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Anonymous wrote:If you can find a way to drift away and not name him on the birth certificate, OP, you should. You don’t want a lying creep like this in your life and it just takes his nagging mom hearing a redacted version of his story to decide you’re the bad guy and to convince him to fight for custody.

For this reason, maybe OP should press criminal charges.

He knew. He didn't disclose. He recklessly endangered her health and the health of the baby.

I wouldn’t press charges proactively but I would document the crap out of the situation and keep it in my back pocket in case he tried for custody of any kind. Op, you don’t need a divorce and that’s fortunate, but you do need a consult with a family law attorney to figure out how to best protect your rights and your baby’s rights. Find someone who specializes in custody vs straight up divorce litigators. No mediation nonsense, you want an attorney. And you need to get a will in place and think about who to designate as a legal guardian.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can find a way to drift away and not name him on the birth certificate, OP, you should. You don’t want a lying creep like this in your life and it just takes his nagging mom hearing a redacted version of his story to decide you’re the bad guy and to convince him to fight for custody.

For this reason, maybe OP should press criminal charges.

He knew. He didn't disclose. He recklessly endangered her health and the health of the baby.

Anonymous wrote:OP - make sure you have the baby in whatever state you see yourself living in long term so he can’t try and make you stay here w custody issues after the baby is born.

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Anonymous wrote:I give him a modicum of credit for going flaccid instead of risking the baby's life by passing it to OP. Let's hope he cheated and caught it recently enough that OP doesn't have it.

He may have already passed it!!! How do you not understand this?

But she doesn't know yet, so at least, I guess, he had the decency to not sleep with her, knowing this. This suggests to me it's recent, which makes him cheating scum but it leaves a chance she didn’t catch it. I hope so.

We’ve had sex. It’s been infrequent but we’ve had sex, even on Saturday when he couldn’t stay erect.

Anonymous wrote:Herpes is contagious right before the lesion surfaces and until the skin is healed. I had a years long relationship with someone that had herpes and never contracted it. Did a lot of reading in regards to pregnancy.
It’s best to check in with your doctor on specifics related to pregnancy. If you are infected they might want you to have a c section.

I’m sorry this happened. Really dishonest and hurtful:harmful of him no matter the circumstances.

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Anonymous wrote:His lying is deeply troubling. You are not being overly dramatic.

+1 He's had it for years but he never looked at the lab report? I call BS on that. The dr would've seen the results and called him.

He didn't want to tell you, full stop. He couldn't get erect because he knew he would have to eventually tell you because you are now pregnant, and this could put the baby's health in danger.

Did you get yourself tested?

Wednesday - I have my anatomy scan then, so I’m going to tell my OB what’s going on and get tested.

thinking good thoughts for you, OP.

FWIW, a friend of mine got gonorrhea from a guy before she had kids. She now has two healthy kids - 20 and 15.

How are you this stupid?

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Anonymous wrote:Which version of it? One version is very common, something like 75% of peopel have it. HSV-1 I think?

That isn’t the venereal disease

News flash

you can get HSV-1 on your genitals just like you can get it on/in your mouth. Just because you can get HSV-1 from innocent contact as well as sex doesn’t make it any less of a venereal disease. Use google, it’s free.

Please write like an adult. Use your language skills to make an emphasis. Only teens do the stupid “News flash” and if you are going to do it, at least use a colon.

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Anonymous wrote:Which version of it? One version is very common, something like 75% of peopel have it. HSV-1 I think?

That isn’t the venereal disease

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Which version of it? One version is very common, something like 75% of peopel have it. HSV-1 I think?

That isn’t the venereal disease

News flash

you can get HSV-1 on your genitals just like you can get it on/in your mouth. Just because you can get HSV-1 from innocent contact as well as sex doesn’t make it any less of a venereal disease. Use google, it’s free.

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Anonymous wrote:His lying is deeply troubling. You are not being overly dramatic.

+1 He's had it for years but he never looked at the lab report? I call BS on that. The dr would've seen the results and called him.

He didn't want to tell you, full stop. He couldn't get erect because he knew he would have to eventually tell you because you are now pregnant, and this could put the baby's health in danger.

Did you get yourself tested?

Wednesday - I have my anatomy scan then, so I’m going to tell my OB what’s going on and get tested.

thinking good thoughts for you, OP.

FWIW, a friend of mine got gonorrhea from a guy before she had kids. She now has two healthy kids - 20 and 15.

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Anonymous wrote:Which version of it? One version is very common, something like 75% of peopel have it. HSV-1 I think?

That isn’t the venereal disease

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Anonymous wrote:I give him a modicum of credit for going flaccid instead of risking the baby's life by passing it to OP. Let's hope he cheated and caught it recently enough that OP doesn't have it.

He may have already passed it!!! How do you not understand this?

But she doesn't know yet, so at least, I guess, he had the decency to not sleep with her, knowing this. This suggests to me it's recent, which makes him cheating scum but it leaves a chance she didn’t catch it. I hope so.

We’ve had sex. It’s been infrequent but we’ve had sex, even on Saturday when he couldn’t stay erect.