Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Why is it consumerism? We’re going to a concert in February and calling it date night.

Anonymous wrote:I actually love the day after Valentine’s Day……

I love going to the store & seeing all that chocolate 🍫 candy on sale!

Yum!

Same

Family our child babysits for literally just texted asking if they're avail to babysit on Valentines day so they can go out for dinner.

I also appreciate the reminder because we’re busy. Ordered a gift and will pick up a card this weekend.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.

OP here. I can read your spouse’s mind 99% of the time.

- hire a sitter
- make a plan to get a meal
- write a nice card
If you are planning to do it a different day, then communicate that.

Other than that:
Women: get your spouse something sexual
Men: give your wife something romantic

I don't know who you think you're speaking for, but I'm a woman and I don't want something romantic for Valentine's Day.

OP here. Really? If your husband, gave you something romantic, say, a love poem he wrote for you, and he gave it to you on Valentine’s Day, you would tell him you didn’t want it? Why?

I didn't say I would reject something from him, I'm saying I don't want it, as in I'm not looking for it.

My husband writes me very nice things (not poems, honestly I'm not into poetry so that's fine with me), and gives them to me throughout the year. I'd rather he do that when he feels like it than be forced to do it on a particular day of the year.

But if you want to keep arguing for the sake of arguing, go ahead. I'll stay in my happy marriage and make it to the other side of February 14 just fine, regardless of what happens on that day.

OP here. Wait wait. This isn’t a list of what you should EXPECT your spouse to do for you. This is a list of things you could do for your spouse.

I thought you were telling me that I shouldn’t have told men to do something romantic because their wives would reject it.

What’s the point of saying that you aren’t on the lookout for a romantic gift from your husband? Who is?

Is English not your first language? Where did I say that anyone would REJECT something on Valentine's Day? I don't want my spouse to do anything for me on Valentine's Day, hence, neither of us need your PSA. If he decided he wanted to go out to dinner that night, I would normally say that's fine, except that this year we have something for our kids that day and wouldn't be able to do dinner. And frankly, on another year, I'd probably be less inclined to go out that night because it'll be more crowded than normal and it's not worth the hassle. But then, we eat out together, just the two of us, plenty of times throughout the year, so I don't need to have someone force me to do it on a date that isn't convenient.

Also, are you new here? There are always tons of posts, including some comments in this thread, where women most definitely are on the lookout for a romantic gift from their husbands. So you asking who is is...shockingly stupid.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm...I think I will throw a party on Friday, the 13th. - for single and not-single friends.

Catered food, booze and games.

I'll come!

Hell, throw the party on Valentine's Day and I'll come even though I'm married because I don't need to spend that day with my husband to try to convince myself that we have a good marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Well, thank you for your reminder.

I (DW) have made reservations for dinner for two. Don't want wine, perfume, chocolates, lingerie, jewelry, BOBs, teddy bears, cards or flowers.

I have also scheduled getting my house deep-cleaned on 13th Feb. Maybe on 7th, I will get a mani-pedi, color and haircut.

Out of curiosity, what do these things have to do with Valentine's Day? I also have a house cleaning scheduled for February 13, but in a million years it would never occur to me to tie that to Valentine's Day. Same with getting a manicure, etc. on February 7.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm...I think I will throw a party on Friday, the 13th. - for single and not-single friends.

Catered food, booze and games.

I wish I was friends with you . I haven’t been to an adult party that wasn’t a shower in a long time.

Anonymous wrote:Well, thank you for your reminder.

I (DW) have made reservations for dinner for two. Don't want wine, perfume, chocolates, lingerie, jewelry, BOBs, teddy bears, cards or flowers.

I have also scheduled getting my house deep-cleaned on 13th Feb. Maybe on 7th, I will get a mani-pedi, color and haircut.

That’s great! Have a good time!