Anonymous wrote:We are both 35 years old and have been married for 5 years. We have a 7-year-old son together. My husband is a great guy, a wonderful dad, and all that, but I just don’t feel the same passion in our relationship anymore. We have a lot of intimacy, and it’s nice, I do enjoy it, but it used to be so much better. I don’t get that tingling feeling or butterflies when I’m with him like I used to.

We’ve talked about it. He has tried to bring that spark back, but I just can’t feel it anymore.

I’m considering divorce, but I feel guilty because he’s a good man and hasn’t done anything wrong. At the same time, I don’t want to stay and regret my decision later in life. It seems like it would be better to end things now while we’re still relatively young and can start over, right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

I’m sorry, you are a mom. Your happiness does not matter. Smile and get over it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you have a good husband & this is something that you should never take for granted.

Don’t believe me?
Read all the threads in this forum!
Ha!!

Marriage (especially after a certain amount of years!) can begin to feel stale & the notion of butterflies + rainbows + unicorns may seem like a pipe dream……
That giddy, schoolgirl feeling we feel in the beginning rarely lasts the duration of a marriage.

It is common at times to yearn for more - - to even convince ourselves that the grass is truly greener on the other side - - but that isn’t always the case.

I would try to appreciate what a great husband you have and if this is not enough > perhaps you two can go to counseling.
I advise you not to throw the towel in so fast since you do share a child together plus he really has not done anything wrong at this point.

Then if you still are not happy and fulfilled, you can move on and seek a divorce.
At least you will be able to do so knowing that you gave it a shot the best way you knew how.
Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:All I can say is I'm grateful every single day that my husband's exwife did this. I got the BEST partner out her crazy midlife destruction. She had a rotating door of boyfriends that didn't last and has been alone for a long while - still as self centered and miserable due to lack of unrealistic expectations as ever.

Their kids prefer our home as it's stable, happy, calm, predictable.

Anonymous wrote:We are both 35 years old and have been married for 5 years. We have a 7-year-old son together. My husband is a great guy, a wonderful dad, and all that, but I just don’t feel the same passion in our relationship anymore. We have a lot of intimacy, and it’s nice, I do enjoy it, but it used to be so much better. I don’t get that tingling feeling or butterflies when I’m with him like I used to.

We’ve talked about it. He has tried to bring that spark back, but I just can’t feel it anymore.

I’m considering divorce, but I feel guilty because he’s a good man and hasn’t done anything wrong. At the same time, I don’t want to stay and regret my decision later in life. It seems like it would be better to end things now while we’re still relatively young and can start over, right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With a kid, you do not divorce unless there is:
Abuse, Addiction or Adultery

I’m considering waiting until our son is older, but what about my own happiness? Should I really just endure the next decade? Don't I deserve to experience joy and passion? Plus, I don't want to show my son a bad example by remaining in a relationship that makes me unhappy. He'll notice that.
I'm feeling torn.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are both 35 years old and have been married for 5 years. We have a 7-year-old son together. My husband is a great guy, a wonderful dad, and all that, but I just don’t feel the same passion in our relationship anymore. We have a lot of intimacy, and it’s nice, I do enjoy it, but it used to be so much better. I don’t get that tingling feeling or butterflies when I’m with him like I used to.

We’ve talked about it. He has tried to bring that spark back, but I just can’t feel it anymore.

I’m considering divorce, but I feel guilty because he’s a good man and hasn’t done anything wrong. At the same time, I don’t want to stay and regret my decision later in life. It seems like it would be better to end things now while we’re still relatively young and can start over, right?

You would upend your child’s life because of passion? Why did you bring another human being into this world to put them thru that? There are many reasons to divorce-this is not one of them. Grow up