No way. I dated someone who had been divorced twice - big mistake. Too much baggage. Married someone who had been divorced once. Everything's fine.

My best friend's husband was divorced twice before he married her. He is 38. I was absolutely shocked when I found this out. She had mentioned 1 divorce early on, but didn't mention the second one until I had known her awhile. Anyhow, this husband is a truly great guy--he has stuck by her during some major health issues (she has a debilitating disease). He has gone above and beyond what most men would do if they were in that situation with a wife with a chronic, debilitating disease. So I think you can't always judge just based on number of divorces.

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Anonymous wrote:I was wife #2 to a man who is on wife #4. I really think #4 is the one.

Hope springs eternal.

No skin off my nose, he's not my husband anymore. And the more ex's he has, the bigger our ex-wives club is.

Anonymous wrote:I was wife #2 to a man who is on wife #4. I really think #4 is the one.

Hope springs eternal.

Nooooooo.

If he's hot, kind, attentive and financially stable, might date him knowing that it will likely end at sme point. Marriage, no way.

Bang - yes.
Marry - no.

Anonymous wrote:GF seems to think that the other marriages failed because of the ex-wives. I'm trying to tell her that it usually takes two to make a relationship work. I'm concerned for her and I don't want her to get hurt.

I never understand why people think blaming the other person is an excuse. It's why I don't understand affairs - if a dude says to me, "I'm in a sexless, loveless marriage and it's her fault" - I'd say, why did you marry a sexless, loveless wife? I don't buy that people don't see signs. They ignore and they settle for inadequate love for another reason. It doesn't make them a bad person, that only comes from not seeing the pattern, taking responsibility and admitting, yeah, some of it was my fault.

This guy sounds like a world class loser. Blame blame blame.

No. I might date them, forever. But not marry.

Not a chance.

No way, absolutely not.

If he's filthy rich and would like to marry without a prenup, yes.

Otherwise, no.

Nope.

Depends on the circumstances, whether they had been to therapy. There's always an exception to the rule.

A friend of my grandmother's recently married for the 4th time. Married at 18, husband died in ww2, remarried immediately, second husband also died in ww2. Five or six years later remarried again. Married for 45 or so years until her husband died of liver cancer. Remarried a guy she met at the nursing home.

Too much baggage.