Anonymous wrote:Tbh this is not important to me. If you are in a hetero marriage and you say you are bi, I'm like "okay." It would be like someone telling me they married a tall thin person but are also attracted to short heavier people. Ok, good for you, but I don't care? That's your private business. Why are you making a thing about it?

I had a colleague who used to lecture me about "bi visibility" and truly I don't get it. Why does it have to be visible? If you wind up in a same sex relationship I think it's important that's accepted and no one is discriminated against, so that's different. But if you are cis and in a hetero marriage, why is it important that the rest of us "see" that you are bi? It just feels like attention seeking behavior to me at that point, like you need people to understand you're not just some boring straight person. But, friend, I hate to break this to you --you are still just some boring straight person. The fact that you *would* date someone of the same sex is meaningless.

Anonymous wrote:Tbh this is not important to me. If you are in a hetero marriage and you say you are bi, I'm like "okay." It would be like someone telling me they married a tall thin person but are also attracted to short heavier people. Ok, good for you, but I don't care? That's your private business. Why are you making a thing about it?

I had a colleague who used to lecture me about "bi visibility" and truly I don't get it. Why does it have to be visible? If you wind up in a same sex relationship I think it's important that's accepted and no one is discriminated against, so that's different. But if you are cis and in a hetero marriage, why is it important that the rest of us "see" that you are bi? It just feels like attention seeking behavior to me at that point, like you need people to understand you're not just some boring straight person. But, friend, I hate to break this to you --you are still just some boring straight person. The fact that you *would* date someone of the same sex is meaningless.

Anonymous wrote:I'm bi but I've been married to a man for 27 years, I'm very happy and I have no desire to relive my bi years. When I was actively bi I really enjoyed my experience with both women and men but I knew I needed to chose to live the life I wanted. I made the right choice for me. Since I met my husband I haven't met a woman who has led me to question my decision.

Anonymous wrote:I'm bi but I've been married to a man for 27 years, I'm very happy and I have no desire to relive my bi years. When I was actively bi I really enjoyed my experience with both women and men but I knew I needed to chose to live the life I wanted. I made the right choice for me. Since I met my husband I haven't met a woman who has led me to question my decision.

Anonymous wrote:I have a few female friends who are. One is recently married to a man, one is long-time married to a man, a couple are single. A friend is currently dating a bi man.

Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused by this question. The bi people I know are, like me, in monogamous relationships. I’m sure we all find people people that aren’t are spouse attractive but we don’t cheat on our spouses because we value our marriages. Why would this be more challenging for bi people?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. They're all married, mostly to opposite sex partners. I don't know what's tricky about it.

Yep, same.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. They're all married, mostly to opposite sex partners. I don't know what's tricky about it.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s all that being married to a passive temper tantruming ManChild, ramps up their T playing both roles in the household so they turn bi and find a cool woman.

HAHA
oh man thats a good one!

some were bi before the marriage to the man child -PS I can tell you that the bi str8 passing females I know married the biggest passive manchildren out there---i think its not by accident.

Anonymous wrote:It’s all that being married to a passive temper tantruming ManChild, ramps up their T playing both roles in the household so they turn bi and find a cool woman.

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Anonymous wrote:At least half the professional women I know I my circle are. This is a Northern Virginia set of professional feminine women from ages 35 to 50. Some are married and many are not. They do not outwardly advertise it. Many of these women are 8s, and 9s

At least! The married female bi bars be hopping in NoVA.

There’s such a thing as a married female bi bar in NoVA? Please share details. Asking for a friend.