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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

You can't really explain attraction. I find butch women (and many other women) hot, and don't find men hot.

I'm not really a femme, but fall more on the femme end then the butch end of the lesbian spectrum, although I love me some jeans and flannel shirts for casual wear. My work and dressy clothes are feminine-ish, but I am allergic to pastels and frills. I find heels uncomfortable, and wear them maybe twice a year. My wife dresses very slightly more femininely than I do. People generally wear clothes that they feel reflect their identities. Butch lesbians dress the way they do because they want to look like butch lesbians, not because they want to look like men.

That must be the very essence of being gay...as a straight person, I'm not at all into androgyny.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

I don't understand this either. I mean, if you decide at some point that you're more attracted to women than men how do you end up with a woman who looks more like a man than a woman? I'm not trying to be offensive, it's just really hard for me to understand.

And there's your problem right there. I didn't "decide" I was attracted to my butch partner anymore than you decided who you are attracted to. It just is. You're other problem is that your construct of what a man or woman should look like is restricting. Wearing pants as a masculine is a social construct. My partner is just as much of a woman as I am. She happens to like wearing pants and particular clothes and her hair in a certain way. Just like I like to wear particular clothes, make up and my hair in a certain way.

What do you think the differences between men and women are? Obviously not their clothing. Do you think the only differences between the genders are their physical attributes?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

I don't understand this either. I mean, if you decide at some point that you're more attracted to women than men how do you end up with a woman who looks more like a man than a woman? I'm not trying to be offensive, it's just really hard for me to understand.

And there's your problem right there. I didn't "decide" I was attracted to my butch partner anymore than you decided who you are attracted to. It just is. You're other problem is that your construct of what a man or woman should look like is restricting. Wearing pants as a masculine is a social construct. My partner is just as much of a woman as I am. She happens to like wearing pants and particular clothes and her hair in a certain way. Just like I like to wear particular clothes, make up and my hair in a certain way.

Have you ever been attracted to an effeminate man?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

Because she suffers the discrimination and bashing out in the world that I escape as a femme, and she still holds her head high. Because she's incredibly strong and lets me behind that wall she has to put up in order to deal the the bullshit of homophobia.

You're physically attracted to her beause of her character?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

Because I'm gay. Why a guy instead of a masculine woman?

Because a guy is different from me. I'd just masturbate instead of being with someone who's just like me.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

When they get undressed, they still have all the delicious attributes of a woman's body.

But why would you want to make love to a replica of yourself?

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

You can't really explain attraction. I find butch women (and many other women) hot, and don't find men hot.

I'm not really a femme, but fall more on the femme end then the butch end of the lesbian spectrum, although I love me some jeans and flannel shirts for casual wear. My work and dressy clothes are feminine-ish, but I am allergic to pastels and frills. I find heels uncomfortable, and wear them maybe twice a year. My wife dresses very slightly more femininely than I do. People generally wear clothes that they feel reflect their identities. Butch lesbians dress the way they do because they want to look like butch lesbians, not because they want to look like men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite - what physically attracts a femme to a butch? Why a masculine woman instead of a guy?

I don't understand this either. I mean, if you decide at some point that you're more attracted to women than men how do you end up with a woman who looks more like a man than a woman? I'm not trying to be offensive, it's just really hard for me to understand.

Different PP here. When did you decide that you were attracted to men? And the types. When did you decide that dark haired men appealed more to you? Or light haired? When did you decide that taller men were more attractive? Or shorter men? When did you decide that you wanted a more urban type? Or a more rugged outdoors type? When did you make all of the decisions of what attracted you to types of men? And despite all of these things that we find most attractive, when do the ones that fall in love with someone completely against their "type" decide that this strange person that they would never have believed that they could be attracted to, was the one that attracted them?

You didn't. Most people don't "choose" these things. They just find that certain people are more attractive than others based on a collection of thousands of inputs that make up your collective personal history. It may be someone with attributes that reminds you of a particular loved one, or mannerisms that make you comfortable, or features that appeal because they are reminiscent of an attractive famous person or on and on.

Gay people are people. They don't choose their sexual orientation. They don't choose the features that appeal to them. They are a composite of a thousand different experiences that make certain types more attractive to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?

This is hilarious. Yeah, it's all about that penis. Everything is about the penis. Straight women worship the penis and lesbians hate/fear the penis. It's all women think about.

News flash:it's about the person attached to the penis that women are attracted to.

I'm the pp you quoted and I'm a woman. I love dick and think about it quite a bit

So it doesn't matter whether it's attached to a man or woman, whether the owner is ugly or attractive, nice or mean, old or young? You just want it with whomever is game? Is that what you mean PP?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?

This is hilarious. Yeah, it's all about that penis. Everything is about the penis. Straight women worship the penis and lesbians hate/fear the penis. It's all women think about.

News flash:it's about the person attached to the penis that women are attracted to.

I'm the pp you quoted and I'm a woman. I love dick and think about it quite a bit

Anonymous wrote:Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?

This is hilarious. Yeah, it's all about that penis. Everything is about the penis. Straight women worship the penis and lesbians hate/fear the penis. It's all women think about.

News flash:it's about the person attached to the penis that women are attracted to.

Anonymous wrote:Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?

Some have told me they are turned off/repulsed by penises. No one has ever expressed fear of them.

I personally don't find them a turn off or scary. The rest of a man's body I don't find particularly attractive. The soft curves, waist, breasts, etc. are what attract me to other women.

Anonymous wrote:Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?

It depends on the guys wielding them. We're not turned off by an attractive guy's body, and might even choose to watch gay male porn. And the only penises I fear belong to rapists.

Are lesbians turned off by penises? Are they scared of them?