Funny, my child went to school with a kid that I am pretty sure has this and I used to schedule play dates in hope that some of that intent focus would rub off on my child! Viewed as good influence....so there! Didn't work that well,my kid rather play ball but I keep trying!!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Keep it a secret if you want to get in. Sta and St.Anselm's.
How many Harvard grads have I met in Ny with this disorder?.....many!
We have family member with similar diagnosis, DC in top NE. Boarding school...a math phenom...
Parents advised not to disclose. They have offered what child needs to do best. Numerous professionals have told parents not to disclose label to DC. The diagnosis has explained a lot, but need not limit DC unless you let it. I assure you, DC would never have been admitted to current school. DC is viewed as different no doubt...like many Math nerds...good luck and do not listen to people who bring you down...and do not lower bar,your DC will most assuredly reach it.

ITA. My child has an AS dx but can "pass" as NT. I think disclosing Asperger's to private schools only hurts their chances of admission. DS's dad and grandpa both attended elite NE boarding schools and Ivy colleges and their AS symptoms were much worse than DS's: They both did great academically. As long as DC can handle the academics and not need any Sp Ed supports/services, there is no advantage in disclosing this diagnosis.

Absolutely disgusting that in this day and age (oh yes, it's national Autism Awareness month) you feel the need to hide an AS diagnosis.

DS does not need any accommodations or services so how is his diagnosis relevant to the school? I have high blood pressure, I don't tell my employer b/c it's not relevant to my employment.

However, I agree with other pp that if the kid does need services and/or accommodations, it's probably prudent to tell the school AFTER they are accepted.

22:24 is doing all the right things. Mom knows best. Anybody dealing with a medical crisis with their child knows that the one person the Doctors want to hear from is Mom. Been there, done that.
If Mom says DC can do it and DC wants to do it, go for it! Yes, it is work. Children with aspergers and nvld have to work at the social...the good news is they can. Yes, accommodations at big 3.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

Yes, our children are everywhere. But no worries -- they won't pollute your children nearly as much as your bigotry will.

By the way, its illegal to reject someone solely because of their disability and there is no school in this city that has a blanket policy of rejecting children with SN.

That's not true. A private school that receives no public funding can legally accept or reject whomever they like just as any private organization (a country club, the Boy Scouts) can.

Yes, second poster is correct. Private organizations can reject anyone for any reason or no reason at all. Why do parents of SN kids try to use accusations of discrimination to get their kids in to schools that will not be right for them? Just like sensible parents of NT kids talk about "fit" so should parents of SN kids. It is very important to make sure your child will be at the school that best fits him or her, not just at a school that YOU desire because you want it. It is exactly the same, regardless of the way a child learns, you have to find the school that best fits your child, where s/he will be happy, comfortable, accommodated, AND challenged appropriately. "Gaming" the system by lying or concealing the truth about a child's learning style, because you plan to "make the school accommodate" your child after s/he is accepted, is a terrible way to treat your child. You are putting the child in a very uncomfortable situation.

I'm PP and maybe I was wrong about the discrimination part but I have never lied about my DS nor have I tried to game the system. I have no idea why you even raised the idea of "accusations of discrimination." if a school rejects a child because he isn't right for the school, thats not discrimination. If a school rejects a child who is the right fit SOLELY becuase of a diagnosis, that doesn't interfere with his functioing at school, thats discrimination. I don't need to be lectured about finding the right fit as we put an enormous amount of time, effort and money into determining which school would be the best fit for our DS, and he is at one where he is thriving. I highly doubt you even know what it means to have to go through such effort to find the right fit. Its incredibly pompous, arrogant and presumptuous of you to act like we don't know how to raise our children with AS. You have no idea and you really should keep your mouth shut if you can't keep your attitude in check.

All private schools make accommodations for some students. This includes the "big 3," all of them. They have untimed tests, for example. You don't know what you are talking about.

I am a poster from above and I said reasonable accommodations. I am not referring to Adam Lanza.... Who received no treatment.
You can discuss learning style, labels made by people and open to interpretation. Sounds like you have not spent much time in any reputable testers office. I suppose I should tell my relative that they should leave NE boarding school and do not bother with the Competitive college,some Ivy applications because DC did not get the memo that DC is to be a failure.... I'll get right on that not! And btw any school that has one of these kids knows it! As for colleges and universities ,document and not a problem. I do not think anyone accusing any school of discrimination, because if high functioning no need to say a thing. Those that want poster child be my guest, that is ok too!