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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

Don't do this.

Twenty bucks says this PP doesn't have kids or at least college age kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

OP I get it. My college son is bringing 4 friends home for spring break next week and I'm worried about the same thing - feeding them! But please try to lean into being thrilled. It says something that our boys, excuse me, young men, are comfortable and happy enough at home that they want to share it with their friends.

Anthing is fine. They literally will not give an f. Source: Raised 3 college boys.

Girls will be a different story. I raised two of them and have DILs now.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

Asking =/= expecting

The kid doesn’t have anywhere else to go. That reason doesn’t exactly scream entitled taker to normal people.

You sound insane.

He is from out of the country (that’s what was stated). Money = a place to go. If his parents could afford to send him out of the country for college, you can bet he always has a place to go. He’s not homeless. He could have 1. stayed at school. Yeah he would probably be mostly alone but he is an adult, he would be absolutely fine. 2. Stay in a hotel somewhere else if he wanted. 3. stay at an airbnb if he wanted. It’s one thing to stay a night or two. It’s a whole other thing to stay a week.

So yeah I guess i’m insane because if this was my kid I probably wouldn’t even let him stay at someone else’s family house for that long-because I wouldn’t feel right about it. And if I did i’d be paying the host, generously so she wouldn’t have to cook for my kid.

I don't really want to discuss the life of a child not my own on here but he has no money and cannot go home now. He was supposed to stay with people the entire week but they have taken off for a spontaneous vacation and now he is stranded near-ish us (about an hour) and very far from college. So his plans fell through and I don't blame him at all for needing a place to stay and obviously he can stay with us if need be but I am still extremely stressed out about it.

Get prepared meals, cheap frozen stuff that just needs to be baked and other very easy things for the week. You are not a bed and breakfast. Get sandwich stuff (your carb hating son can just eat the meat and cheese but maybe his friends actually will want the bread). Make it easy. If your son or anyone else has a problem they can figure out their own meals.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

Asking =/= expecting

The kid doesn’t have anywhere else to go. That reason doesn’t exactly scream entitled taker to normal people.

You sound insane.

He is from out of the country (that’s what was stated). Money = a place to go. If his parents could afford to send him out of the country for college, you can bet he always has a place to go. He’s not homeless. He could have 1. stayed at school. Yeah he would probably be mostly alone but he is an adult, he would be absolutely fine. 2. Stay in a hotel somewhere else if he wanted. 3. stay at an airbnb if he wanted. It’s one thing to stay a night or two. It’s a whole other thing to stay a week.

So yeah I guess i’m insane because if this was my kid I probably wouldn’t even let him stay at someone else’s family house for that long-because I wouldn’t feel right about it. And if I did i’d be paying the host, generously so she wouldn’t have to cook for my kid.

I don't really want to discuss the life of a child not my own on here but he has no money and cannot go home now. He was supposed to stay with people the entire week but they have taken off for a spontaneous vacation and now he is stranded near-ish us (about an hour) and very far from college. So his plans fell through and I don't blame him at all for needing a place to stay and obviously he can stay with us if need be but I am still extremely stressed out about it.

My DS is on the opposite coast and his local-ish friend’s family has taken him in on holidays, with flight complications, and even on vacation! We’ve sent gifts, had him buy dinner, given money for food, and paid for flights, though I’m sure it doesn’t actually compensate.

He said he’d do the holiday at school, and the mother told him that he would absolutely not.

It’s a gift knowing that someone is opening their house to my baby. Thank you to the families who do this!

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

Asking =/= expecting

The kid doesn’t have anywhere else to go. That reason doesn’t exactly scream entitled taker to normal people.

You sound insane.

He is from out of the country (that’s what was stated). Money = a place to go. If his parents could afford to send him out of the country for college, you can bet he always has a place to go. He’s not homeless. He could have 1. stayed at school. Yeah he would probably be mostly alone but he is an adult, he would be absolutely fine. 2. Stay in a hotel somewhere else if he wanted. 3. stay at an airbnb if he wanted. It’s one thing to stay a night or two. It’s a whole other thing to stay a week.

So yeah I guess i’m insane because if this was my kid I probably wouldn’t even let him stay at someone else’s family house for that long-because I wouldn’t feel right about it. And if I did i’d be paying the host, generously so she wouldn’t have to cook for my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

Asking =/= expecting

The kid doesn’t have anywhere else to go. That reason doesn’t exactly scream entitled taker to normal people.

You sound insane.

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Anonymous wrote:My just-graduated DS is living with us for a year before he moves and he's had at least 2 to 3 weekends a year for the past couple of years where we have a household of boys. I buy breakfast food, set up beds, and nothing else! They usually go out, or I'll tell my DS to order something. If it's nice out, DS will grill. So many boys grilling these days. They also will go to the grocery store and liquor store on their own.

On one occasion I had 4 of them at home while DS was at work, and I said "here are the car keys so you can go grab lunch," which they did.

Don't sweat it!

--Fellow introvert

I think I'll never not find it awkward and unpleasant. My ds does grill sometimes but weather not cooperating with that now where we are. My mom was a perfect hostess who did not work and excelled at all domestic things, so I think I put a lot of pressure on myself to entertain properly. It's like I can't really let go of the fact that hosting = meals and drinks and total comfort and entertainment. And no matter what I do I fall way short of the standard I have in my head.

It's college boys. The bar is never lower.

I'm the first, pp. Agreed! Stop comparing yourself to your mom, your way is just as valid as hers. I don't even cook, and I don't care. So, does that make me less than other moms who do? Absolutely not. What if you could enjoy it 10%? As a pp said, your DS is bringing them home because he feels it's a safe and welcoming space -- so relish that!

Honestly I don't think that's why: It's more like crap I'm stuck with this mom and she sucks but my friend needs a place to crash. In fact ds is mad at me now because he was unclear with me about plans and I asked and he could tell I am stressed (I am in office working and really went minimal contact because I know it's obvious I am stressed!!) and he said I was "making him feel bad" and to "stop stressing out". Yet again he has been zero help and has not set up for them. I am just sick of it all and wish I could just leave for the evening.

You’re being SO unnecessarily hard on yourself. Please just buy breakfast stuff and then give him $$ for takeout. Tell him the is the plan and tell him you look forward to seeing him. Go out to dinner with DH or sit in your room and watch movies on a laptop or … leave for the evening!

I think DS is frustrated because he knows you’re beating yourself up with no good reason. I’m really sorry you’re dreading it. If I knew you IRL I’d have you spend the night here and watch something trashy!

How about this:
—Buy berries, bananas, croissants, eggs, sausage, milk, cereal, yougurt granola, bread for tons of breakfast options
—Buy chips, salsa, guac, apples and if you want to go all out pre-made sandwiches at WF
—Leave out some bedding and let them put it together
—Give DS some $$ if you can afford it for takeout/groceries
—Decide what your plan will be
—Greet the friends and tell them to make themselves at home
—Give DS a hug and then extricate yourself to do your plan and stop the negative self-talk.

You’ve got this OP! I’ll be thinking of you!

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

expecting to stay at one of your college friends’ house for more than a night or maybe two when you haven’t even met the parents is…something. And OP said her son gave info about why one of the kids needs to stay, and that specifically was what I was referring to. I’m sorry but this is a big ask.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

This is a bizarrely aggressive conjecture. Thus far this kid hasn’t actually asked OP for a d@mn thing. Her SON asked if this kid could stay at her house. That’s it. That’s all we know.

Honestly some of you are just miserable people who will nevertheless act shocked when your adult kids don’t come around or call very often.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

Your response is why I suggested therapy. This is entirely a YOU problem. You’re being asked to let a bunch of college boys crash at your house for a few days, and YOU are putting some sort of nebulous “hosting” burden onto yourself. This is anxiety.

When your son says to stop stressing out maybe believe HIM. This really doesn’t need to be a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.

So say no. period. Your son’s friend can’t stay. I’m sure he can find a hotel or airbnb if he doesn’t want to go back to school. I’m sure he has parents that can send him the money to pay for it. You said he is from out of the country. His parents are paying for him to go to an American college. I’m sure they can also pay for him to stay somewhere for a week. Also, if I knew someone was hosting my child for more than like one night I would be offering to pay for all the meals for the entire time my kid was there (not just my kid’s but for the whole family). I swear some people are just takers and have no shame at all about it.

Who doesn’t like carbs? This is beyond odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Roast chicken. Grilled chicken thighs. Steak with a baked potato bar. Taco bar. Slowcooker a pork but and make bbq pulled pork sandwiches. Basically make a protein centered dish.

I’d also stock up on eggs. My college student sons eat a ton of eggs for breakfast.

Yes I have eggs. I'm just upset because this is very last minute and one of them might stay for days. I hate having guests so much and especially because I now have to rush and do a bunch of things and still work all day. Would you all feel this way or be thrilled? I am a reluctant hostess, it's a nightmare for me.

Your son is in college. Have him go to the grocery store and get what he wants to eat. They can grill or you can cook for them but this shouldn't be a stress for you, he's an adult so he can be the host here.

He's not home now because he went to get the friends. He has not prepared the room, and he's not grocery shopped. Of course he said it's no big deal, whatever, they just need a place to crash...But ultimately that is not how I am comfortable hosting and I know i'd be judged if I did nothing at all.

You think a bunch of college boys are going to judge you on your hostessing? And if they did, you’d actually care?

I think you could do with some therapy or maybe an edible or ten.

I don't like hosting or people in my space. It is SO stressful for me and my family.does.not.get.it. They also pretend to be helpful while not being helpful so I end up feeling (I hate how overused that term is but it fits) gaslit which makes me more anxious.