Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

Actually, girls are more likely to be accrpted to prestigious colleges than boys, by an increasingly large margin.

No, they aren't....Here is an explanation from Chat GPT:
In general, acceptance rates for girls are lower than for boys at highly selective liberal arts colleges and Ivy League schools because admissions offices try to balance skewed applicant pools. However, at STEM-focused institutions, acceptance rates for girls are higher because more men apply.Because women currently make up nearly 60% of overall college enrollment, many highly selective schools receive significantly more applications from women. To maintain a balanced gender ratio, schools often evaluate female applicants more strictly, which results in lower admit rates for girls.Where Acceptance Rates Are Lower for GirlsAt Ivy League and traditional liberal arts schools, female applicants face steeper competition.Brown University: In a recent application cycle, the acceptance rate for women was roughly 4%, compared to 6.7% for men.Swarthmore College: Has historically accepted around 15% of female applicants versus 21% of male applicants.Tulane University: Female applicants significantly outnumber males, leading to a much more competitive process for women.Where Acceptance Rates Are Higher for GirlsAt schools specializing in engineering, technology, and science, male applicants vastly outnumber female applicants. To boost female representation, these institutions admit women at higher rates.MIT: Women are roughly twice as likely to be admitted as men, with an acceptance rate of about 11% compared to 5% for men.Carnegie Mellon: Has accepted approximately 37.5% of female applicants compared to 31.6% of male applicants.How to Check Specific SchoolsBecause admissions criteria and applicant pools vary heavily by major and institution, you can verify the exact gender breakdown for any university by reviewing its Common Data Set—a standardized report released by colleges that details the exact applicant and acceptance numbers for both men and women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

I would agree with you if referring to HYP. Why would they donate seven digit to anything outside HYp? Your DC will do fine with Emory and WashU.

Why would not they donate to schools like Emory or WashU? Especially if they already donates several million to the high school

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

I would agree with you if referring to HYP. Why would they donate seven digit to anything outside HYp? Your DC will do fine with Emory and WashU.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m begging to like the lottery admissions system they’re trying in Europe

But what would the baseline be to get into the system? We don't have national exams like A-levels. You can't use GPA because that isn't standardized across schools or even within a shcool, and if you did use it, GPA would quickly become meaningless as already bad grade inflation would become even more ridiculous.

GPA is already meaningless. Many schools have crazy grade inflation. I’m curious how Chinese get around this problem with one big exam.

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

Actually, girls are more likely to be accrpted to prestigious colleges than boys, by an increasingly large margin.

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

There are a million more fish in the sea. This is not the only "right" college for your kid. My kid is got into a 10% admission school, but there are many other schools he could have gone to that would have been equally good fits.

Widen your lens. Don't fixate on one college. That's what they want you to do but it doesn't serve your kid. This is your sign to seek many other alternatives in case this one doesn't pan out for the reasons you suggest. Also, don't do ED as you'll be in direct competition with other legacies, donors, recruited sports - all of who get locked in during early round and take up spots.

Anonymous wrote:I’m begging to like the lottery admissions system they’re trying in Europe

But what would the baseline be to get into the system? We don't have national exams like A-levels. You can't use GPA because that isn't standardized across schools or even within a shcool, and if you did use it, GPA would quickly become meaningless as already bad grade inflation would become even more ridiculous.

Correct

Eye roll troll.

This is such an obnoxious grab for attention.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

She basically had no chance anyway.

Why?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

Of course not, and it never has. It has never been the case that these shcools you covet have only and all of the top stat students. Never. That is group-think fueled by marketing.

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

She basically had no chance anyway.

Keep an open mind. This goes for parents and kids. There are unhappy students at HYPMS and happy people at colleges that none of us have heard of. It’s become a parenting competition but I don’t know what parenting prize is reserved for parents of T-10 admits. (The occasional “Wow” reaction from strangers? bumper sticker?)Try to focus on raising happy, healthy well-adjusted kids.

It's as if OP has forgotten that we live in a country that operates under capitalism.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

It depends on the college, whether you are at an elite (t10 nationally) feeder....what does "top stats" mean to you? What major? What ECs? What else?

Also, a legacy male applying to classics, who has a summer program at Paideia and Certamen is getting in early to Yale or Princeton if a donor/legacy.

+1 Legacy kids are not automatic admits anywhere. Legacy is a light thumb on the scale, that's it. The application has to otherwise be strong as well and likely strategic (unsaturated major focus etc.)