Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the trolls, OP.

They've been home with their kids for a week and can't handle it.

Yup, ignore them. Hating on a rich 24yo young women who graduated from an Ivy and spends her days doing what she loves is their favorite activity.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much is this trust fund?

Over 50m but less than 100.

Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the trolls, OP.

They've been home with their kids for a week and can't handle it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH, his brother, and sister all have trust funds. He and his brother worked anyway, and worked hard. They have both been successful. His sister refused to work. She’s a piece of work, like the child who never grew up.

I think of trust funds as something that someone at some point worked really hard to build. They’re there for safety and to pass down, to make life easier, but not to just blow through aimlessly.

The line that you are open to working is weird. Working isn’t something you just sign up for, like a gym membership. You have to actually build a career, and that takes work. Unless you mean you’re going to work at Banana Republic or Starbucks or someplace like that.

+1

The issue is that OP is taking a "well earned break" from the workforce at the ripe old age of 24. And OP's free time activities don't seem to include anything meaningful, such as continuing education, volunteer work, helping care for a relative, etc.

OP, unless a man is looking for a SAHM, and that's also your desire, you are not the best catch. Of course if you are very attractive, you could be a trophy wife. If you lead with your trust fund, you could attract gold diggers. But overall, you really should focus on creating a more purposeful life.

Anonymous wrote:I think of you as a bougie welfare queen living off the work of others.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, what do you do all day?

I graduated from an Ivy League school and am just taking a well-needed break. Hobbies including traveling, golf, Pilates, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone will have a different opinion ..
Most prob see it as either a flex or turn off.

Anonymous wrote:I met a guy on Instagram and we went on two dates. On the second date he asked about my work. I said I’m taking a break for now, which is true. Later it came out that I’m financially independent due to family money / a trust fund.
His tone immediately changed. He made snide comments like “must be nice not to have to work” and implied I must have an easy or unmotivated life. It didn’t feel playful — it felt judgmental.
After the date he continued calling and texting me, but I felt uncomfortable enough that I ended up ghosting and blocking him.
I’m not flashy, I live a normal life, and I’m not opposed to working in the future. I just didn’t expect this reaction from this guy who is quite successful himself.
So I’m genuinely curious — is being a “trust fund baby” a turn-off when dating? Or did I just meet the wrong guy? What do men really think of women like me?

Anonymous wrote:I met a guy on Instagram and we went on two dates. On the second date he asked about my work. I said I’m taking a break for now, which is true. Later it came out that I’m financially independent due to family money / a trust fund.
His tone immediately changed. He made snide comments like “must be nice not to have to work” and implied I must have an easy or unmotivated life. It didn’t feel playful — it felt judgmental.
After the date he continued calling and texting me, but I felt uncomfortable enough that I ended up ghosting and blocking him.
I’m not flashy, I live a normal life, and I’m not opposed to working in the future. I just didn’t expect this reaction from this guy who is quite successful himself.
So I’m genuinely curious — is being a “trust fund baby” a turn-off when dating? Or did I just meet the wrong guy? What do men really think of women like me?