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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

This is true because I'm the above poster. Married to a doctor that abused me. It was hell and I was afraid he would kill me. I now live in a gated community and I have a sophisticated alarm system.

I hope Virginia laws can be changed.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you're safe now.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

This is true because I'm the above poster. Married to a doctor that abused me. It was hell and I was afraid he would kill me. I now live in a gated community and I have a sophisticated alarm system.

I hope Virginia laws can be changed.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

The part they need to change is about "home abandonment." Fine, make people wait, but don't penalize their assets for leaving to do so.

Can someone point me to the Virginia law(s) that make it financially risky to move out of the house before the divorce is finalized? What an insane game of gotcha for a couple in a contentious divorce. I hate everything about this story.

I don’t know the law but a friend of mine moved out of the marital home while her ex was away on a business trip and he claimed she had abandoned the home (as in abandoned her financial claim to the home) and the judge agreed, so the ex got the house and didn’t have to buy her out. This was 10 years ago in NOVA.

I think you’re conflating the laws you must be separated for a specific amount of time before filing for divorce. If you move out you don’t automatically forfeit your assets the only time you forfeit potentially is if “When it could be considered abandonment
A court might see it as desertion if you:
Leave without explanation and cut off contact
Stop contributing financially when you’re able to
Leave your spouse (or children) in a difficult situation without support
Intend to permanently end the marriage without going through proper separation steps
Big exception: leaving for a good reason
Even if your spouse claims abandonment, it’s usually justified (and not held against you) if you left because of:
Cruelty or unsafe conditions
Serious conflict making cohabitation unreasonable
Practical takeaway
If you’re planning to move out and want to stay on solid ground:
Make it clear: “I’m separating” (text/email is fine)
Keep contributing fairly to bills or support
Stay involved with your kids (if applicable)
Don’t vanish or cut off communication abruptly

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

NY Post reporting a judge had ordered Fairfax out of the home by April 30.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

Virginia has had 6 months for at least 25 yrs if you have no kids.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

In some states it’s against the law to file for divorce while pregnant.

Law are in place to protect men.

I don’t agree with that law, but how does it only protect men? Couldn’t it just as easily protect a pregnant woman from being abandoned by her spouse?

Anyone should be able to divorce their spouse at any time, for any reason. No one should be compelled to remain in a marriage.

And they can. The waiting periods are for no-fault divorces. You still have the ability to seek an at-fault divorce with no statutory waiting period (getting on the court docket is another matter).

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

This poor woman was probably so stressed out the last few months of her life.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

The part they need to change is about "home abandonment." Fine, make people wait, but don't penalize their assets for leaving to do so.

Can someone point me to the Virginia law(s) that make it financially risky to move out of the house before the divorce is finalized? What an insane game of gotcha for a couple in a contentious divorce. I hate everything about this story.

I don’t know the law but a friend of mine moved out of the marital home while her ex was away on a business trip and he claimed she had abandoned the home (as in abandoned her financial claim to the home) and the judge agreed, so the ex got the house and didn’t have to buy her out. This was 10 years ago in NOVA.

Seeing Virginia lawmakers posting thoughts and prayers-style messages together with a domestic violence hotline makes my blood boil. Do something meaningful. Pass legislation that facilitates a woman’s safe exit from a bad marriage without requiring her to forfeit her assets, for starters.

I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

The part they need to change is about "home abandonment." Fine, make people wait, but don't penalize their assets for leaving to do so.

Can someone point me to the Virginia law(s) that make it financially risky to move out of the house before the divorce is finalized? What an insane game of gotcha for a couple in a contentious divorce. I hate everything about this story.

I don’t know the law but a friend of mine moved out of the marital home while her ex was away on a business trip and he claimed she had abandoned the home (as in abandoned her financial claim to the home) and the judge agreed, so the ex got the house and didn’t have to buy her out. This was 10 years ago in NOVA.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

In some states it’s against the law to file for divorce while pregnant.

Law are in place to protect men.

I don’t agree with that law, but how does it only protect men? Couldn’t it just as easily protect a pregnant woman from being abandoned by her spouse?

Anyone should be able to divorce their spouse at any time, for any reason. No one should be compelled to remain in a marriage.

Do you know what no fault divorce is? It’s exactly what you have described.

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Anonymous wrote:Was there known financial, mental health or other issues with his tenure, or with him?
Sad.

Yes, he was accused of sexual assault when he was LG, but stayed in his position, but he was let go from his law firm. He was also in the middle of a divorce but still living in the family home. I’m sure there were financial issues.

I remember the evidence from back then.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

The part they need to change is about "home abandonment." Fine, make people wait, but don't penalize their assets for leaving to do so.

Can someone point me to the Virginia law(s) that make it financially risky to move out of the house before the divorce is finalized? What an insane game of gotcha for a couple in a contentious divorce. I hate everything about this story.