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Anonymous wrote:Would he agree to use some sort of coaching service for this? Long-term planning is a skill he should work on. You may also need to let him fail a bit. He has showed you that he can do this when motivated.

Why can’t the parents help with teaching the kids organizational skills and practicing it until they become perfect?

I thought the same thing until we hired a coach! And now I see why it’s important to let coaches coach and parents be parents. It’s a team effort but having someone from the outside - the coach - step in and guide can really change the dynamic of the relationship in a good way! At least it did in our case. Things are calmer around here & our relationship with our daughter has been less tense since she’s started working with the coach. The coach has been helping her with organization, planning , her time management and so on. She’s more receptive when it comes from the coach not just mom/dad. It’s like your spouse can’t be everything - lover best friend, workout partner, caregiver, counselor, manager, emotional shoulder, etc. In some ways but it’s important to have other people in those roles too. Friends, family, co workers, neighbors, - that’s just my view.
For my daughter the EF coach has been a game changer! For us too! Hope that helps. Good luck!

Do you mind sharing the EF coach information? I think this could be helpful for my son and we’ve been talking about the idea of getting a coach. Txs!

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OP here with an update.

He got a entry-level summer job.

And, marvel of marvels, instead of trying to find an internship not entirely related to his major, he is doing a research project with a respected professor in his field!

I had to crack the whip for him to email professors and send reminders when they didn't respond, because he was worried about being rude, but after a month of emailing, he found someone willing to help.

I am so relieved. Now I have to make sure he actually does the work...

I think either he's going to become more responsible as he matures. Or he's just going to come crashing down when I get too old and decrepit to advise him. But at least I'll have pushed him as far as I can.