Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 17:53     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:This is so sad. My exDH and his sister were similar, although their health issues escalated closer to midlife. Vacations were high-stress triggers for both of them. exSIL would frequently unilaterally cancel family vacations or disappear during them from the time she was in HS. exDh would disappear on our family vacations on “walks” or sort of go on strike during them and park himself somewhere that wasn’t our destination for the day or he would just retreat to the hotel. The latter was always the best case scenario.

It think it is a way of trying to cope with
the level of flexibility required to participate in a family vacation, and how that collides with neurodivergence and mental health issues and actual capacity for that coping.

I feel terribly for this family because it’s an impossible dynamic to explain to outsiders. During our divorce it was difficult to get anyone to understand the safety issues this behavior posed for our kids, and even more difficult to get things in place legally to prevent them from being involved in one of these escalations


I get it, my neighbor acts that way any time he's stressed, and his wife and kids live a difficult life. My husband, who is also on the spectrum, once had a similar breakdown during a road trip with my parents - in retrospect, I'm sure that trip was incredibly stressful for him. He also had a breakdown before attending a Bat Mitzvah. In recent years, he's gotten better, I'm not quite sure why.

I've found the Japanese and South Koreans to be very understanding of high-functioning autism, so I don't think this family will be less well understood over there than in America.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 17:53     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
My heart breaks for his family, and all those who’ve faced a similar situation.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 17:47     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So sad. Sometimes these things can be just an impulsive decision, which is frightening in and of itself.


If he bought a rope he's been planning it for a while.

Vacations are dangerous with deeply depressed people.

A vet we knew took his life on a Disneyworld trip...lots of people this year have done the same.


I went on a cruise several years ago and someone jumped off.


I think it’s because they feel like if they can’t feel happiness there, then they just can’t feel happy period. It just brings it all to a head.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:46     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
This is so sad. My exDH and his sister were similar, although their health issues escalated closer to midlife. Vacations were high-stress triggers for both of them. exSIL would frequently unilaterally cancel family vacations or disappear during them from the time she was in HS. exDh would disappear on our family vacations on “walks” or sort of go on strike during them and park himself somewhere that wasn’t our destination for the day or he would just retreat to the hotel. The latter was always the best case scenario.

It think it is a way of trying to cope with
the level of flexibility required to participate in a family vacation, and how that collides with neurodivergence and mental health issues and actual capacity for that coping.

I feel terribly for this family because it’s an impossible dynamic to explain to outsiders. During our divorce it was difficult to get anyone to understand the safety issues this behavior posed for our kids, and even more difficult to get things in place legally to prevent them from being involved in one of these escalations
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 21:26     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So sad. Sometimes these things can be just an impulsive decision, which is frightening in and of itself.


If he bought a rope he's been planning it for a while.

Vacations are dangerous with deeply depressed people.

A vet we knew took his life on a Disneyworld trip...lots of people this year have done the same.


I went on a cruise several years ago and someone jumped off.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 14:38     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
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Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.


Well, she is a plastic surgeon.


She isn’t. Stop spreading lies.


No one has provided proof one way or the other. I am going with what the first poster said.


Google is a thing. She works for a plastic surgery practice, she is not a surgeon.


Exactly! Not going to post the link but google her name and plastic surgeon - all the info will pop up. She’s a COO.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 14:28     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.


Well, she is a plastic surgeon.


She isn’t. Stop spreading lies.


No one has provided proof one way or the other. I am going with what the first poster said.


Google is a thing. She works for a plastic surgery practice, she is not a surgeon.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 11:46     Subject: Re:Missing Auburn student in Japan
This is sad for all. Sad that he couldn’t see another solution. Sad for the impact on his family. They will all be impacted for life and have to live with the memory of this family member making a choice to exit early from life, while on a special family trip, in such a public way.
I hope the younger brother will get through this.

Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 11:13     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
So incredibly sad.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 10:03     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.


Well, she is a plastic surgeon.


She isn’t. Stop spreading lies.


No one has provided proof one way or the other. I am going with what the first poster said.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 09:24     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Hoping people on this forum chose empathy and kindness. This is a tragedy all around.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 09:20     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
If it was an accident or foul play, it would have been mentioned. The silence indicates it was his choice to end things.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 09:14     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.


Well, she is a plastic surgeon.


She isn’t. Stop spreading lies.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 09:08     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.


Well, she is a plastic surgeon.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2026 08:38     Subject: Missing Auburn student in Japan
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mom is a plastic surgeon


That explains everything!


She looks wonky.


She’s a mother who has barely slept in over a week in worry and despair and you’re saying she looks wonky? It shouldn’t matter, but my first thought when I saw her Facebook video was wow She looks incredible for the mother of two college students.