Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the OP wanted to understand the feelings that go along with TTC, there are endless resources online.

If she just wanted to talk about TTCers and how she's better than them, she should just say it.

OP is wondering why some, not all - some - people trying to conceive become self-centered, all-about-me, I don't value your happiness, don't even say the word child, egotistical, narcissistic, tunnel-visioned, the sight of a child will burn my eyeballs, people. There are endless resources for that?

Have you never used google? Type "jealousy" and "ttc" into the search bar and then hit "enter".

Agreed, pp. Thank you. Agreed!

Let me just veer slightly off topic here to debunk a popular stereotype. I have lived in this area for most of my life (I'm in my 40's). I'm a partner in a law firm, and many of my friends are professionals. I've seen lots of women who didn't find a partner until relatively late in life struggle with infertility. I've haven't seen ONE married woman delay childbearing until her 40's (or even late 30's) to climb the career ladder. So while it may be common sense to realize that fertility declines with age, let's not just assume that women who are having a hard time conceiving in their 30's and 40's delayed childbearing for for selfish or career reasons. A little compassion, people.

Anonymous wrote:If the OP wanted to understand the feelings that go along with TTC, there are endless resources online.

If she just wanted to talk about TTCers and how she's better than them, she should just say it.

OP is wondering why some, not all - some - people trying to conceive become self-centered, all-about-me, I don't value your happiness, don't even say the word child, egotistical, narcissistic, tunnel-visioned, the sight of a child will burn my eyeballs, people. There are endless resources for that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. OP and the "life is hard, grow a pair" folks here- congrats on your thick skins and unfaltering self esteem. You have prove that you are superior to everyone else here.

At least we move forward instead of being stuck in a rut.

So, by your reasoning, it's bad to have health self-esteem.

interesting . . .

Go take your Prozac and drown yourself in your Vodka tonics then.

I always wonder if people feel guilty after saying something like that to a stranger. You should, because it's just evil.

Another long-time infertile who agrees with the OP.

Life goes on. Everyone has something. I have a few people very close to me who know my story and that's it. For the rest of the world, they get a happy face about babies, TTC, etc. Because the world doesn't revolve around me and my issues.

This whole thread actually reminds me of a thread on the TTC board a while back about whether it's insenstive to bring your child to the infertility clinic (if you're trying for #2). Because some women do not have child care and have no other choice but to bring their #1 for some appointments. I was shocked at the number of women who declared that insensitive under any circumstances.

Anonymous wrote:No one's being a victim here. But plenty of people are being really full of themselves.

I've yet to meet a woman who acts superior because of her "superior" childbearing abilities. I've met many TTC women who are bitter and angry at Moms (esp young ones).

No one's being a victim here. But plenty of people are being really full of themselves.

OP, didn't bother to read the other posts. It took me 8 years to conceive and during that time I didn't act like a drama queen every time a friend got pregnant. I agree with you. These "sensitive" women should get over themselves.

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. OP and the "life is hard, grow a pair" folks here- congrats on your thick skins and unfaltering self esteem. You have prove that you are superior to everyone else here.

At least we move forward instead of being stuck in a rut.

So, by your reasoning, it's bad to have health self-esteem.

interesting . . .

Go take your Prozac and drown yourself in your Vodka tonics then.

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. OP and the "life is hard, grow a pair" folks here- congrats on your thick skins and unfaltering self esteem. You have prove that you are superior to everyone else here.

OMG, STFU. Stop being such a victim.

Exactly. OP and the "life is hard, grow a pair" folks here- congrats on your thick skins and unfaltering self esteem. You have prove that you are superior to everyone else here.

If the OP wanted to understand the feelings that go along with TTC, there are endless resources online.

If she just wanted to talk about TTCers and how she's better than them, she should just say it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people like OP create an "enlighten me" thread that seems oddly vicious? If you really want to know the answer, then fucking google it. If you want to gossip, then just say you want to gossip.

fucking Google what? Why are people so fearful of being honest?

Furthermore, how can you gossip on AN anon. forum?

got to beat the grammar police!

Anonymous wrote:Why do people like OP create an "enlighten me" thread that seems oddly vicious? If you really want to know the answer, then fucking google it. If you want to gossip, then just say you want to gossip.

fucking Google what? Why are people so fearful of being honest?

Furthermore, how can you gossip on a anon. forum?