Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 20:57     Subject: Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
Anonymous wrote:It is called ttc
If a woman does not get pregnant she find a man who look like her man and that is how you get the saying "postmans" child


For real? I can't seem to get knocked up with #2, but finding a similar man to have an affair with has never crossed my mind. Never. Who the eff does that?
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 20:53     Subject: Re:Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has a teenage DD. Her DH is not the father of the DD and he does not know. He thinks that she is his biological child She had a quick ONS with a former BF during a rough patch in their marriage and the DD was conceived during this time. She said that she always knew that the BF would not really be father material and could not provide the way her DH would be able to provide. Her DH and his parents (paternal grandparents) love and adore her DD. My friends feels that it is best to leave things the way they are.


Your friend is a despicable person. That is about the worst thing you can do to a man. And you are no prize yourself for assisting in the cover up.


NP--are you crazy, PP in bold? You would stick your big nose in someone else's private business just because it offends YOU? What if the "dad" goes postal upon hearing the news and kills everyone? You are despicable for thinking it's your place to open your damn mouth.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 17:27     Subject: Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
DH's grandmother worked for a doctor back the the forties. Three of her five children were his instead of her husband's. She told my MIL when she was on her deathbed.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 17:14     Subject: Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
People think this stuff only happens on Maury, but look at the cluster-mess of John Edwards and co.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 17:09     Subject: Re:Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has a teenage DD. Her DH is not the father of the DD and he does not know. He thinks that she is his biological child She had a quick ONS with a former BF during a rough patch in their marriage and the DD was conceived during this time. She said that she always knew that the BF would not really be father material and could not provide the way her DH would be able to provide. Her DH and his parents (paternal grandparents) love and adore her DD. My friends feels that it is best to leave things the way they are.


Your friend is a despicable person. That is about the worst thing you can do to a man. And you are no prize yourself for assisting in the cover up.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 16:56     Subject: Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This isn't something new. They should be doing mandatory paternity testing at birth before putting a name on a birth certificate.


mandatory? even if it were reasonable (and legal) to force new mothers to submit their newborns to unnecessary tests like this, shouldn't at least the father/husband/supposed-father have a right to decide he doesn't need such a test?


The military acts on this suspicion by mandating rhogam shots to every mother. I had to fight so hard to not be subjected to it. I told the OB that we were high school sweethearts and that there was no way I could fool anyone, since we are two different races and it would be obvious I was right, but they refused to back off. I was so naive at the time, it took me a while to realize that they did not trust that the father was who I said it was, period.


What on earth are you talking about.

We are a long time military family with young kids and have never heard of anything like that.


Maybe I drew a bad OB, but even though my husband and I were clearly and demonstratively O negative, I was pressured at every appointment to get a rhogam shot "just in case.". Maybe it's because I was young and enlisted, I don't know, but eventually, the OB flat-out said that they can't trust a mother's word when there are lives on the line, so the policy was a shot for everyone.

Maybe that wasn't true. Wouldn't be the first time military medicine completely stunk.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 16:51     Subject: Re:Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
In a book called The Midwife, by Jennifer Worth, there are several stories about this. I know the book is now a popular BBC miniseries--I wonder if these stories will be included?

One is funny, one is tragic, and one is incredibly inspirational They are from 1950s London, and they really capture our fallen nature...and the hope for redemption.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2012 16:40     Subject: Men raising children that are not theirs without knowing about it
It is called ttc
If a woman does not get pregnant she find a man who look like her man and that is how you get the saying "postmans" child