Anonymous wrote:Not sure what compels people to do this…I had a cousin who visited the area for the holidays and rented an Airbnb. Thanksgiving dinner was at our place but when we went to visit them he gave us a tour like he owned the property…it was the oddest thing. I think it’s a competition for some people.

LOL this is a great story.

My relatives are like that, from my parents generation. They expect to see the whole house but honestly it's nothing special. And usually various rooms that aren't part of the main entertaining and messy.

OP your MIL was rude to insist. It's your house.

When we did a massive renovation - tearing down walls, new windows and extra windows added to two rooms, paint throughout, new closets, 4 complete bathroom renovation, mouldings and trims, carpets, wood floors, new hardware everywhere, lights...our neighbors were interested and so were our friends. We did a house tour when we called people over for a huge dinner party.

Truthfully, we basically corrected many shoddy design elements that made people realize how much extra space was hidden behind the walls and a better layout could enhance the useability, space and aesthetics of the rooms. Some of my neighbors had the same model of home and they were shocked to see how some slight modifications could alter the look and feel of rooms.

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Anonymous wrote:We built our house and after we first built it some people asked for a tour. In that context, I didn’t find it weird. Some people are interested in home design. If you go through this process, there are hundreds of details and decisions and it can be interesting to see what others did.

Now that she lives in the home a while no one asks and we never offer.

We did a big renovation during the pandemic that included tearing out rooms and walls to annex an adjacent apartment. Most people who have since visited us want to see everything and hear the details the first time they see it. I think it's a pretty common NYC thing to imagine making your apartment bigger when the place next door goes up for sale, and it's fun to see how it works in reality.

I redid my closet because one of my poles fell down. One of my friends knew this and wanted to check it out. We had people over and I was surprised how interested everyone was in my closet. Everyone came with me to our master bedroom and then also looked at our bathroom too. Most people have never been in our room before. Guess they were curious.

Yuck

I guess.

Seems like a nosy person request or order.

I would certainly never ask if I could get a “tour” or someone’s house.

Not sure what compels people to do this…I had a cousin who visited the area for the holidays and rented an Airbnb. Thanksgiving dinner was at our place but when we went to visit them he gave us a tour like he owned the property…it was the oddest thing. I think it’s a competition for some people.

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Anonymous wrote:We built our house and after we first built it some people asked for a tour. In that context, I didn’t find it weird. Some people are interested in home design. If you go through this process, there are hundreds of details and decisions and it can be interesting to see what others did.

Now that she lives in the home a while no one asks and we never offer.

We did a big renovation during the pandemic that included tearing out rooms and walls to annex an adjacent apartment. Most people who have since visited us want to see everything and hear the details the first time they see it. I think it's a pretty common NYC thing to imagine making your apartment bigger when the place next door goes up for sale, and it's fun to see how it works in reality.

I redid my closet because one of my poles fell down. One of my friends knew this and wanted to check it out. We had people over and I was surprised how interested everyone was in my closet. Everyone came with me to our master bedroom and then also looked at our bathroom too. Most people have never been in our room before. Guess they were curious.

I give a quick tour, more to show them where everything is, like where to get more linens, snacks, etc.

My relatives from another country really enjoyed the house tour.

Our house is over 10,000sf.

Anonymous wrote:We built our house and after we first built it some people asked for a tour. In that context, I didn’t find it weird. Some people are interested in home design. If you go through this process, there are hundreds of details and decisions and it can be interesting to see what others did.

Now that she lives in the home a while no one asks and we never offer.

We did a big renovation during the pandemic that included tearing out rooms and walls to annex an adjacent apartment. Most people who have since visited us want to see everything and hear the details the first time they see it. I think it's a pretty common NYC thing to imagine making your apartment bigger when the place next door goes up for sale, and it's fun to see how it works in reality.

We built our house and after we first built it some people asked for a tour. In that context, I didn’t find it weird. Some people are interested in home design. If you go through this process, there are hundreds of details and decisions and it can be interesting to see what others did.

Now that she lives in the home a while no one asks and we never offer.

I don't offer but have had people ask many times. I'm happy to show them around---family or otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:Who is curious about a house their relatives live in so much they ned a tour. This is very MC.

It’s weird but I’d give a quick lay of the land but in general guests are to stay out of home offices and other’s bedrooms.

Yes if we have a good relationship.

I have if asked. I love my home and spent lots of time decorating. It’s beautiful and I don’t mind showing it off.

I remember when I moved into a new apartment after leaving my children's father my ex MIL came by to pick up the kids and insisted on a tour. 2 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment 800 sq feet.