Anonymous
03/16/2026 20:25
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Do men give birth?
Is giving birth always a requirement for maternal leave?
Short term disability is not leave, it is an insurance policy. It's money they give you during a period when you are not able to work due to a temporary disability. Generally, medical guidelines recommend people who have given birth to wait 6-8 weeks before going back to work. This is not applicable to people who have not given birth.
Some employees and some states have family leave policies which allow employees (whether or not they have given birth) to take long term leave to care for a newborn/adopted/foster child/elderly parent. Similarly, the federal FMLA law entitles certain employees to take unpaid, job protected leave based qualifying reasons that include the birth or adoption of a child. For these policies the sex of the employee is irrelevant
Anonymous
03/16/2026 20:11
Subject: Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:You can leave the job and get better insurance or negotiate better salary
Still won’t get STD though
Anonymous
03/16/2026 20:03
Subject: Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
You can leave the job and get better insurance or negotiate better salary
Anonymous
03/16/2026 20:02
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
You should always plan … you never know when you would need STD.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:41
Subject: Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Oh you aren't even married and having a kid with this guy? OP you've got MUCH larger issues than just short term disability. You need to get married ASAP.
Probably, unless the guy would be problematic as a father.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:40
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Some get paternal leave and can also use STD. So yes, to answer your question.
How does a non birthing parent qualify for short term disability?
+1. The non birthing parent did not have an event that caused them to become temporarily disabled.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:37
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Some get paternal leave and can also use STD. So yes, to answer your question.
How does a non birthing parent qualify for short term disability?
How does a non birthing parent automatically get leave but a mother doesn’t?
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:31
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Some get paternal leave and can also use STD. So yes, to answer your question.
How does a non birthing parent qualify for short term disability?
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:29
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Do men give birth?
Is giving birth always a requirement for maternal leave?
When a company uses short term disability for paid maternity leave then yes. A mother who adopts, or uses a surrogate, or is the partner who doesn’t carry the child in a two mom family does not get paid leave. It’s absolutely wrong but this is how it works.
Even with birth, sometimes like IVF or PCOS can potentially get you denied. It’s crap.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:27
Subject: Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Everybody talking around the main issue of a women being in the workforce during her childbearing years. Of course it causes things to go bananas.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:24
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Do men give birth?
Is giving birth always a requirement for maternal leave?
When a company uses short term disability for paid maternity leave then yes. A mother who adopts, or uses a surrogate, or is the partner who doesn’t carry the child in a two mom family does not get paid leave. It’s absolutely wrong but this is how it works.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:21
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Some get paternal leave and can also use STD. So yes, to answer your question.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:17
Subject: Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Oh you aren't even married and having a kid with this guy? OP you've got MUCH larger issues than just short term disability. You need to get married ASAP.
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:12
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Do men give birth?
Is giving birth always a requirement for maternal leave?
Anonymous
03/16/2026 19:10
Subject: Re:Expecting and I just found out I don't qualify for short term disability. America is not pro-life/pro-birth
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, as a PP wrote, "What you're describing is bad and the US should offer more." Absolutely true.
That said, within the confines of the system that the OP describes, she isn't entitled to coverage. Consider this hypothetical:
A family doesn't have homeowners insurance. They are on vacation from March 1 through March 31. While on vacation, they decide to purchase homeowners insurance, and do so effective March 15. However, unbeknownst to them, their house burned down on March 10. Are they entitled to coverage for the fire?
Of course not. Insurance companies don't insure retroactive risks, other than in extremely unusual circumstances.
It stinks, for sure. But all of you complaining that OP has been treated unfairly don't know what the eff you are talking about.
Pregnancy shouldn’t be a “risk”. The fathers who get to take paternity leave don’t have to wonder if their period can potentially affect their coverage. Maternal healthcare in the US is absolute crap.
Do men get short term disability for pregnancy/birth?
Do men give birth?