consistent, at least with the offers, and he'll chill out. Hell, my feelings for my coworker have cooled.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2013 12:06     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
strongone wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?


OP here and I say no. It's the same either way. Hence why I feel like a terrible ass.

More importantly, Mr. Man just emailed me for lunch today. My female coworker who acts as the buffer is still out on vacation. I know I need to turn him down but what should I say? Our office is sooooo small. I didn't bring lunch today so I have to go out and get something and can't use that excuse. Shit. Shit shit shit. I was doing so good, too. . .I had really let it go since getting home from our holiday vacation.


Turn down lunch with him and go with me

In all seriousness, don't do what you'll later regret. It works AWESOME in your fantasies, but it will not work out as well in real life, more likely than not. Take it from me: there is nothing worse than living with regret.

Well, maybe not nothing but you get the idea.


I know. I'm just going to say I'm so busy I have to eat at my desk today. Why am I worried about hurting his feelings?

Someone, kick me in the ass. I am such a damned heel.
strongone
Post 01/04/2013 12:04     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?


OP here and I say no. It's the same either way. Hence why I feel like a terrible ass.

More importantly, Mr. Man just emailed me for lunch today. My female coworker who acts as the buffer is still out on vacation. I know I need to turn him down but what should I say? Our office is sooooo small. I didn't bring lunch today so I have to go out and get something and can't use that excuse. Shit. Shit shit shit. I was doing so good, too. . .I had really let it go since getting home from our holiday vacation.


Turn down lunch with him and go with me

In all seriousness, don't do what you'll later regret. It works AWESOME in your fantasies, but it will not work out as well in real life, more likely than not. Take it from me: there is nothing worse than living with regret.

Well, maybe not nothing but you get the idea.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2013 11:50     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?


OP here and I say no. It's the same either way. Hence why I feel like a terrible ass.

More importantly, Mr. Man just emailed me for lunch today. My female coworker who acts as the buffer is still out on vacation. I know I need to turn him down but what should I say? Our office is sooooo small. I didn't bring lunch today so I have to go out and get something and can't use that excuse. Shit. Shit shit shit. I was doing so good, too. . .I had really let it go since getting home from our holiday vacation.
strongone
Post 01/03/2013 16:22     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?


Oh snap. Well played. Definitely a YES on that one.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2013 16:19     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
so:

if a woman has inappropriate feelings toward a male coworker = crush

if a man has inappropriate feelings toward a female coworker = emotional affair.

y or n ?
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2012 22:13     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
What would you like me to do to you if I was there?
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2012 21:06     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say: enjoy the flirtation and rub one out as many times as you need to. Fuck the shit out of him I your mind, down and dirty fantasies - on the desk, in the car, in the hotel room. When you can, channel all that into hubby. It worked for me and then I got pregnant and lost all interest in the crush. Now I just have a list of men I like to fantasize about: the contractor who worked on our condo, the hot Dad at daycare, the bosses boss at work. I think they have thought about fucking me, too but nothing goes beyond flirtation. So don't act on it but love the fantasy and enjoy knowing someone thinks you are hot.


In fact, I look at you at daycare, too, and think often about fucking you senseless. I want to move beyond fantasy.

Signed,

Hot Dad From Daycare


Now that is just the perfect end to 2012. I'll be wet all night thinking about you.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2012 20:39     Subject: I havr a crush on my coworker
Anonymous wrote:I say: enjoy the flirtation and rub one out as many times as you need to. Fuck the shit out of him I your mind, down and dirty fantasies - on the desk, in the car, in the hotel room. When you can, channel all that into hubby. It worked for me and then I got pregnant and lost all interest in the crush. Now I just have a list of men I like to fantasize about: the contractor who worked on our condo, the hot Dad at daycare, the bosses boss at work. I think they have thought about fucking me, too but nothing goes beyond flirtation. So don't act on it but love the fantasy and enjoy knowing someone thinks you are hot.


In fact, I look at you at daycare, too, and think often about fucking you senseless. I want to move beyond fantasy.

Signed,

Hot Dad From Daycare