Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 21:00     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.


Its perfectly fine to have an adult only wedding. You should have your own baby sitting arrangements anyways, go enjoy the wedding as a carefree couple yourselves.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:55     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Who knows what they mean but your kid is.young enough to bring.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 00:39     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A one year old. I'd bring the baby.


If it is intended to be a no kids wedding, it’s extremely rude to bring a child.


It’s extremely rude to invite someone (a sibling no less) without their 1 yr old to an out of state wedding.


Yep, it is. People do this when they want to keep numbers/costs down but still want gifts. It's a rude gift grab.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 00:38     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
If you don't want to go, this is the perfect excuse.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 00:31     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
I would bring my one year old in this case.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 23:31     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A one year old. I'd bring the baby.


If it is intended to be a no kids wedding, it’s extremely rude to bring a child.


It’s extremely rude to invite someone (a sibling no less) without their 1 yr old to an out of state wedding.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 23:27     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.


Don’t ask. Take your baby with you. Don’t traumatize a 1 year old.


Traumatize? Are you always this unhinged?

OP, absolutely ask as it is extremely rude to assume and just take the child.


It’s what’s best for the child. The wedding is out of state. Op would have to leave her child for a few nights or hire a sitter in another town that the baby doesn’t know, or fly in and accommodate a sitter that the baby knows.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 22:28     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:A one year old. I'd bring the baby.


If it is intended to be a no kids wedding, it’s extremely rude to bring a child.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 22:22     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
A one year old. I'd bring the baby.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 22:22     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Definitely ask.

My guess is no kids because they are worried about kids getting attention.


Doubtful. It's always about money. Kids were $$$ at my wedding.


Op's kid will be one. No cost at that age.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 22:21     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:We got a Save the Date for a family wedding addressed to "The Larlo family" but then it says no children on the card. Our kids are 21 16, and 15, so I don't know who is actually invited.


Bring your kids. They mean no toddlers.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 22:19     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.

So all of their siblings got to have CF weddings, but now because theyre the youngest they can't? GTFOH with that shit.

I'd wager that yes, the invite is for you and your husband only.


Where does it say the siblings had CF weddings?
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 17:41     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
It’s his brother, just ask.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 16:49     Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
If invitation says Mr. and Mrs. Smith, then it's no kids. Your kid is NOT Mr. nor Mrs. Smith. So are invitations which say no kids, even if the invitation says family. Your 21 yo is already an adult and his own "family unit". I suppose the OP doesn't want to ask as it would show they don't know basic manners.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2026 16:48     Subject: Re:Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Make plans as if it is a no kids wedding. If when the actual invitation arrives it says The Smith Family, take the baby and cancel whatever childcare you tentatively scheduled. No need to overthink it.