I'm in my mid-40s and think this sounds lovely.

Anonymous wrote:I would be grateful I got a thank you note at all.

The bride and groom expect people to shell out hundreds of dollars per person and can't be bothered to write a note? I'll keep that in mind, after all, I have one year after the wedding to send a gift.

I got one too except no handwritten anything! After travel, hotel, clothes and the wedding gift totalling thousands I expected better.

Anonymous wrote:I am Team Thank You Note every time, OP. It’s lazy and rude not to express gratitude after someone comes to your wedding!

An even better card would have included a photo of the guest + the bride/groom. Or of their table. Would have required more work, sure..

OH FFS. No thanks. How about no photos at all?

I would be grateful I got a thank you note at all.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Who TF cares?

+1. I'm glad you have such an easy life op

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Anonymous wrote:Not in my circle. Embossed/engraved monogram stationary (new initials to show off) is typical.

in that circle, I guess the bride could have delegated the thank you note writing to a hired hand

Why would “the bride” be the only one sending notes? My husband sent the thank you notes to the people who were closest to him; I sent the notes to those who were closest to me.

What if there’s no bride at all, but two grooms? GASP! Never in *your circle,* right?

Anonymous wrote:Not in my circle. Embossed/engraved monogram stationary (new initials to show off) is typical.

in that circle, I guess the bride could have delegated the thank you note writing to a hired hand

Anonymous wrote:I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

as the (paying) parent, I say amen to this. But also, DD and future SIL have said "NO GIFTS". So there will be no TY note drama.

I hope these pointless and EXPENSIVE traditions die with the Boomers. As a millennial, I don’t need a thank you, especially for a wedding gift. The open bar was my thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:The pre-printed lines do sound lazy.

+1. Yuk

Did OP handcraft their gift or pick something off the registry?

Didn’t receive thanks for wedding or shower gifts to niece, but she’s an a$$.

I’m notorious for getting half way through my thank you lists and not finishing, so I have some sympathy. Thankfully my own kids are pretty good at thank yous, though I know they’ve missed some too.

At the same time, if I send something across the country, I have no way of knowing it arrived. Then awkwardly ask parents of giftee.i have had companies send the order to the wrong place, so it’s good to have enough information to make it right if necessary.

At least with the post card you know they have what you gave them. (And no grumpy brother in law walked off with the cards full of cash. Where did we read about that? )

I went to an out of state wedding in early October and all I got was an automated email from the store registery acknowledging the gift immediately after I sent it. No one else in my immediate family got one either and we are annoyed. Pretty obnoxious given the wedding was a bit of a disaster in several ways for guests and hospitality. And yet - Those 13 matching bridesmaids dresses and 4 different bridal wedding dresses looked great in all the photos with the themed dance floor and bars. And the couple had a great luxury cruise afterwards according to FB pics. But no thank you note!

Not in my circle. Embossed/engraved monogram stationary (new initials to show off) is typical.

When I got married in 1999, part of the photographer's package were thank you notes with a small inserted picture of us ---- this was typically for the 80s and 90s in my family. No issue with the post-card photo here!

I haven't received any cards as you've described, but I think as long as there was something acknowledging the specific gift, I'd be fine.