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Anonymous wrote:Op, how do YOU feel about it? That is the question. You raised her, and it sounds like you raised her well. You have earned this time to be an empty nester. There is no shame in enjoying an offspring-free home. But if you genuinely prefer to have her at home, no shame in that either. It sounds like she doesn’t need to be at home, and you have no obligation to let her. So decide what would make you happiest, and go from there.

OP said she has two other kids in high school and another in college. It is not an empty nest.

Anonymous wrote:Op, how do YOU feel about it? That is the question. You raised her, and it sounds like you raised her well. You have earned this time to be an empty nester. There is no shame in enjoying an offspring-free home. But if you genuinely prefer to have her at home, no shame in that either. It sounds like she doesn’t need to be at home, and you have no obligation to let her. So decide what would make you happiest, and go from there.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

Yeah nothing like running around at 35 trying to find a man with no previous family or no quirks, and to have kids before expensive interventions are needed

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

Yeah nothing like running around at 35 trying to find a man with no previous family or no quirks, and to have kids before expensive interventions are needed

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

Yeah nothing like running around at 35 trying to find a man with no previous family or no quirks, and to have kids before expensive interventions are needed

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

Anonymous wrote:DD lived with roommates from ages 22-24 to avoid living alone, she thought she was ready for more at around 24.5, but she ended up feeling more isolated than she expected. She isn’t avoiding any adult responsibilities, and moving back home won’t impact her relationship. She knows not to move in with a boyfriend until engagement or full on marriage, and her boyfriend knows that’s her plan. She’s always really honest with us, nothing bad is happening—she just wants to be closer to family for a while before she fully transitions into her own family life when the time comes. -OP

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

+1
Especially just so that she does not move in with her parents to please DCUM harpies.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

Life is long. No need to rush into marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her about long term plans? I've had friends move back in with their parents when getting engaged (sometimes with SO), to save money for downpayment or wedding, and then buying a house. Does she have some concerns about losing her job? Is she applying for new jobs and doesn't want to lock herself into a lease? Doesn't feel ready to move in with SO, or perhaps SO is thinking of moving/changing jobs?

It has nothing to do with finances. She has a very stable job. She just wants to live at home.

Sure she WANTS to. But WHY?

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 25 (26 in Feb), has a good full-time job, is financially independent, and has finished her masters. She has a great social life, and a nice long term boyfriend. She’s been living on her own for a while, but now she says she prefers living at home and wants to move back in with us.
It took me by surprise at first because I thought she’d be really set on having her own space by now. But she says she feels more comfortable here and wants to live with us. We love having her around, but we do want her to be independent.

Has anyone else had an adult kid decide to move back in at this age after living alone, How did it go, and how did you navigate that situation? What should we should consider before making this decision?

She and her BF should move in together and get engaged.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems fine, honestly. Some people don't like living alone and roommates can be got it miss.

I would have her pay some amount if rent and deposit it in a HYSA that she will get as a gift towards a down payment or wedding when she moves out.

I would also discuss household contributions before hand, like cooking, cleaning, keeping rooms tidy, etc. A HS or college kid I'd feel comfortable saying "put your laundry away and you have to help with dinner." A 25/26 year old I would not want to *have* to tell her these things and would be resentful if she fell into teenage behavior of slacking in those areas, so I'd want to feel comfortable that she understands the difference between being a kid in our house and being a contributing adult.

+1 I would ask for financial contributions even if I didn’t need it.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t see the issue with that.

Sounds like she’s responsible.