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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s you, OP.

Of course you do weirdo. How dare op not enjoy chaos and destruction in her home.

Anonymous wrote:Agree OP! I also think most parents of 3+ kids just have a more relaxed parenting style so the kids aren’t watched as closely.

Anonymous wrote:One reason families with less, well mannered and older kids get overwhelmed is because their homes aren't set up for chaos.

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Anonymous wrote:I love this thread because I can just feel the anxiety rise when I enter with all my boys. The utter chaos and physicality just causes some peoples blood pressure to visibly rise. I watch those folks chasing anxiously after their own child and think, Jesus, what’s the worst that can happen if he goes screaming down the hallway.

When you are outnumbered, your ability to control goes way down. That lack of control over your children allows more space for simply joy. It’s really fun to scream and yell and then they tire each other out and go to bed! I am enjoying my kids childhoods and find that I am way less stressed than parents of fewer children who have a much stronger need to feel they are doing everything right.

I have an only and I never go anxiously chasing after my kid because it is totally unnecessary. She's very trustworthy and independent and I know she'll check in with us before doing something risky or new.

Big families stress me out when they come over because their kids aren't like that. There's always at least one kid who will do something crazy that I cannot imagine my kid ever doing even in our own home much less in someone else's home, without even asking. Like moving furniture, going through drawers, trying to climb things that my kid would know not to climb.

I also don't think it's fun to scream and yell. I have tons of fun as a parent but I don't like screaming. People like that??? I taught my kid not to scream because it hurts people's ears and feels stressful. Do your kids also scream and yell in restaurants and movie theaters and at school? Cool.

You have one risk averse girl and you like quiet. There is nothing wrong with the loud and rambunctious boys or their parents. It is just different, and you just don't get it and never will. What do you do with your quiet, risk averse daughter that is "tons of fun"?

There is something wrong when parents don't teach kids that you can't be rambunctious everywhere.

My well behaved (not quiet, just to screaming) only and I do stuff like build first, climb trees, make up dances, watch movies, sing and play music, go hiking. Lots of fun, no screaming. She also knows when she's in someone else's house, she needs to be on best behavior and ask before doing things like moving or climbing on furniture, writing on surfaces, etc.

Some of you are confusing manners with being boring or no fun. This explains a lot about how people behave in public.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is reading like a lot of families with 1-2 kids who are triggered by larger families.

Think it boils down to their fear they aren’t doing parenting right rooted in a need to control. Manifests in posting anonymously about scary big families coming over and being wild. [/quote

Or its smugness about doing parenting correctly and raising kids to be calm rational individuals. I’m in that category! Some larger families can do this successfully- normally with a SAHP and additional help. MOST larger families do it poorly and raise terror kids.