I've wondered if girl parents simply don't supervise their phone use or social media. The amount of cringey boy-crazy boy-chasing behavior from girls (and completely disinterested boys) at our middle school is nuts.

Has no one ever encountered a mean girl in the middle school years?

Generally, I think cruelty and bad manners is more pervasive among girls these days. Boys are idiots. But girls are deliberate. There's a difference.

My son is sensitive, has never bullied anyone, the female teachers tell me he is one of the kindest boy they’ve had in class. The ADHD ignorant ill mannered groups of boys call him gay or worse.

Everyone who doubts boys really are this bad, needs to watch Adolescence on Netflix.

Boys are absolutely horrible today!

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I can play this game.

Honestly I see more rude girls than boys. Loud, whiny, shrieking, not following instructions (during group sports lessons or field trips). And rude and rough and not giving others a turn because “omgggg girl powerrrrrr!”

I know one girl who dumped a pail of sand on another kid at a playground. What kind of feral weirdo does that? Her mom relayed this story (with feral girl as the purported victim) and I was like Homer Simpson backing into the bushes.

I have both and of course their are complete miscreants of both genders but let’s not pretend boy moms have a chance of outdoing girl moms in the “your children exhibit depraved behavior bowl. “

Oh, I can play this game.

Honestly I see more rude girls than boys. Loud, whiny, shrieking, not following instructions (during group sports lessons or field trips). And rude and rough and not giving others a turn because “omgggg girl powerrrrrr!”

I know one girl who dumped a pail of sand on another kid at a playground. What kind of feral weirdo does that? Her mom relayed this story (with feral girl as the purported victim) and I was like Homer Simpson backing into the bushes.

Anonymous wrote:Go away, OP. I have only boys and I’ve never seen this behavior before.

I'm not sure what people are missing here but I would basically bet my retirement that the boy moms up in arms about OP making this gendered are totally misreading this. I am a "both" mom and OP reads as 100% boy mom who happens to have no experience with girls at all.

OP you’re part of the problem:

1) you think only boys are jerks
2) you tell other parents what to do without acknowledging your own failure
3) you didn’t tell the kid to leave your home
4)YOU RAISED EITHER A BRAT OR A WIMP WHO JUST SITS THERE WHILE A JERK BERATES HIS MOM

OP, you sound like my mom. Calling me to say I need to lecture my boys about x or y because she saw a random kid in Walgreens behave in an undesirable way.

Okay, mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Last night DS (7th grade) had a friend over after school, and he stayed for dinner. During dinner, I’m sorry, but this kid was just behaving in a way that was completely unacceptable. It wasn’t just bad table manners. He also said a lot of unkind things to me and DH, including saying my earrings were ugly and other things of that nature. This isn’t the only time something like this has happened with one of DS’s friends, either. I understand that it’s a difficult age, but I would never have dreamed of behaving this way when I was in middle school. I always feel so awkward disciplining someone else’s child, though! Parents of boys, PLEASE teach your sons some GD manners, because this is crossing the line. Completely. Okay, rant over.

Sounds like you’re raising a kid who gravitates to rude kids. What does that tell you?

This. It was not long ago that my son was in middle school and none of his friends ever acted like this. Nowhere close. All his friends who have always been polite and well-mannered.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my son's friend's used the f word when I was driving them in elementary school. I stopped at the next parking spot and turned around and said he would no longer be allowed in my car if he spoke like that again. He's 20 now, and still no cursing in front of me!

Jeez, that’s extreme. I want my kids friends to feel like they can talk in front of me without my policing them. You hear the best stuff when they are willing to talk in front of you!

I’m also not offended by the use of that particular f- word. If they use the n word, the r word or the other f word, then I’d have that conversation. I don’t care about off-color language but I do care about hurtful language.

+1

It's not my place to modulate the cursing of other kids. I'm not offended unless they are cursing AT someone or being mean or hurtful. Some kids in the backseat saying "That's f#king awesome!" ? Who GAF.

It’s such a common word I don’t know why anyone would judge a kid using it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a third grade teacher. Other things kids need to be taught and many aren't:

1. Don't ask an adult their age. Ever.
2. Don't tell an adult they "look tired" or "look sick."
3. In general don't ask nosy questions.

I do my best but I still just can't believe what has become of manners and decorum.

All these are a far cry from saying your earrings are ugly. Don't lump merely curious remarks with patently rude and unnecessary ones. OP had a very strange child in her house, and she needs to alert his parents. I've never heard any child that age be so rude.

+1 many are rude to their own parents etc but to a friend's parents is very unusual and not in a gray area.

OP turning this into a gendered PSA is also ridiculous.

Go away, OP. I have only boys and I’ve never seen this behavior before.

Rude kids don't get invited back. Not that complicated.

Some parents seem to not explain that it is important to be on your best manners when with other families. We definitely saw this from both boys and girls when our kids were younger. Not my job to teach these kids how to behave--they might get a "Pardon me?" from me, but the end result would be they are just not coming over for dinner again.

The parents are the ones who created the monsters, so it is not worth discussing it with them. Some parents think it dims a child's light to tell them "no" or insist they behave a certain way. Unfortunately, they don't realize that sort of parenting starts to limit social opportunities by middle school if not before. I just use natural consequences--no more invites.

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