Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad died over 35 years ago. We probably went once a year for the first few years. My mom passed about 5 years ago and buried with him and I went regularly until the cemetery got dangerous. Her body is there so that’s why I go. I also like to be sure that the plot is still there and looks right since we paid for it.

So do what you want and don’t compare to others.

How did the cemetery become dangerous?

Robberies, petty crime. And it’s a popular cemetery in the area.

Most cemeteries are peaceful places to wander and ponder, even if you don't have a loved one there.

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Everyone is different so we all should do what gives us peace, burying them in earth, putting them in a fancy casket and marble grave, burning them in cremation fire, having them aqua mated with water pressure, visiting them in cemetery, keeping their remains in an earn on fireplace, just keeping them in heart and missing them, whatever you feel comfortable with is good for you, others can find their own ways.

Anonymous wrote:I do when I'm in town but if I happen to miss doing it, I don't feel guilty. I do find it emotionally moving when I do visit. I think of them though, day to day, always. A gravesite does not change that.

+1 I've never had a strong desire to visit graves of other family members, but it's moving when I visit my mom. Even though she's not there and I don't feel any sort of presence, it was literally the last time I saw her so that's a draw for me.

A bit off topic but we cremated my sister. When I opened the box, I was surprised at how big the cremains were. I assumed it would be more granular like ashes but it was more the consistency of aquarium rocks.

Yes on birthdays and holidays.