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Anonymous wrote:some of us white guys do like some ass

and we appreciate you

some of us white guys do like some ass

OP I'd be jealous if you could afford a personal trainer. So do it; many gyms have child care and if you get a trainer through them, the kids are taken care of at the same time.

You might want to try something like Jillian Michaels 30 day shred if you can't deal with logistics of trainer/gym/babysitting. The exercises really target the butt/legs/abdomen. I am 5'5" 140 lbs and wear a bikini (for all the PPs here, when you gain weight in the thighs, one-pieces look worse) and Jillian is kicking my a$$. Best thing is the workouts are 1/2 hour and are interval training - alternate that with a 2-mile walk pushing a double stroller on a hilly route (I bribe my kids with snacks and playground stops) a few times a week and you're set.

I have a close friend who is tiny like you and her DH always makes comments about her weight, and it's one of the big problems I have with him. It's not cool to say to someone who has had their body stretched/morphed twice that they need to lose weight so their stomach isn't so flabby. Men have little to no change in their bodies at all; it's not fair for them to have any clue what women go through on a monthly basis, never mind pregnancy and the like!

Oh, and just to throw everyone off, I'm white, my DH is white, and he has told me plenty of times that he'd prefer me a little bigger. (Personally I like to be in shape and don't mind if my T&A are smaller, but he likes 'em round.)

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you for all the encouragement and feedback. And sharing your own stories. While I agree that it was a total ass comment my DH made. My DH is a great guy, good husband, very involved father, the works.

I think the problem is two fold. One he's used to my attitude that nothing bothers me. Or being able to deal with everything. Two, I know he misses the the old figure that he fell in love with, which was 118 -120 lbs, which was pre-twins and infertility! I don't think he knows what to do with my depression. He's had a job that he loves, and totally kicks ass in. I decided to SAH with the kids and have fallen into a bit of bored routine.

I think it's time for me to take my life back, and it needs to start with exercise!

Again, thanks for all the comments even the fat ones and the one where he will leave me

Why do posters do this? You give such a one sided account that of course, everyone will side with you. Your DH is a great father who provides for his family while you do little, by your own admission. You are stuck in a rut of depression, and instead of taking it as a wake up call, you turn to dcum to pat you on the back.

Tough day at the office 16:05?