Anonymous wrote:The only person fighting is OP. Everything thinks she is wrong, and she has been continuing to justify her bad behavior. Although, she hasn't been around for a little bit, so maybe she's given up. Unfortunately, she probably won't give up teaching her child to be a fair weather friend.

Anonymous wrote:Poop and farts are funny.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

Please read the thread. This is NOT about small parties (I think small parties are great, personally). This is about defending your 7 year old DD's decision to exclude a girl from her birthday party, even as the DD attended other girl's birthday party that very same weekend.

I did read the thread. And it does seem like people are more concerned that the invitation wasn't reciprocated. That because she got to go to the other girl's party, that other girl should have been able to go to hers. I don't think that's necessarily true. People decide what size parties they want to have. She had her 5 person party. The other girl had a larger party. What in god's name is the problem? This is like saying, "You invited me to your wedding. I chose to attend that wedding. Now, even though I'm having a family-only wedding, I have to invite you to my wedding because I went to yours." No sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

NP here. How can you not get it? As I'm going through this thread, I wanted to type +1, this, agree over and over again. Here's the point:

No one (or maybe a small few) thinks it was bad for the dd to have a small party and only invite a few people.

No one said that dd had to change plans because other girl's party was same weekend.

EVERYONE agrees that because dd made it clear she didn't like the other girl's potty mouth and wouldn't invite her even after she got an invite from her - that she shouldn't go to that girl's party.

How can you not see that? If you clearly don't like someone - enough to purposely exclude them (even when you have room - since the OP said she could add this girl when they got an invite - so they had room specifically for this girl) and enough to tell them to their face "you're not invited because ..." then DON'T GO TO THEIR PARTY. Why is that so hard to see? It makes the dd out to be a selfish user. "I don't like you, but I want to socialize with all your friends on your dime." How can you not see that as rude?

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-You should not have allowed your daughter to attend Girl B's party. If Girl B wasn't good enough for your daughter to invite to her party than your daughter should not have taken advantage of Girl B's hospitality.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

Please read the thread. This is NOT about small parties (I think small parties are great, personally). This is about defending your 7 year old DD's decision to exclude a girl from her birthday party, even as the DD attended other girl's birthday party that very same weekend.

I did read the thread. And it does seem like people are more concerned that the invitation wasn't reciprocated. That because she got to go to the other girl's party, that other girl should have been able to go to hers. I don't think that's necessarily true. People decide what size parties they want to have. She had her 5 person party. The other girl had a larger party. What in god's name is the problem? This is like saying, "You invited me to your wedding. I chose to attend that wedding. Now, even though I'm having a family-only wedding, I have to invite you to my wedding because I went to yours." No sense.

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Anonymous wrote:When you don't invite everybody from one group to a party do you explain to the "not invited" ones why they're left out?

I was reading the other thread and lots of people are saying it was rude to exclude the girl and not say why so I'm wondering here if it's normal or expected to address the crowd left out.

Thanks for any insight.

well, my dd recently made a guest list for her birthday party that excluded a girl who subsequently invited dd to her own birthday party the same weekend. we urged dd to reconsider, but she was adamant saying the other girl had a potty mouth and talked about poop and farts and she didn't want that kind of talk at her party. Keep in mind these kids are 7.

So, awkward, yes, especially since several girls attended both parties. Sure enough, come Monday, the other girl discovers her invitation wasn't reciprocated and marches up to dd to demand why. DD repeated, frankly, what she told us: That the girl had a potty mouth and thus wasn't welcome at her party.

Kids are so refreshingly honest, aren't they? On the one hand we were horrified. I'm sure the girl's parents despise us now. On the other hand, it was probably useful for the kid to hear that there are consequences for having a potty mouth.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

Please read the thread. This is NOT about small parties (I think small parties are great, personally). This is about defending your 7 year old DD's decision to exclude a girl from her birthday party, even as the DD attended other girl's birthday party that very same weekend.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are so up in arms that someone allowed their child to invite just 5 people to her birthday party. Just because this other girl had a party that same weekend doesn't mean the OP had to change their plans. She had a 5 person party. What's the big deal? Are people not allowed to have small parties anymore? And if you opt for a small party, but someone else didn't, that means you can't go to that party? That doesn't make sense to me.