Anonymous
03/14/2026 20:10
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you are a 5ft 5 relatively
unattractive man with a decent 6 figure job (300-400k, early 30’s) and attractive women at your level professionally aren’t interested in you (for good reason, they have better options) but you do get a decent amount of interest from professional women you don’t find very attractive, plus women who are attractive but don’t have much of a career. Think server, retail worker in her 20’s who is pretty cute.
Who would you recommend going for?
Totally shallow post, but we live in a shallow world.
Be very shallow and go for the one with the bigger boobs.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 16:37
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
I tried this.
It didn’t work.
It didn’t work.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 16:30
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Don't overlook taller women if they are interested. I ended up dating my 5'6" dh because men my height 5'9" and taller seemed to want very little to do with me.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 15:09
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:My father was 5'5, Spanish heritage but born in US, charming, intelligent, wrote poetry and songs, worked as a First Mate on a cruise liner. My 5'8" mother was smitten and engaged within 2 weeks. I am 5'7".
Spanish or mestizo? I mean Spaniards aren’t that short overall
Anonymous
03/14/2026 15:07
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Some of the same women who turn down OP when he's mid 30s and they're early 30s or late 20s may be a lot more infested in 5-10 years. A ticking biological clock can have a real impact on what a woman wants.
Yes, he should look into late 30s women as I said before
Anonymous
03/14/2026 14:59
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:I would pick attractive women!
That way you balance each other out. You have enough money to have a nice lifestyle. Enjoy dating the women who are cute.
Who cares if they don’t have big careers? Most women end up scaling back after kids regardless, so it’s a wash. At least if you go for the women who are hot, you’ll have a cute attractive partner.
The kids are cuter too.
However there needs to be some sort of prenup or other ways to protect the high income and assets
Anonymous
03/14/2026 12:59
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:I would pick attractive women!
That way you balance each other out. You have enough money to have a nice lifestyle. Enjoy dating the women who are cute.
Who cares if they don’t have big careers? Most women end up scaling back after kids regardless, so it’s a wash. At least if you go for the women who are hot, you’ll have a cute attractive partner.
Not really. Women who make 200k do not scale back if their spouse makes 300k. Women who make 60k do scale back.
And what happens when she is no longer hot? If she was not disciplined enough to stay in school what makes you think she will be disciplined enough to keep her looks?
Anonymous
03/14/2026 11:04
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
The women in those sites are… yuck.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 10:51
Subject: Re:Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
I have a friend who recently divorced and he's short, but great personality. OLD did not work well for him, I think since most women set height filters. In person, he did quite well since then his personality really showed off well.
Also try sugar dating sites. They're obviously more money-focused but I know multiple men who ended up in long-term relationships, one even got a wife out of it!
Also try sugar dating sites. They're obviously more money-focused but I know multiple men who ended up in long-term relationships, one even got a wife out of it!
Anonymous
03/14/2026 10:36
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.
You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.
Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.
If that were true it would be equally true in his workplace where the women actually know how successful he is. They’re not interested, and OP is confusing professional friendliness for romantic interest which is intensely cringe.
You’re making the mistake of assuming I’m meeting these women irl at their jobs. I’m meeting them on dating apps. It’s weird how you automatically think I’m trying to flirt with waitresses at their jobs
OP, I think you should try to meet women in real life. I'm good friends with a short guy and he has a very pretty GF who is also highly successful and before that he with another very pretty professional woman. He did meet them in real life so I think that takes away the prejudice that people have on the dating apps and lets personality come through.
I agree. I think you will do better meeting people IRL through interests and friends.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 10:34
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
I would pick attractive women!
That way you balance each other out. You have enough money to have a nice lifestyle. Enjoy dating the women who are cute.
Who cares if they don’t have big careers? Most women end up scaling back after kids regardless, so it’s a wash. At least if you go for the women who are hot, you’ll have a cute attractive partner.
That way you balance each other out. You have enough money to have a nice lifestyle. Enjoy dating the women who are cute.
Who cares if they don’t have big careers? Most women end up scaling back after kids regardless, so it’s a wash. At least if you go for the women who are hot, you’ll have a cute attractive partner.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 10:22
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:decent 6 figure job (300-400k
Lmfao. The median salary in the US is $62,600
75% of the people here lie to soothe their own insecurities. The percent of people with 400,000 incomes is 1.7% according to the census.
Op is much more likely to be a single, fat, dumpy 46 yo old lady making $54,500 as a records clerk at AU.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 09:27
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.
You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.
Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.
If that were true it would be equally true in his workplace where the women actually know how successful he is. They’re not interested, and OP is confusing professional friendliness for romantic interest which is intensely cringe.
You’re making the mistake of assuming I’m meeting these women irl at their jobs. I’m meeting them on dating apps. It’s weird how you automatically think I’m trying to flirt with waitresses at their jobs
OP, I think you should try to meet women in real life. I'm good friends with a short guy and he has a very pretty GF who is also highly successful and before that he with another very pretty professional woman. He did meet them in real life so I think that takes away the prejudice that people have on the dating apps and lets personality come through.
PP coming back to say that if were shallow and saw these women you'd think they also have "better options." But my friend is a great guy so I personally think they are lucky to have met him. Be confident in what you can offer OP.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 09:24
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.
You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.
Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.
If that were true it would be equally true in his workplace where the women actually know how successful he is. They’re not interested, and OP is confusing professional friendliness for romantic interest which is intensely cringe.
You’re making the mistake of assuming I’m meeting these women irl at their jobs. I’m meeting them on dating apps. It’s weird how you automatically think I’m trying to flirt with waitresses at their jobs
OP, I think you should try to meet women in real life. I'm good friends with a short guy and he has a very pretty GF who is also highly successful and before that he with another very pretty professional woman. He did meet them in real life so I think that takes away the prejudice that people have on the dating apps and lets personality come through.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 09:06
Subject: Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income
Anonymous wrote:decent 6 figure job (300-400k
Lmfao. The median salary in the US is $62,600