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Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

This "nobody should wish me Happy Mother's Day" is super petty. I bet your spouse does! It's not like infants do anything or even know that we're their mothers. I wish Happy Mother's Day to colleagues that I'm close to and friends, who do the same. When someone wishes you Merry Christmas! it's not because they think you're the Christ! Or Happy Easter because they think you're an Easter Bunny. You can do what you want, but please don't post this insanity as if it's something normal and acceptable. Your MIL KNOWS that you're not her mother or her daughter. You sound socially awkward.

Seems you didn't read what this lady wrote...It sounds like the issue is with this MIL and having to focus on her that day despite her being cruel, and not about other mothers at all.

If a person is socially awkward, everything may sound cruel if misconstrued. In fact the more one obsesses about holiday wishes, instead of reciprocating, the more socially awkward it becomes as the years go by. You take the PP as an objective story teller and I don't. A MIL who does not like or never liked her DIL DOES NOT WISH her a Happy Mother's Day, even performatively! There are plenty of MIL, mine among them, who would not be caught dead wishing their DILs a Happy Mother's Day! They're too self-absorbed and self-important for that, after all, the Mother's Day is about them and not the DIL! The fact that the MIL actually reaches out on this holiday, speaks for itself.

My inlaws despise me. Yet I receive a birthday card and Mother's Day card every year, signed "Love, First Name and First Name." SMIL buys cards for the family once a year, signs, stamps, and addresses them all and files them in an organizer. So loving and warm. A card can be meaningul but just sending one is not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

This "nobody should wish me Happy Mother's Day" is super petty. I bet your spouse does! It's not like infants do anything or even know that we're their mothers. I wish Happy Mother's Day to colleagues that I'm close to and friends, who do the same. When someone wishes you Merry Christmas! it's not because they think you're the Christ! Or Happy Easter because they think you're an Easter Bunny. You can do what you want, but please don't post this insanity as if it's something normal and acceptable. Your MIL KNOWS that you're not her mother or her daughter. You sound socially awkward.

Seems you didn't read what this lady wrote...It sounds like the issue is with this MIL and having to focus on her that day despite her being cruel, and not about other mothers at all.

If a person is socially awkward, everything may sound cruel if misconstrued. In fact the more one obsesses about holiday wishes, instead of reciprocating, the more socially awkward it becomes as the years go by. You take the PP as an objective story teller and I don't. A MIL who does not like or never liked her DIL DOES NOT WISH her a Happy Mother's Day, even performatively! There are plenty of MIL, mine among them, who would not be caught dead wishing their DILs a Happy Mother's Day! They're too self-absorbed and self-important for that, after all, the Mother's Day is about them and not the DIL! The fact that the MIL actually reaches out on this holiday, speaks for itself.

Anonymous wrote:Friday - My house gets deep cleaned by my cleaner.

Saturday - DH looks after the kids. The lawnmower guy mows and spruces up the yard. I go with MIL for pedicure, massage and a panera lunch/costco lunch (hey yes MIL and I are both cheap). Selfies. Kiss, kiss, hug, hug. Then I come home and sleep. Dinner is Chinese takeout. Order enough dishes so that Sunday dinner is also covered.

Sunday - Kids snuggle with me. Give me a card and a cup of tea in bed. Kiss, kiss, hug, hug...photo. DH and kids take out MIL and FIL for brunch. Cards (I sign too), photos. Kiss, kiss, hug, hug. I continue to bed-rot. Take a bath. Eat Costco salad. DH comes back... we all watch TV, eat Chinese leftovers.

If my parents are around...I follow the same script. Except my mom and dad get added to the celebrations and I may then decide to attend the sunday brunch. No separate celebrations with both sets of parents etc.

Over 3 days...my MD gifts are -
- a clean house, spruced up lawn
- bed-rotting and warm bath
- Chinese takeout for two nights
- Bed tea
- Massage, pedicure and lunch with the moms.
- Photos shared on our group chat
- Having my DH keep my kids out of my hair for two days.
- Giving a break to my MIL (and my mom), spending some time with her/them doing something that I like (massage/pedicure), having no woman in the family cook or take care of the kids.
- Not getting flowers so that I don't have to take care of it.
- Do not want any other gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

This "nobody should wish me Happy Mother's Day" is super petty. I bet your spouse does! It's not like infants do anything or even know that we're their mothers. I wish Happy Mother's Day to colleagues that I'm close to and friends, who do the same. When someone wishes you Merry Christmas! it's not because they think you're the Christ! Or Happy Easter because they think you're an Easter Bunny. You can do what you want, but please don't post this insanity as if it's something normal and acceptable. Your MIL KNOWS that you're not her mother or her daughter. You sound socially awkward.

Seems you didn't read what this lady wrote...It sounds like the issue is with this MIL and having to focus on her that day despite her being cruel, and not about other mothers at all.

If a person is socially awkward, everything may sound cruel if misconstrued. In fact the more one obsesses about holiday wishes, instead of reciprocating, the more socially awkward it becomes as the years go by. You take the PP as an objective story teller and I don't. A MIL who does not like or never liked her DIL DOES NOT WISH her a Happy Mother's Day, even performatively! There are plenty of MIL, mine among them, who would not be caught dead wishing their DILs a Happy Mother's Day! They're too self-absorbed and self-important for that, after all, the Mother's Day is about them and not the DIL! The fact that the MIL actually reaches out on this holiday, speaks for itself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

This "nobody should wish me Happy Mother's Day" is super petty. I bet your spouse does! It's not like infants do anything or even know that we're their mothers. I wish Happy Mother's Day to colleagues that I'm close to and friends, who do the same. When someone wishes you Merry Christmas! it's not because they think you're the Christ! Or Happy Easter because they think you're an Easter Bunny. You can do what you want, but please don't post this insanity as if it's something normal and acceptable. Your MIL KNOWS that you're not her mother or her daughter. You sound socially awkward.

Seems you didn't read what this lady wrote...It sounds like the issue is with this MIL and having to focus on her that day despite her being cruel, and not about other mothers at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

This "nobody should wish me Happy Mother's Day" is super petty. I bet your spouse does! It's not like infants do anything or even know that we're their mothers. I wish Happy Mother's Day to colleagues that I'm close to and friends, who do the same. When someone wishes you Merry Christmas! it's not because they think you're the Christ! Or Happy Easter because they think you're an Easter Bunny. You can do what you want, but please don't post this insanity as if it's something normal and acceptable. Your MIL KNOWS that you're not her mother or her daughter. You sound socially awkward.

Anonymous wrote:I block MIL for one day so I don't have to see her "Happy Mother's Day" text (I'm not her mother, or her daughter) and won't see if she calls. It's my one day a year of not having to deal with her fake BS.

She's called me overweight to my face after I had an extreme health issue that required heavy-duty steroids. She's told me she likED (past tense, liked) me "before I had kids and changed." She asks me for my family recipes after deliberately telling me I can't have a certain cookie recipe because "I'm not family and it's a family recipe." So I feel fully justified in blocking her for one damn day.

Anonymous wrote:I do find this very petty. Grown ass women getting all worked up over a made up holiday to sell cards and flowers. Who cares?