how does the other person not know you are married? how the hell are they ok with yall going around fucking in hotels and the like and not really going out

Anonymous wrote:Are you Dwight from The Office?

Great question, no I live around here not in PA

Have you considered coming clean about it and having an open marriage instead of hiding it?

Anonymous wrote:Is your lover the only person you are with, or do you have multiple lovers?

Lover and my spouse

Anonymous wrote:well this is boring. why dont you just reveal yourself and tell your story

Then go read about the illegal person

Is your lover the only person you are with, or do you have multiple lovers?

Are you Dwight from The Office?

Woman here. "It didn't mean anything," is what men generally say when caught and I used to scoff and think, "How could something so intimate not mean anything"? Then one night I found out that sex really can just be something that means nothing. As Erica Jong would say, a "zipless fuck" and nothing more. Now, I have to say that this was a one-night stand and mainly out of curiosity and too much to drink but, as a woman, I think something long-term would mean something.

I have come to understand that a litttle dalliance is not the worst thing that can happen in a relationship, married or not.

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if your wife found out?

or my husband, I have not said I am a m or f

nice of you to assume only men cheat.

Anonymous wrote:Where do you tell your family that you are when you are with this lover?

Lunchtime is our time when we need to see each other. Never let it cut into family time

How would you feel if your wife found out?

Anonymous wrote:You don't feel at all any remorse for what you are doing?

Why don't you just get a divorce?

Does your lover have a spouse/partner and kids that don't know that he/she is having an affair as well?

I do not want to split up, I have no idea if they have a spouse. they do not know if I have a spouse

well this is boring. why dont you just reveal yourself and tell your story

Where do you tell your family that you are when you are with this lover?

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Anonymous wrote:What else do you hide from your spouse?

Were you every abused emotionally/physically?

How old are your children?

How do you keep from getting caught?

Do you hide money?

Who controls your family's finances?

Good questions

This is all I hide, I have not been abused, kids are ES/MS age, no I do not hide money, we both control them

So, I assume your lover is paying for your trysts? Or you are lying about money too?