Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… and the bottom one too. These are very casual. I’d wear to the beach or park. Not to attend a formal event.

I agree that they are casual.

My question is not should OP wear these to a graduation. I'm asking if the women who don't approve of spaghetti straps on women over 40 also disapprove of thicker strap dresses.

I'm 41 and like thicker strap dresses. I want to know if it's giving "41 year old with nice shoulders" or "mutton dressed as lamb."

I think the Pact one is fine. The Quince one looks a little juvenile to me, but it’s not the width of the straps so much as the overall cut and style of the dress.

— 45 year old

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who think spaghetti straps are not appropriate on older women do you also think thicker straps are inappropriate? How about the dresses below?

https://www.quince.com/women/100-european-linen-fit-flare-midi-dress?srsltid=AfmBOorRI2fV6kHLTz61jJNWTk3AYhAUnHx17UdiIbf-c3OWrf1P4LD1&color=moonstone-blue

[/url]https://wearpact.com/women/apparel/all%20dresses%20&%20skirts/fit%20&%20flare%20open%20back%20maxi%20dress/wc1-w2x-dbm[url]

I think this dress style is juvenile and would look funny on anyone over 40. Not bc of the straps, those are flattering, but bc of the overall fit and flare, length and neckline combo.

41 is pretty young and I think it would like fine on PP. I'm 53 and think spaghetti straps or thick straps or whatever are fine, but I wouldn't wear this quince dress because the short waist does make it read a little juvnile so I think it would not look good on me. With a different waist line and shape, I would wear something with those straps, though. I just don't see that big a difference between straps and a sleeveless dress -- your arms are out in both of them, so the only real difference is the area right below the clavicle.

… couldn’t care less…

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… and the bottom one too. These are very casual. I’d wear to the beach or park. Not to attend a formal event.

I agree that they are casual.

My question is not should OP wear these to a graduation. I'm asking if the women who don't approve of spaghetti straps on women over 40 also disapprove of thicker strap dresses.

I'm 41 and like thicker strap dresses. I want to know if it's giving "41 year old with nice shoulders" or "mutton dressed as lamb."

I really don’t care what you wear op, as you’re happy. It’s not an issue of approving or disapproving straps for other women. I don’t like wearing them myself. I could care less if others wear them or not.

I don’t like fidgeting with bra straps and I don’t like bra showing. The thicker straps are more manageable and forgiving, but even they need some workaround either fixing the strap to bra strap or also wearing strapless one. I’d wear them to a beach, or a casual outdoor restaurant while on summer vacation. That’s pretty much it.

My arms and skin are okay, but the issue for me is my middle aged weight gain has made me bottom heavy. I need my clothes to have more presence up top to balance things out a bit - spaghetti straps just emphasize how bottom heavy I am.

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who think spaghetti straps are not appropriate on older women do you also think thicker straps are inappropriate? How about the dresses below?

https://www.quince.com/women/100-european-linen-fit-flare-midi-dress?srsltid=AfmBOorRI2fV6kHLTz61jJNWTk3AYhAUnHx17UdiIbf-c3OWrf1P4LD1&color=moonstone-blue

[/url]https://wearpact.com/women/apparel/all%20dresses%20&%20skirts/fit%20&%20flare%20open%20back%20maxi%20dress/wc1-w2x-dbm[url]

I think this dress style is juvenile and would look funny on anyone over 40. Not bc of the straps, those are flattering, but bc of the overall fit and flare, length and neckline combo.

It just doesn’t look good on me any more. I think it looks juvenile on me, which seems silly to look like since I am old. Ha ha.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… and the bottom one too. These are very casual. I’d wear to the beach or park. Not to attend a formal event.

I agree that they are casual.

My question is not should OP wear these to a graduation. I'm asking if the women who don't approve of spaghetti straps on women over 40 also disapprove of thicker strap dresses.

I'm 41 and like thicker strap dresses. I want to know if it's giving "41 year old with nice shoulders" or "mutton dressed as lamb."

I don’t think most people here were not approving of spaghetti strap or even thicker strap dresses like you posted, more like we all want to be able to wear a regular bra or worry about getting cold in something like an indoor arena. I think the dress you posted is fine.

My mom has a friend who has always worn tube tops and spaghetti strap or strapless dresses, in her 50s/60s and beyond. Her arms are tone and she has a great figure, but her neck/chest arms are crepey, wrinkled, and spotted. To be honest, she looks like a cracked leather handbag, and it’s so much of that skin, that overall, it’s not a good look. It ages her for sure.

Anonymous wrote:… and the bottom one too. These are very casual. I’d wear to the beach or park. Not to attend a formal event.

I agree that they are casual.

My question is not should OP wear these to a graduation. I'm asking if the women who don't approve of spaghetti straps on women over 40 also disapprove of thicker strap dresses.

I'm 41 and like thicker strap dresses. I want to know if it's giving "41 year old with nice shoulders" or "mutton dressed as lamb."

… and the bottom one too. These are very casual. I’d wear to the beach or park. Not to attend a formal event.

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who think spaghetti straps are not appropriate on older women do you also think thicker straps are inappropriate? How about the dresses below?

https://www.quince.com/women/100-european-linen-fit-flare-midi-dress?srsltid=AfmBOorRI2fV6kHLTz61jJNWTk3AYhAUnHx17UdiIbf-c3OWrf1P4LD1&color=moonstone-blue

[/url]https://wearpact.com/women/apparel/all%20dresses%20&%20skirts/fit%20&%20flare%20open%20back%20maxi%20dress/wc1-w2x-dbm[url]

The top one is not something I’d wear to a graduation. This is beachwear.

For those of you who think spaghetti straps are not appropriate on older women do you also think thicker straps are inappropriate? How about the dresses below?

https://www.quince.com/women/100-european-linen-fit-flare-midi-dress?srsltid=AfmBOorRI2fV6kHLTz61jJNWTk3AYhAUnHx17UdiIbf-c3OWrf1P4LD1&color=moonstone-blue

[/url]https://wearpact.com/women/apparel/all%20dresses%20&%20skirts/fit%20&%20flare%20open%20back%20maxi%20dress/wc1-w2x-dbm[url]

I'm at the age where I don't buy anything I have to wear with a strapless bra. Too much trouble.

Sleeveless dresses I can wear a regular bra with, sure.
Usually after you get over 40, the chest needs some support.

I don’t want my bra showing. I don’t want to wear a strapless bra.

I don’t care about showing or not my arms.

If the graduation is inside, it gets pretty chilly with ac, so would need to cover up one way or another.

And I don’t particularly like spaghetti straps to begin with. Always prefer with sleeveless (but not spaghetti straps) or short sleeves.