trust me there are plenty SAH families getting aid.

I work so that we can afford private school tuition. I would resent the hell out of my donation dollars going to FA for a family with a SAHM. I agree that if private school is enough of a priority, the SAHM would find a way to go back to work. All of us working moms dealt with childcare waitlists and/or hiring a sitter. It can be done.

SAH cannot always return to work. Jobs are not that easy to find, and daycare centres have wait lists. And you need a babysitter to go to job interviews

Anonymous wrote:HHI=120K in DC
Offer was 4k off 23K, starting at 6th grade
Answer to school was no thank you.

I think we have too little debt, too much home equity and a SAHM. None of which we are willing to change as it would negative impact on the other members of the family.

It was difficult, but, in the end, probably the best decision for all concerned.

SAH could return to work if private is a priority.

I don't get that reasoning. On a HHI of $120K, I doubt the breadwinner is traveling for work every other week.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I mean...what if you had to sell the giant house you can't afford in order to send your kid to the fancy school you can't afford. It's like Sophie's Choice all over again. :roll:

Are you serious ? Sophie's choice was over which child would go to the gas chamber and which might live and not choosing meant both would be murdered.

Um, no. This poster wasn't serious. That is why she used the eye roll. Symbol.
Here.
I'll use it again for you, because that will accurately indicate what I am doing right now in response to your response.
:roll:

Anonymous wrote:If you're making $300,000 annually, you most likely can afford to move out to the suburbs with generally better public schools. If you choose to stay closer in to avoid a long commute to your job, or to live in a more urban environment, that's your choice, but certainly not one that I think I, or other past or present donors at our kids' school, should have to subsidize it. It's all about priorities. What kind of job you choose (degree of stress, hours, social utility, pay, location), the type of housing you want and its location, the number of kids you choose to have, whether you and your spouse decide to stay married (at least one parent is making a choice on this one though often not two of course), the value you place on private education as opposed to public, where you're willing to live to get a public that meets your needs, etc. If you're making $300,000 and don't have extraordinary necessary expenses (medical, etc.), I don't want to foot your bill. It's more about choice than necessity.

One can only guess your score on that elite bubble test.

If you're making $300,000 annually, you most likely can afford to move out to the suburbs with generally better public schools. If you choose to stay closer in to avoid a long commute to your job, or to live in a more urban environment, that's your choice, but certainly not one that I think I, or other past or present donors at our kids' school, should have to subsidize it. It's all about priorities. What kind of job you choose (degree of stress, hours, social utility, pay, location), the type of housing you want and its location, the number of kids you choose to have, whether you and your spouse decide to stay married (at least one parent is making a choice on this one though often not two of course), the value you place on private education as opposed to public, where you're willing to live to get a public that meets your needs, etc. If you're making $300,000 and don't have extraordinary necessary expenses (medical, etc.), I don't want to foot your bill. It's more about choice than necessity.