Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:53
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:13:12, so what are you now doing that you didn't do before the kids.
Had kids in my late 20's and early 30's. Something clicked when I hit my 40's and I wanted to explore more of my sexuality. My DH has always been a great lover and very inventive so we weren't 100% vanilla even then, but he had always been the one introducing new stuff over the years. Things I started to desire and ask for: anal, rim jobs, 6/9 position. Introduced new toys: cuffs (my favorite), blindfolds, rabbit. Switched up places and time of day when I initiated sex: ex. more morning shower sex, sex in the middle of the day even while the kids are in the house (challenging but thrilling), sex in the kitchen, family room couch, etc. when the kids are out. Asked him more of what he wanted and liked. I get a high out of doing what he likes and satisfying him. It's a great feeling.
Why didn't I marry a women like you? I would kill for just one of the things you list. It's always the other guy who gets more than me.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:49
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Had kids in my late 20's and early 30's. Something clicked when I hit my 40's and I wanted to explore more of my sexuality. My DH has always been a great lover and very inventive so we weren't 100% vanilla even then, but he had always been the one introducing new stuff over the years. Things I started to desire and ask for: anal, rim jobs, 6/9 position. Introduced new toys: cuffs (my favorite), blindfolds, rabbit. Switched up places and time of day when I initiated sex: ex. more morning shower sex, sex in the middle of the day even while the kids are in the house (challenging but thrilling), sex in the kitchen, family room couch, etc. when the kids are out. Asked him more of what he wanted and liked. I get a high out of doing what he likes and satisfying him. It's a great feeling.
I wish my now-husband and I hadn't done all of this when we were just starting out, because now there's not much else to try that interests us. And I'm bored by sex now.
Try bondage. You will not get bored.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:48
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The nanny/ Au Pair banging DB and another thread about women not hiring hot nannys has me thinking about the statement above. Is it really true that men don't cheat because they don't have someone to cheat with or don't have women throw themselves at them? I trust my husband and to the best of my knowledge, he's never cheated on me, but if Megan Fox offered him a quick BJ and he was absolutely sure that it would remain a secret, I don't know if he'd turn it down. Am I upset at this thought? honestly no. But what does that say about my marriage?
I have no idea whether this is true or not. But do you have any principled basis for sayign it's true about men, and not women? Robert Pattinson offers you a quickie, you're saying no?
LOL. I think I would pass on Robert Pattinson since he is posted all over my teenager's wall. Would seem creepy like I'm going after my daughter's age group. Now if it was Ryan Gossling, umm, don't know if I could resist that one.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:47
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:13:12, so what are you now doing that you didn't do before the kids.
Had kids in my late 20's and early 30's. Something clicked when I hit my 40's and I wanted to explore more of my sexuality. My DH has always been a great lover and very inventive so we weren't 100% vanilla even then, but he had always been the one introducing new stuff over the years. Things I started to desire and ask for: anal, rim jobs, 6/9 position. Introduced new toys: cuffs (my favorite), blindfolds, rabbit. Switched up places and time of day when I initiated sex: ex. more morning shower sex, sex in the middle of the day even while the kids are in the house (challenging but thrilling), sex in the kitchen, family room couch, etc. when the kids are out. Asked him more of what he wanted and liked. I get a high out of doing what he likes and satisfying him. It's a great feeling.
We were doing all those things when I found out my husband was cheating.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:47
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
agreed, I don't know if it's really about your DW being everything you've ever wanted in a woman or if it's just about getting some strange once in a while.
I think it depends on the man. Some men enjoy monogamy and some men feel they are missing out and need to tap anything with a vagina.
+1. Many of us really cannot be bothered with trying to seduce a women. We got tired of doing that crap when we were single.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:45
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
Disagree. Men who are sexually satisfied at home are few less likely to stray.
This has been proven to be untrue in studies.
Men who report being sexually satisfied at home also report being unfaithful at the same rate as men who report they are unsatisfied sexually at home.
I don't trust surveys.
Studies are not surveys.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:45
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
Disagree. Men who are sexually satisfied at home are few less likely to stray.
You both are right as there is no way to prove 100% otherwise.
You can actually "prove" it through studies.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:44
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Had kids in my late 20's and early 30's. Something clicked when I hit my 40's and I wanted to explore more of my sexuality. My DH has always been a great lover and very inventive so we weren't 100% vanilla even then, but he had always been the one introducing new stuff over the years. Things I started to desire and ask for: anal, rim jobs, 6/9 position. Introduced new toys: cuffs (my favorite), blindfolds, rabbit. Switched up places and time of day when I initiated sex: ex. more morning shower sex, sex in the middle of the day even while the kids are in the house (challenging but thrilling), sex in the kitchen, family room couch, etc. when the kids are out. Asked him more of what he wanted and liked. I get a high out of doing what he likes and satisfying him. It's a great feeling.
I wish my now-husband and I hadn't done all of this when we were just starting out, because now there's not much else to try that interests us. And I'm bored by sex now.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:44
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
Disagree. Men who are sexually satisfied at home are few less likely to stray.
This has been proven to be untrue in studies.
Men who report being sexually satisfied at home also report being unfaithful at the same rate as men who report they are unsatisfied sexually at home.
I don't trust surveys.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:43
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Many people will believe whatever will allow them to feel OK with their decisions.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:43
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:The nanny/ Au Pair banging DB and another thread about women not hiring hot nannys has me thinking about the statement above. Is it really true that men don't cheat because they don't have someone to cheat with or don't have women throw themselves at them? I trust my husband and to the best of my knowledge, he's never cheated on me, but if Megan Fox offered him a quick BJ and he was absolutely sure that it would remain a secret, I don't know if he'd turn it down. Am I upset at this thought? honestly no. But what does that say about my marriage?
I have no idea whether this is true or not. But do you have any principled basis for sayign it's true about men, and not women? Robert Pattinson offers you a quickie, you're saying no?
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:41
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
Disagree. Men who are sexually satisfied at home are few less likely to stray.
This has been proven to be untrue in studies.
Men who report being sexually satisfied at home also report being unfaithful at the same rate as men who report they are unsatisfied sexually at home.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:40
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
agreed, I don't know if it's really about your DW being everything you've ever wanted in a woman or if it's just about getting some strange once in a while.
I think it depends on the man. Some men enjoy monogamy and some men feel they are missing out and need to tap anything with a vagina.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:39
Subject: Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Infidelity has nothing to do with gender. It is about values, morals, and character.
Anonymous
09/19/2012 13:37
Subject: Re:Men are only as Faithful as their Options
Anonymous wrote:There are plenty of "animals in bed" whose spouses are cheating.
agreed, I don't know if it's really about your DW being everything you've ever wanted in a woman or if it's just about getting some strange once in a while.