bakersman wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I must say i'm surprised at the response to this thread, I thought I was the only one like this.

How many of you have spouses and kids though and how do you relate to them? Do you ever fear that the way you are will affect your kids? If so how?

Are you asking for the number of real or imaginary spouses and kids?

Ha! real spouses and kids. In my alternate world, I don't have a spouse or kids

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I must say i'm surprised at the response to this thread, I thought I was the only one like this.

How many of you have spouses and kids though and how do you relate to them? Do you ever fear that the way you are will affect your kids? If so how?

Are you asking for the number of real or imaginary spouses and kids?

OP here, I must say i'm surprised at the response to this thread, I thought I was the only one like this.

How many of you have spouses and kids though and how do you relate to them? Do you ever fear that the way you are will affect your kids? If so how?

Maybe we have Asperger's or something like it?

Anonymous wrote:But really though, do people really care what you did over the weekend? I sure as hell don't

I know, seriously. That is basically what I think too? So, if I throw out a bon mot, aren't I doing everyone a favor? ?? Really??

But really though, do people really care what you did over the weekend? I sure as hell don't

Anonymous wrote:If you are successfully functioning in your personal and public life than you're not bat-shit crazy. Maybe try mindfulness training (google it for a full explanation).......it will help you get more connected with the present moment. If you are stuck inside your head (which I myself am totally guilty of), you are either reviewing events from the past and future and not participating in what is unfolding in the present. What do you think, OP?

OP here, thanks, I will take a look. I definitely replay the past over and over and future is all fantasies of what I wish to happen

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sort of like this...I can completely end a friendship (usually just by not responding) if its on my terms. If its not on my terms I become a bit obsessed about it.

ha! I am the same way. I never thought to connect the two- my obsessive daydreaming and my ability to just shrug and walk away from people. It has only recently dawned on me that I am a bit self-absorbed. Like I have to remind myself that people want me to ask how was your weekend etc. Otherwise, I;d be happy to keep singing songs in my head or having my imaginery dramas that keep me entertained/

Ha ha! This is me too!!!!

+1000, I am often shocked that people MAY be interested in me to the point of getting irritated when they ask about me. So I direct the questions to them and ask about them instead but often I find that I genuinely don't care about the answers

Oh my, this is me too. Sometimes I'm surprised if I'm walking down the hal;l, if someone says hi to me. Not like surprised in a denigrating, woe-is-little-ol'-me, way. But surprised that they saw me. B/c I sure as heck am not paying attn. I am thinking about where I am going, what I need to do when I get there, or some other such thing in my head. Maybe we are all just very focused? (?)

And yes, if people are asking me about my weekend, I usually throw out some little bon mot and then go back to thinking about what ever else I want to think about.

EEK! I sound like a wackoo!!!

I will say in my defense that in all of these descriptions, I am saying how I am at my JOB. In my personal life, no, I am not this way. I am primarily like this at my JOB.

hmmm. took the test, mine isn't really depersonalization.

Anonymous wrote:I truly don't mean any disrespect, but I feel as if this thread is a single person talking to herself. I consider myself to very much be in my own world, that many don't understand me on a deep level, all that stuff, but I don't get this at all (the in-head soundtrack? the talking to yourself? the no one knows me? the my kid doesn't feel like my kid?) I don't get it.

How do we know that you are not the OP and that you are not talking to yourself right now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sort of like this...I can completely end a friendship (usually just by not responding) if its on my terms. If its not on my terms I become a bit obsessed about it.

ha! I am the same way. I never thought to connect the two- my obsessive daydreaming and my ability to just shrug and walk away from people. It has only recently dawned on me that I am a bit self-absorbed. Like I have to remind myself that people want me to ask how was your weekend etc. Otherwise, I;d be happy to keep singing songs in my head or having my imaginery dramas that keep me entertained/

Ha ha! This is me too!!!!

+1000, I am often shocked that people MAY be interested in me to the point of getting irritated when they ask about me. So I direct the questions to them and ask about them instead but often I find that I genuinely don't care about the answers

I can't tell you how much time I have spent talking to my therapist about this exact issue -- "do any thing exciting this weekend? what are you having for lunch today?" I have no idea why it irritates me. I just keep reminding myself that they are trying to be nice and simply don't have anything more interesting to say. So I have started coming to lunch with a couple of topics to discuss that interest me and might be an interest to others.

Conversations in my head and lots of sex fantasies I go to... in a 'to be continued' kind of way. I just add to it every day/night until I get bored or switch to another fantasy.

I think it's normal though.

OP, you are describing JD from Scrubs.

I spend a good deal of time day dreaming myself. I have never had a problem spending time alone because I am an only child and my parents were generally not available due to work (Dad was a lawyer) and alcohol (both). It took me a long time to realize that spending so much time in my head was having an affect on my relationships with other. Talk therapy helped me be better at being present in the moment with those around me. It makes life more enjoyable.

I still, however, need some down time when I can just be by myself with my own thoughts. I can spend a day just lying on the couch and thinking about all kinds of random things -- like, if you went back in time and recorded Beatles songs before John and Paul wrote them, would they still have enough creativity to write other songs?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sort of like this...I can completely end a friendship (usually just by not responding) if its on my terms. If its not on my terms I become a bit obsessed about it.

ha! I am the same way. I never thought to connect the two- my obsessive daydreaming and my ability to just shrug and walk away from people. It has only recently dawned on me that I am a bit self-absorbed. Like I have to remind myself that people want me to ask how was your weekend etc. Otherwise, I;d be happy to keep singing songs in my head or having my imaginery dramas that keep me entertained/

Ha ha! This is me too!!!!

+1000, I am often shocked that people MAY be interested in me to the point of getting irritated when they ask about me. So I direct the questions to them and ask about them instead but often I find that I genuinely don't care about the answers

If you are successfully functioning in your personal and public life than you're not bat-shit crazy. Maybe try mindfulness training (google it for a full explanation).......it will help you get more connected with the present moment. If you are stuck inside your head (which I myself am totally guilty of), you are either reviewing events from the past and future and not participating in what is unfolding in the present. What do you think, OP?